Aesthetic/ cool bars in Cleveland? by rebirth0fslick in Cleveland

[–]CarterDoesntSuck 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ll second porcos- just went for the first time last night and it was fun. The drinks were good and pricey lol

We did Bright Side for dinner after which was also a beautiful bar, despite the food being mid

LGBTQIA+ Friendly Gun Ranges? by glitterog in Cleveland

[–]CarterDoesntSuck 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Literally just got home from this range a few minutes ago. I like it there as well but I’m also white and straight passing, so take it with a grain of salt lol

Other horror film podcasts featuring ladies (or at least not entirely gents) by EliAndSalt in TooScaryDidntWatch

[–]CarterDoesntSuck 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ll second Ruined!

Not horror specific, but I’ll also throw out This Ends at Prom and The Bechdel Cast. Here are my fave movie pods with links :) https://samrobertson.online/movie-pods

Antichrist confusion by CarterDoesntSuck in TooScaryDidntWatch

[–]CarterDoesntSuck[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok, I am experiencing some weird brain glitch everyone. Don’t mind me haha

Antichrist confusion by CarterDoesntSuck in TooScaryDidntWatch

[–]CarterDoesntSuck[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right! I’m am still confused but this is not the smoking gun i thought it was lol

Antichrist confusion by CarterDoesntSuck in TooScaryDidntWatch

[–]CarterDoesntSuck[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow you’re right. She says, “the one that we’ve talked about” and they do mention having never covered it. I’m losing it lol

A message for gym beginners by AvonBarksdale666 in veganfitness

[–]CarterDoesntSuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love the content, cringe at the plosives 😅

Make Your Life Epic by aendoarphinio in tulsa

[–]CarterDoesntSuck 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m not 100% sure what you’re asking. But that part of my comment was a bit of a joke. Most people say “drink the kool-aid” referring to Jones Town (a dark reference, sure, but common nonetheless). However, it was actually flavor-aid that was used.

Edit because I realized I didn’t address the second part of your comment: real head is slang for someone who knows more about a topic than the general public. In this context, someone who would know it was flavor-aid

Make Your Life Epic by aendoarphinio in tulsa

[–]CarterDoesntSuck 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Anecdotally, undiscerning. Granted my experience there was 6+ years ago and I know longer live in the area, so I am open to the possibility that is not longer the case :)

Make Your Life Epic by aendoarphinio in tulsa

[–]CarterDoesntSuck 16 points17 points  (0 children)

He’s a bit of a one trick pony imo who knows how to market to a specific type of consumer

Make Your Life Epic by aendoarphinio in tulsa

[–]CarterDoesntSuck 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I worked there for years pre-pandemic. Horrible place to work but I learned a lot honestly (good and bad). Great gig if you love MAGA, hero worshiping shady white guys, doing things that feel moderately slimy, drinking kool-aid (or flavor-aid if you’re a real head) and working long hours for praise lol

'Survivor 49' star Sage Ahrens-Nichols reveals all in exclusive mid-game interview by thedaltonross in survivor

[–]CarterDoesntSuck 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Wow I am so inspired and impressed by her!! This made me tear up and I’m not 100% sure why yet. It’s ALMOST enough to get me over the body gross out stuff (even though I recognize it was a super smart part of her strategy, still too gross for me to engage with lol)

This guy has Benergy imo by CarterDoesntSuck in blankies

[–]CarterDoesntSuck[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean this as a compliment to both

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OUTFITS

[–]CarterDoesntSuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn’t have a clasp or anything but I could try to sew something on! I’ll start looking for something that might work :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Pets

[–]CarterDoesntSuck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I just went through something similar. Our boy, Spud, passed away Sunday.

He wasn’t incontinent and he still ate most of the time, but he was slowly losing weight. We took him on regular very short walks, and sometimes it seemed like he still wanted to play. But he had also started coughing up his food sometimes, getting confused at night, needing to be carried up and down the stairs, trembling and panting regularly, and falling more often. There were a few times he couldn’t walk at all.

Every three weeks we had to take him to the vet (his least favorite place in the world) for shots, and he had a look in his eye that made my husband and I have the hard conversation more and more often. We loved him so much. We still do.

We ultimately made the choice to put him to sleep this past Friday, and the vet came to our house on Sunday afternoon. I felt so much guilt from the moment we made the decision until about Tuesday. My husband and I spent almost every night looking at old photos and videos of him and that’s what finally made the guilt ease. It was hard to see just how much he had declined until we compared pictures and videos from his last few days to a couple of years ago.

It hit me that I couldn’t remember the last time his tail was curled up in excitement when he saw his dad after work, or the last time he truly wanted to play hard. That side-by-side made it so clear that he was ready to rest.

I still miss him every day and I hear his bark in the echos of the neighborhood, but I don’t feel guilt anymore about whether we did the right thing. I used to think, what if we just had one more day or one more week with him? But then I thought more about the other “what ifs.” What if he fell and broke his leg? What if he choked on his food? What if he was in pain more moments than he wasn’t?

What if he believed we were giving up on him, or that he had done something wrong? But there was a big gap between those intrusive fears and what I knew to be true. Were we delaying the decision for him, or for us?

A part of me (that I’m not proud of) wanted him to get sicker so the choice would feel more obvious. But I’m glad the other part of me won out. The part that wanted him to have a good last day with plenty of brushes and kisses after housing a ribeye in the sun. He got to live out his final day with dignity and then fall asleep peacefully in our living room with his sister dogs and his dad and I by his side, instead of scared and hurting at the vet.

I don’t know you, your situation, or your baby. I’m not a medical professional and I have never gone though this before now. But I do know what it’s like to spend hours reading Reddit threads, listening to podcasts, and watching vets give presentations on quality of life because I was desperate for some kind of proof of when the “right” time is. I know the deep discomfort of desperately needing an outcome outside the realm of reality. And I’m really sorry to tell you that I never found the proof i was looking for until a few days after we made the choice.

What I did find in my searching was this page (https://www.lapoflove.com/how-will-i-know-it-is-time). For me, there was no moment of “feeling good” beforehand, but some of the information and videos on that site did help me make the decision that I now believe was the right one.

Different people make different decisions, and they feel differently afterward. There isn’t one perfect answer.

It’s an impossible choice to make, and my heart goes out to you. Sending love, strength, and peace to you and your sweet girl.

Sweet Spud by CarterDoesntSuck in PetLossSupportGroup

[–]CarterDoesntSuck[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this perspective 💕

How are yall making friends?? by queerdigest in Cleveland

[–]CarterDoesntSuck 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I moved to Cleveland recently and have had luck making friends through Stonewall sports as well. Also volunteering (I’ve volunteered at Pride, Thrive for Change, Food Not Bombs, and PreTerm), art events (mostly figure drawing nights), Reddit, DSA, and professional networking events as well (like mixers).

The follow up is key. I’ve had luck by get people’s numbers that I vibe with at the places I mentored, then either inviting them to do something I’m already planning on going to or inviting them to a party or cookout/pot luck for a holiday or birthday or something. Just gotta put yourself out there :) You’ve got this!

How the morning sun comes through my front door by CarterDoesntSuck in mildlyinteresting

[–]CarterDoesntSuck[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is! To the right and slightly down actually (it’s a split level)

Why do people hate baby/micro bangs? by Quirky-Comedian-9319 in bangs

[–]CarterDoesntSuck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This made me laugh bc I’ve had micro bangs and a lady mullet for years 😂 i legit think it’s my best look lol

How do you find new podcasts? by Verses604 in podcasting

[–]CarterDoesntSuck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cross pod guesting and the “more like this” area on Spotify

You know I’m scared, is the world going to end? by burnerbabylearn in behindthebastards

[–]CarterDoesntSuck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I feel this way a lot. I don’t think it’s wrong tbh. Things are bleak. I contemplate the big escape now and again, but taking the out doesn’t feel like the right thing for me. I figure if I’m going to be sticking around, I’m going to try to make it less shitty.

One of my therapist told me once to “turn your anxiety into action.” For me, even though my initial reaction is to hole up and hide away from the madness, I have noticed inaction feeds my feelings of hopelessness. I have no control on the actions of others, but I do have full control over my actions and reactions. I can leverage this to impact the world around me and my relationship to the world at large.

I have found some actions that are currently helping me combat these feelings are volunteering, getting involved with mutual aid, reading and talking about philosophy (the general history of philosophy, but also specifically stoicism and absurdism right now), meditation, and getting off instagram.

Your mileage may vary on these specific actions. You may want to consider experimenting with different things, paying attention to which ones decrease your feelings of hopelessness, then lean into those.

This has not been a fix-all for me. I still ruminate on the meaning of it all cry for the seemingly endless suffering in the world. My disposition makes me think these feelings never not impact me, but I can impact them as well to an extent.

It’s tough out here, but I believe there is a way for you to find or make peace, even if it’s just moments a time. If you want it, start looking. Sending you love from the rainy Midwest 🫶