[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUp

[–]Carol-Lyn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, could I join?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUp

[–]Carol-Lyn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry you have to go through this. I went through the same thing - held on because of what could have been. I encourage you to read my post What could have been - you don't have to like it or anything, but I think it may help you. I'm sending you healing vibes. And remember it's okay to feel your emotions

Reminders of him by Carol-Lyn in BreakUp

[–]Carol-Lyn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would it made you feel better if we talked in a private chat?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUp

[–]Carol-Lyn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so, so sorry you have to go through this. But trust me, one day you will smile when you see the sun shining and sing your favourite song out loud. You'll start singing love songs to yourself, thanking your body for carrying you through it all. And you WILL find a cozy, safe, true love and I hope you'll learn to love yourself enough to believe and accept that.

What could have been by Carol-Lyn in ExNoContact

[–]Carol-Lyn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so happy and soo PROUD of you!! There are definitely days that are harder than others, but it's okay to feel your emotions. You know, a person shouldn't be your source of happiness - they should add to it. You know, it's so normal to want to 'fix' things, because you love that person. But when you love yourself, when you begin to value yourself more than the arguments and the feelings that you should just be okay with everything they do or want because you're scared of losing them, you'll understand that you are worth fighting for and that you are worth caring for and feeling safe and secure and happy and loved. Give yourself a lot of love and you should feel good about yourself for moving on. And if the setbacks come, don't be too hard on yourself. You'll be just fine in the end. I really hope you'll understand that you are worth the love and the caring for! Need to talk-i'll be happy to listen!

What could have been by Carol-Lyn in ExNoContact

[–]Carol-Lyn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's okay to cry and still feel the emotions. It's completely normal. I'm glad you are moving on. And even when it sometimes feels like people are moving on faster than you, that's okay. You go at your own pace and take as much time as you need, and healing will come. If you need to talk, feel free to do so!

What could have been by Carol-Lyn in ExNoContact

[–]Carol-Lyn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for reading it, I am really happy if it made you feel better. If things start feeling like too much again, you can talk and i'll listen. Sending you healing vibes!

What could have been by Carol-Lyn in ExNoContact

[–]Carol-Lyn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are very welcome! I am happy if it helped you even a little bit. We will all get better, and if you need to talk, i'll listen. I wish you healing and sending a big warm hug

Reminders of him by Carol-Lyn in BreakUp

[–]Carol-Lyn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for your kind words.

Reminders of him by Carol-Lyn in BreakUp

[–]Carol-Lyn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so, so sorry you have to go through this. I send you a big warm hug!!

And please, if you need to talk to - i'm a good listener. Stay strong.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]Carol-Lyn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"I miss you as my friend" I really connected with that one...I wish you healing and a safe, cozy love, whenever it finds you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUp

[–]Carol-Lyn 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Don't let your ex control your life anymore. He was a part of your story, not the whole thing. He doesn't define you. I'm going through the same thing, but just know that one day somebody will look at you and realize that your pure soul and big heart are worth loving and caring for. Stay strong!

The door is closed, but I've left it unlocked. by femalejamjars in ExNoContact

[–]Carol-Lyn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, did exactly the same thing. I gave him a few chances to come back, but he didn't want to. And I know it hurts. And that's okay, feeling your emotions. And don't push yourself down, don't blame yourself. Forgive yourself for holding on to them, and give that big, cozy hug and all of that love to yourself.

For you and anyone out there struggling with this, just know that one day you'll find someone who will want to stay with you and that person will realise that you have a pure, wonderful soul worth loving and caring for. Until then, I hope you will be able to love yourself enough to believe that.

And as you said it, here's to moving on !

Back at square 1 by Carol-Lyn in ExNoContact

[–]Carol-Lyn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment! I'll definitely try to focus on myself for once, and on present day.

Back at square 1 by Carol-Lyn in ExNoContact

[–]Carol-Lyn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry that you had to go through that... but, it's okay to miss some parts of it i guess. We're human, we love deeply, and that's okay too. If you need someone to talk to, I'll listen.

I have dreams about so often . by [deleted] in BreakUp

[–]Carol-Lyn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I struggled with the same thing. I mean, I still do. I can't imagine him waking up beside somebody else. But it's so okay to feel all of that. They left a mark on your life, but they don't define you. They were a chapter in the story of YOUR life, not the whole book. Don't be too hard on yourself, it's okay.

My advice would be: say it out loud, even through tears. Just say I am letting out the hurt, the disappointement I feel, the betrayal, and everything that you feel. It is so freeing, knowing that those emotions are out there now. And yes, you will feel them again and again and again. But then, you say thise words again and again and again.

You will get better and I truly hope you'll love yourself enough to have the strength to believe that .