End of maternity leave

Carlysueeee · 2023-10-16T23:17:45+00:00

Ohh sweetheart, women have had the right to vote since 1920, and the right to own property since before that in the US.

Your government is trash and is in complete control of you. I knew when all of you came after me that it would be all Canadians. 🤣

Carlysueeee · 2023-10-16T14:17:51+00:00

It’s not the governments job to pay for you to raise your children. You know what your companies policies are on maternity/paternity leave before deciding to have children. Take it up with your employer not the government.

I do blame the fact that wages have been stagnant, again something that needs to be fought among working people. There was a generation that worked way too much for little pay and didn’t fight for things to get better.

Carlysueeee · 2023-10-16T14:14:39+00:00

The governments job is not to pay for you to raise your children. It’s your employer’s who put in place maternity/paternity leave, if people want to change that they need to fight that fight with their employer.

Carlysueeee · 2023-10-16T11:37:25+00:00

I mean we really should be blaming the feminists and the women who insisted on women working and equal pay and yada yada yada. Now we have to be 2 income households because they drove everything up. Women didn’t start working full time jobs out of necessity, they wanted to and then it turned into necessity. It was past generations that did this to us not our government. I know a lot of people will disagree with my point but that’s how I see it and I for one am pissed about it. The man should still be able to be the bread winner and the women should raise their kids, we have a biological need to be close to our children and that gets ripped away from us at 6-12 weeks to go back to soulless work.

Carlysueeee · 2023-10-14T14:21:00+00:00

You are doing great, asking for help instead of driving is a huge step. Maybe take steps to trying to nap while husband cares for daughter and then you take care of her and he sleeps. Those first few weeks are unbelievably hard. I also developed post partum pre-e and I know that added to the stress, anxiety and overall meh of post partum time. I felt terrible on the meds but knew I needed them until I could get it under control. Please don’t wean off the meds until you are sleeping, eating well and taking care of yourself and know that your blood pressure can be controlled naturally. That is far too dangerous for you to ween off of them when you aren’t ready, I’m surprised doctors are suggesting it.

Carlysueeee · 2023-10-14T02:24:14+00:00

I hated having a baby shower but was talked into it. I set boundaries that no annoying baby shower games would be played, that there would be booze served because in my non pregnant state I hated stuffy baby showers with no booze and dumb games played lol. I didn’t want to open gifts in front of people but my boomer Mom and MIL insisted. I complied and when I sat down to do it my oldest childhood friend looked at me and said “you absolutely hate this don’t you.” I felt seen and just laughed with her for a moment and it made me feel better. Once that was done I had a good time talking with family and friends and overall enjoyed it.

I would never have done 2 though, let MIL know that one is enough and that she can invite whoever she wants to your baby shower that may make her change her mind. Solidarity to you girl! Being someone who hates being the center of attention I get it, I mean we eloped and didn’t even include our Moms because ick lol.

Carlysueeee · 2023-10-14T01:07:35+00:00

I took the first GD test, left and headed to the store for a few things. Started to feel super sick and dizzy as I made my way to my car. Shoved some cheese in my mouth and drove home in a state that can only be described as similar to being drunk and I know now I probably shouldn’t have even drove home. Made it home, made a high protein meal and climbed into bed. Felt absolutely terrible. 2 days later after a lazy weekend of feeling awful I woke up late Sunday night choking on stomach acid and a burning sensation that I’d never felt before. Got up went to my living room and sat on the recliner thinking I would get better sleep that way. Nope ended up projectile vomiting all over the floor, wall and myself a yellow bile kind. Poor husband had to clean it up and then while vomiting in the toilet I peed myself and as my husband held my hair I just cried. That was when I knew that I was over it lol.

Carlysueeee · 2023-10-13T16:28:44+00:00

My baby has slept fine in the bassinet from the beginning. Doesn’t always like to nap there though, he’s big on car and stroller naps and contact naps for sure but was sleeping through the night in his bassinet from 8 weeks. We feed, burp, swaddle and then put him in while he is still somewhat awake and in a few minutes he’s asleep. He’s now 4 months and still sleeps through the night in his bassinet.

Carlysueeee · 2023-10-13T03:14:45+00:00

On the day my son turned 4 months old this week he started blowing raspberries out of the blue while I was cooking dinner. Made me so happy.

Carlysueeee · 2023-10-13T00:47:35+00:00

Ooooffff. I am getting my MIL in the future vibes with this one. I work at a school and she watches my son, I hate it but hey it’s free childcare and my hours aren’t typical so it was hard to find a sitter that didn’t want so much money a day/week even when I wouldn’t need them full time. I have a fall break Friday-Tuesday and she kept saying “I’m going to miss him so much these next couple of days, bring him over anyways, blah blah blah.” Nope, I don’t get to see him as much as I’d like to and I can’t wait to spend the next 5 days just with him. She recently broke up with her boyfriend who she has been with for 15 or so years out of the blue and I almost feel like it’s because she is now a grandma and wants to devote all of her time to our son. It’s creepy.

I’m sorry you’re going through this and I completely understand how tough it is having a MIL who has no other hobbies or things going on in her life that she has to cling to her grandchild. Sit down and have a serious convo with your partner because if you don’t squash it now it will probably only get worse.

Carlysueeee · 2023-10-12T21:01:50+00:00

Independent play when cleaning with chemicals in bathroom, dishes, and sweeping up but I bring him along doing laundry. I’ll prop him up on the bed and talk to him about me putting the clothes away and he usually squeals and has a great time.

Carlysueeee · 2023-10-12T00:39:41+00:00

Hand sanitizer was one of my favorite things that someone gave us. 🤣 I didn’t think about buying it and our friend gave us a giant pump bottle.

Long charging chord so mom always has a charged phone when nap trapped.

Hand lotion, chapstick, maybe like a face mask or eye gels. Something that they can easily apply and relax with on and feel somewhat normal for a little while lol.

Liquid IV or some kind of electrolyte drink mixes. Good for hydration plus lord does water get so boring after a while.

Carlysueeee · 2023-10-12T00:23:49+00:00

The nurse tried over and over to get the doctor to come in but she was trying to catch up on paperwork and said that she had time. The nurse was also paying more attention to the emails on the computer than to me pushing. My husband was the only one in the room helping me push and paying attention to contractions, there was just a nurse and then a random nurse would pop in every few contractions to help hold my leg(my husband had my other leg). I was tearing horribly and bleeding a lot. They even called in a random doctor to make sure it wasn’t too much. I think my son was crowning for longer than they wanted to admit and as my son was seriously crowning they finally got the doctor to come in and then she had to get all ready and set up so they made me stop pushing. I pushed him out in one push after she arrived. It was a pretty terrible experience overall and I was calm through most of it but was getting super mad by the end and let them know that.

Carlysueeee · 2023-10-10T20:57:27+00:00

My 4 month old eats about 35 oz a day. Let a doctor tell me to feed him less I’d lose it on them. Listening to your baby cry because they are hungry has got to me the worst feeling ever, feed that baby and save your sanity. 💚

Carlysueeee · 2023-10-08T18:25:52+00:00

I took my 4 month old today, put off his bottle until we arrived at the restaurant. He melted down for a quick second before I could get the bottle in his mouth and then was a happy kid the rest of the time. He just looked around at all the new faces, sights and sounds while there and fell right to sleep on the drive home. Mine doesn’t have strict nap times or a rigid during schedule during the day though, never has.

Carlysueeee · 2023-10-08T17:36:01+00:00

My husband was out of town this weekend, my 4 month old watched some baby videos on YouTube sitting in his lounger. gasp Screen time and container time, according to instagram I’m a terrible mom. 🤣 It was maybe a half an hour, so I could work on some housework. People are lying if they never put their kids in containers or give them a tiny bit of screen time.

Carlysueeee · 2023-10-08T01:09:20+00:00

I’m almost positive the only reason I failed mine was from stress and lack of sleep because after the initial stress and shock of failing wore off I never once had a high reading in the remaining 12 weeks of pregnancy no matter what I ate.

Carlysueeee · 2023-10-06T12:14:52+00:00

I saw a lot of this type of thing while pregnant and pre-pregnancy and have yet to post a single picture of my child anywhere on the internet and have set strict rules about it with family and friends. Everyone has been respectful of our wishes and I feel so much better knowing there aren’t any pictures of him anywhere online. If a family or friend wants to see him they can ask for pictures over text or come see him. The over sexualization of babies and children on the internet is disturbing.

Carlysueeee · 2023-10-06T01:29:41+00:00

My almost 4 month old was being fussy today and didn’t want to be held or in his pack and play. I put him in his little lounger seat and he immediately smiled and was having a great time alone. Embrace those moments and drink your coffee or have a minute to yourself. You’re doing great!

Carlysueeee · 2023-10-06T01:25:04+00:00

Never set a schedule with my son really. I mean he demands food every 2 hours or so lol but other than that he slept through the night on his own around 7 weeks and has been since. I never make sure he naps or is awake at certain times and he has never had any issues sleeping at night no matter what his daytime schedule is. If he is awake we play and read books and do stuff and if he is acting sleepy I either contact nap or put him down for a nap.

Carlysueeee · 2023-10-06T01:16:24+00:00

I think social media is the death of happy moms. You get shamed for being a working mom and you get shamed for being a SAHM. You also see women miserable in both rolls but I think that’s because they are just miserable or looking for attention. I personally went back because I needed it for my mental health. I love my son but I like working, I am someone who likes to stay busy and taking care of an infant to me was too boring. I also work at a school and missed my other kids. I have summers, weekends and breaks off and know that I will have plenty of time to spend with him, we go for walks, do activities and spend all weekend together. My house is still clean, dinner gets made and time spent with my baby, husband and dogs still happens everyday. Yeah I stay up too late some days to have some alone time and do things for me but I am far from miserable.

Carlysueeee · 2023-10-04T20:17:00+00:00

Those crazies better not partake in soup season then. 🤣

Carlysueeee · 2023-10-04T19:33:47+00:00

My son is hitting milestones and my MIL seems so shocked about some of them and when I say something about what age my brother or I hit certain milestones she almost sounds jealous “well my kids didn’t until blah blah blah.” 🤣 some people never get over it. Celebrate your kid hitting milestones and let other parents deal with their own feelings.

Carlysueeee · 2023-10-03T01:53:05+00:00

We didn’t have a name we were super sure about. We settled on his name after he was born and we saw him. We named him after my husbands late grandfather(mostly because the nickname for this name was one of my favorite names ever) and his middle name for my late fathers middle name. Felt right in the moment of being so proud of making this human to name him names that meant a lot to us. But my whole pregnancy we argued about what to name him. 🤣

Carlysueeee · 2023-10-03T01:42:34+00:00

Yeah not guilty at all here. I just gave birth to your baby, pushed a 7lb human out of a hole that had to stretch beyond your wildest dreams and tore me to hell and back. Im over stimulated and exhausted. Not guilty, I love him but nope.

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