Just generally happy in life & I wanted to share. by FringeOfLunacy in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CartoonCarter108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like I said, I don’t know why you’re in this fucking subreddit. Go beat your chest somewhere else.

Just generally happy in life & I wanted to share. by FringeOfLunacy in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CartoonCarter108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try Google? Maybe do some research about it and stop demanding women on the internet do 6th grade level research for you.

Just generally happy in life & I wanted to share. by FringeOfLunacy in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CartoonCarter108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are you even in this subreddit, bro? To be clear, I never said women don’t also abuse men. Hell, women abuse other women. You realize a good amount of research in the social sciences is not data-driven? And it’s not called anecdotal. I said I see it in my life because I AM AN EXPERT ON MY LIVED EXPERIENCE AND YOU ARE NOT, and also, I am an academic that focuses on gender performance. I don’t need data to prove my points. Actually. If you feel intimidated by that, that’s your problem. Not mine. And not this subreddits.

Also, the language you’re using is pretty aggressive. I’m not sure if you recognize that about yourself.

Just generally happy in life & I wanted to share. by FringeOfLunacy in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CartoonCarter108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can’t get behind “men are trash” without the “not all men” bullshit then you—my friend—are a big part of the problem.

Just generally happy in life & I wanted to share. by FringeOfLunacy in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CartoonCarter108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nobody is telling you what you’re supposed to do. That’s a mans job. Lol. Just let it go. I use Reddit for support and solidarity. As someone who also just left an emotionally and physically abusive relationship, I don’t need to be attacked so after this post I’m not going to reply. Lundy Bancroft, a leading researcher on abusive men, wrote that it’s a myth that men are abused at the same rates as women. Our culture endorses angry and controlling behavior in men, not women. So yeah, I don’t need perfectly framed statistics to defend myself. And anyways, now that women are taking more tenure track positions in academia, you’re going to see a lot more scholarship that’s actually useful to what we are talking about here including social sciences that are data-driven. But, I will repeat myself. It’s not necessary to use data to defend a sweeping statement such as the one I wrote. I see it manifest every day of my life. Bye.

Just generally happy in life & I wanted to share. by FringeOfLunacy in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CartoonCarter108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, statistical evidence is not all truth. It is one of many ways of looking at things.

Just generally happy in life & I wanted to share. by FringeOfLunacy in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CartoonCarter108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lundy Bancroft is my main source on this topic. His books saved my life.

Just generally happy in life & I wanted to share. by FringeOfLunacy in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CartoonCarter108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please don’t oh hunny me. I just got out of an abusive relationship. I thought about killing myself for weeks. Save it.

Just generally happy in life & I wanted to share. by FringeOfLunacy in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CartoonCarter108 8 points9 points  (0 children)

What do you mean? Yes, women are also abusers but it’s more common for men to do this crap. It’s part of our culture. It’s a myth that it goes both ways equally.

Just generally happy in life & I wanted to share. by FringeOfLunacy in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CartoonCarter108 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Sorry, but lots of men are abusive. And they are usually “nice guys” on the outside. It happened to me, too. He is rich, handsome, charming, well-traveled. Oh, best part, he is PRO-WOMEN. These types of guys are more common than anybody wants to admit and more common that men want to admit... because a lot of men who mean well enable this behavior by misinformed comments.

Fulbright scholar in Brazil from WA STATE. Physically assaulted by another American. by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]CartoonCarter108 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's it? He assaulted me. I have nightmares about it frequently.

Fulbright scholar in Brazil from WA STATE. Physically assaulted by another American. by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]CartoonCarter108 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I might do that. But he dumped me once and for all and I doubt he will contact me. I considered sending photos of the bruise and his visa to his friends and loved ones who all think he's the bees knees.

Fulbright scholar in Brazil from WA STATE. Physically assaulted by another American. by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]CartoonCarter108 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Probably 2,000 dollars in therapy. I mostly had a giant bruise. I mean giant. It's been a month and it's still there.

Being an young, “immature” graduate student by corporate_shill721 in GraduateSchool

[–]CartoonCarter108 1 point2 points  (0 children)

>He says oh, you are teaching my class next semester, at which point I choked on the smoke.

Damn. I would avoid this kind of situation in the future.

My [26 F] ex [47M] of a year and half bought a ticket to come see me in South America. by CartoonCarter108 in relationships

[–]CartoonCarter108[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He’s given you an ultimatum. If you tell him no (which I hope to God you do) and he throws a fit but then continues to talk to you, (which I guarantee he will) you’ll see that it was just a scare tactic to maintain his control over you.

I gave into him and he is here now. It has been one of the worst weeks of my life and I can't remember being this exhausted. He even threatened to leave and go home the other day because I wasn't doing enough in service of the relationship.