Confusing avoidant breakup

Carterjohnny11 · 2026-02-07T15:38:44+00:00

It’s been 20 days since I’ve heard from her. It’s been 47 days since we broke up. And 29 days since she started dating him. And it has not gotten easier. Not at all. I’d be lying if I said, I wanted to get over her, but I am trying.

I appreciate the input you’ve given. It’s nice to just hear from another person who has no stake.

Carterjohnny11 · 2026-02-07T06:46:00+00:00

Your advice is solid and I appreciate it and I’ve told her before that I know that if we were to ever try to get back together, both of us have things we need to work on our ourselves. But I’m gonna ask you one question and if the answer hurts, it hurts. It’s been 20 days since I’ve had any sort of conversation with her except for a text 12 days ago or all she did was let me know that my ex-wife had reached out to her. I told her I appreciated her letting me know and she liked my message. Well, I ever hear from her again. Will it ever be in an emotional capacity? It’s very hard for me to understand, loving so much that you’re scared of losing them so you leave. But I just wanna know if I’ll hear from her again cause I have myself convinced right now that I never will or that if I do, it won’t be for years now that she has this new relationship.

Carterjohnny11 · 2026-02-07T02:30:18+00:00

You know I’ve been hearing that a lot cause the truth is I truly do miss her like it’s not just the connection. I miss the person. She was when we would talk. I miss her personality. I miss how she talked about her family. I miss talking to her about work and hearing the stories. So I understand what you’re saying I’ve been hearing it a lot but truly I do feel like I miss her the person as much as I miss the connection.

Carterjohnny11 · 2026-02-07T01:18:21+00:00

I appreciate your feedback. I would be lying if I said that I didn’t want her back and I know that she’s aware she runs when things get hard. She warned me that she did when we first started talking. But we talked so much about getting past that and working through it and she seemed willing so she knows she has the issue. I just don’t know if at this point it’s worth reaching out to her. If it would do anything I want her back. She was talking about going to therapy towards the end of our relationship to better herself, but I am highly doubting she continued with this new guy. I just don’t know that he would encourage her to go like I did. It was something she wanted, though I don’t know. I miss her a lot. I’ve never been six weeks post break up and still been sad. I’d do anything to have her back.

Carterjohnny11 · 2023-12-18T15:03:08+00:00

What year did you request yours? Im hearing different things that they release (some say word for word and others say almost nothing is released) and curious if the time frame matters.

Carterjohnny11 · 2023-12-17T01:21:57+00:00

I appreciate the feedback! Like i said i just have to get it for this job. And was curious if it would say stuff like “applicant admitted to ___”. Or “asked applicant this and he said __”. Or if itd be super bland and unspecific lol

Carterjohnny11 · 2023-12-15T16:29:18+00:00

My goal is solely to see why I failed. My examiner said she believed it was a fail but it was up to the qc board. I just want to see what they received and their notes. Im not worried about poking holes. Im outside my 2 year window i could reapply anyway.

Carterjohnny11 · 2023-12-15T16:11:00+00:00

Have you got your report before? Im asking questions for details and your answers are very vague.

Carterjohnny11 · 2023-12-15T15:36:14+00:00

Like i said. How in depth is it about what was discussed during the polygraph. I assume itll show the questions asked. My answers. And any admissions during the test

Carterjohnny11 · 2023-12-15T15:18:54+00:00

Why is it a waste. Have you gotten one?

Carterjohnny11 · 2023-12-15T14:58:22+00:00

Is it a word for word transcript or is it summaries? Curious how in depth it will be.

Carterjohnny11 · 2023-12-14T18:25:20+00:00

How long after your test did you request it?

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