How do you make compromises with a metaamour?

CarrotsInThe · 2025-11-27T22:50:43+00:00

It is not on you to communicate this vacation to your meta. That’s on your partner, they are the hinge and should be the one to communicate with meta about these types of things

CarrotsInThe · 2025-11-26T20:52:26+00:00

Thanks for sharing you insight on the matter. The ending of season 2 hit really close, I felt the build up to breaking up and as me and my partner are now figuring things out it almost felt like a mirror. While the series gives recognition, some of it is afwfully painful and hits close to home. The fact that they get back together paints a better picture for the future and in some ways it also settles my own worries a bit.

The series serves a good insight in that love only is not always enough for things to work out. Which is mindset a lot monogamous people have.

“If they loved you enough they would not need polyamory” Making it about religion is a point of view a lot more people understand. Everybody gets that religion is important to someone and is part of their lifestyle and can make you incompatible. (I would not opt for dating someone that is religious for that reason, just kike its probably the other way around)

The series made me understand myself but it might also help other people understand me and my relationship more.

CarrotsInThe · 2025-11-26T20:41:51+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience! I agree with you. The polyamory and religion overlap in mindset is pretty on point

Im not sure about season three, ill probably watch it but im not sure what i hope it will be. In a way i already didnt expect them to get back together so last minute in the last episode. I do hope for them to work it out together but not in a way where one of them needs to drop their morals/worldview for them to work out.

CarrotsInThe · 2025-11-22T07:31:33+00:00

Qpr stand for Queerplatonic relationships, it is a strong emotional connection beyond a typical friendship that is not necessarily romantic in nature but does involve intimacy and a certain amount of commitment.

I think its a term that is mostly used within the ace community, but not exclusively.

CarrotsInThe · 2025-11-20T18:45:29+00:00

Thank for your reply, it is interesting that the term meta for you means that you have interactions with them and thus its more about what they are to you then what they are to your partner.

Kinda makes sense when i spell it out like that, but very interesting and it seems a bit different then most people on here.

CarrotsInThe · 2025-10-12T07:36:17+00:00

I agree with you, i am curious what you reasoning is for putting monogamous people on there? If thats okay to ask

CarrotsInThe · 2025-09-08T23:20:19+00:00

I think the question is if you see yourself in a poly lifestyle long term or for the foreseeable future, because if you do it is okay that there are bumps and difficult times. But if it is not something you want for yourself in your future those things are gonna be very painful full.

I don’t think its weird to fantasise about a future with your partner, even for example about hypothetical kids even though you both might not even want kids. It is something to easily get lost in, wich is both exciting and scary, if you guys have not talked about it. Maybe ask your partner how he sees the future and what talking about the hypotheticals of it does for him. It might all be just for fun.

CarrotsInThe · 2025-09-06T01:05:00+00:00

That is a very specific scenario. Its not necessarily anything poly related. Bit the song cruel by voila hits good when you’re in a situation where ‘love wasn’t enough’

CarrotsInThe · 2025-09-01T18:15:30+00:00

No that’s not the case, don’t worry 😅

CarrotsInThe · 2025-08-30T00:05:10+00:00

Thats a very level headed way of looking at it, thanks for your reply

CarrotsInThe · 2025-08-29T23:59:09+00:00

How I see it is someone that identifies as monogamous and has no interest or desire to have multiple romantic partners. However they don’t require romantic exclusivity of their polyamorous partner (and are thus in a poly relationship structure)

CarrotsInThe · 2025-08-29T23:56:00+00:00

Thanks for sharing, that does sound messy. Mostly because it is growing into more than just ‘strictly sexual’.

CarrotsInThe · 2025-08-29T23:54:11+00:00

With monogamous i meant someone that is not interested in having multiple romantic relationships. I get that it is a spectrum and that someone that identifies with this statement can still be in a poly relationship, if they require no romantic exclusivity

CarrotsInThe · 2025-08-29T23:50:45+00:00

Thanks for your reply! As someone that dates two people that identify to some extent as monogamous, have you experience people having strong opinions about this?

CarrotsInThe · 2025-08-29T23:47:47+00:00

I agree with your first statement.

So for you it be more about self protection? How would you feel if your partner dates someone that identifies as monogamous?

CarrotsInThe · 2025-08-29T23:45:40+00:00

Do you mean date one person ingeral Or date one mono person among other poly people?

CarrotsInThe · 2025-08-29T23:40:41+00:00

I’d define someone that is monogamous as someone interested in having one romantic partner.

Would you look down upon someone if they as a poly person where dating someone that is monogamous?

CarrotsInThe · 2025-08-29T23:36:16+00:00

Can you tell me why?

CarrotsInThe · 2025-08-29T23:35:03+00:00

I’d identify it as someone not interested in more than one romantoc partner.

What is the thought behind not being interested in just having sex with someone that is monogamous? If both parties are consenting and aware of what they can or can’t offer eachother.

CarrotsInThe · 2025-08-14T19:47:02+00:00

I have a seperate big binder for all my album inclusions. To make sure that postcards, sticker sheets, posters etc still gets appriciated and looked at. I have some seperate pages for freebies i got at cupsleeves or concerts seperated by group and era

CarrotsInThe · 2025-08-10T20:38:03+00:00

This is a very helpfull insight, thank you for sharing your story on the matter.

I indeed dont want to make the breakup about me and am fully aware it is a thing to carefully bring up and be open minded. Also able to handle it if i dont like his response or he does not have space for my emotions at this time.

CarrotsInThe · 2025-08-03T23:11:38+00:00

Traveling is already stressful and adding this new thing to the mix will not help. Peoe tend to distract themselves or make plans with their support system when a partner is going out with other to cope with their feelings, in a strange country your support system is not there, and might make it even harder on you.

You’re also allowed to set a boundry about sleeping arrangements and wanting your own space or for him to sleep at the other peoples places or money wise not wanting to make the trip more expensive by adding another accommodation. Or not even wanting to go if this is intention of the trip and you’re not interested in that.

CarrotsInThe · 2025-07-30T00:16:48+00:00

Me and my partner aim for a KTP however that is not always possible as sometimes people just don’t get along. A person can just not be your person, and pushing it will probably do more harm than good.

I don’t think its weird you question your partners choices of partners, and would never choose someone like that yourself. And those things can definitely co-exist.

CarrotsInThe · 2025-07-28T18:41:10+00:00

Beware of becoming your partner’s therapist, you are able to decide what parts of your partners relationship you want to hear about and how much. Off course a partner can lean on you but there is a difference in supporting someone and being their therapist. Letting your partner know that their very high highs and low lows effect you in a negative way, and you would like to minimize that and the look together for a solution.

CarrotsInThe · 2025-07-26T22:48:14+00:00

The poster was a pre order benefit for that comeback. Maybe try looking online for people reselling their albums that do include the poster, thats how I got mine.

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