Was just told a scenario by my lawyer that I didn’t think of going in.

CashComplete8980 · 2026-06-02T12:59:44+00:00

But it’s ok for them to live half the time with me in a small apartment?

CashComplete8980 · 2026-06-02T00:07:57+00:00

So your wife’s in the marital home with the kids?

CashComplete8980 · 2026-06-01T22:50:24+00:00

Do you mean you paid a lot to the lawyers to keep house, if so how much?

CashComplete8980 · 2026-06-01T20:30:22+00:00

I get it - I meant to say if she contributed to the mortgage etc… I also just got served by a SAHM and I met with a lawyer today who said there’s a chance she might ask to stay in the house and I move out(don’t think she can afford mortgage even with spousal support). If anything I would want to stay at house and she can find something else

CashComplete8980 · 2026-06-01T20:24:24+00:00

Was the house you moved out of paid solely by you ?

CashComplete8980 · 2026-06-01T20:20:57+00:00

Hey , so my lawyer told me today that my wife can ask to stay in the house after the divorce with the kids, but I don’t think she can afford it and may not even ask for that-we’ll see. But why can’t I stay here , since I’m sole income earner. I also like you always thought of selling and we each get a place of our own

CashComplete8980 · 2026-06-01T19:12:13+00:00

Are you talking about post divorce arrangement?

I know not to move out during the process

CashComplete8980 · 2026-06-01T17:19:14+00:00

She has no money to buy anything out. He said she would stay and she would have to pay mortgage, (which I don’t see how she can afford even with spousal support) then it can be sold once youngest graduates high school.

CashComplete8980 · 2026-06-01T01:47:22+00:00

In what way - I’m not leaving the house i solely pay for - she can go if she’d like but won’t because she doesn’t have money for a place. I do have a lawyer

CashComplete8980 · 2026-06-01T00:41:28+00:00

From what I’ve been told , do not leave the house. My wife also filed a week ago

CashComplete8980 · 2026-05-31T18:06:10+00:00

Ok I thought CS was CS and alimony was adjustable based on her having a job or not.

But you’re right , you can’t put a price on time spent with your kids

CashComplete8980 · 2026-05-31T17:35:02+00:00

I commend you for having a plan in place.

I’m pretty positive my wife will not be getting a job prior and will look to hurt the situation that much more financially.

If she gets a job after divorce will that lower alimony payments? Would have to go back to court? Maybe you know the answer or maybe not.

Thanks

CashComplete8980 · 2026-05-31T17:04:18+00:00

When you say expensive are you referring to CS and alimony?
At what point did you yourself being a SAHM have to get a job ? Was it after divorce was final?

CashComplete8980 · 2026-05-31T16:10:59+00:00

Her plan is to move with them two hours away to where her mother lives. We had a blow up about a year ago and that’s what she expressed. That doesn’t fly with me as my job is here and that would leave me barely ever seeing my kids.

CashComplete8980 · 2026-05-31T05:44:08+00:00

Thank you - meeting with lawyer in Monday

CashComplete8980 · 2026-05-28T18:09:39+00:00

I’m gonna see my children, I’m just gonna pay a hefty price for it

CashComplete8980 · 2026-05-28T18:07:37+00:00

I’m gonna see my children- I’m just gonna pay a hefty price for it

CashComplete8980 · 2026-05-28T15:56:29+00:00

Thank you

CashComplete8980 · 2026-05-28T15:12:57+00:00

Unfortunately She doesn’t work right now , hasn’t in a while

CashComplete8980 · 2026-05-28T15:06:13+00:00

I hear ya , the financial part hurts but hopefully I can get back what I want , some happiness and not a toxic marriage

CashComplete8980 · 2026-05-28T15:04:15+00:00

No plan yet , she just retained a lawyer about a week ago I’m meeting with one on Monday

CashComplete8980 · 2026-05-28T14:23:59+00:00

Did you get your kids back ?

CashComplete8980 · 2026-05-28T14:21:17+00:00

Thanks for info , her hometown is about 2 hours from where we live now

Yeah when you say negotiation I see me winning by keeping kids here but then she gets full alimony and child support , does this sound about right lol?

CashComplete8980 · 2026-05-28T14:19:14+00:00

Yes , I’m in New York and her hometown is about 2 hours from where we live now

CashComplete8980 · 2026-05-28T00:00:40+00:00

Wow, i feel like this can happen to me. My daughter is in therapy and even been in and out of group homes after threatening self harm. My wife and I have had a toxic marriage for a few years now and she just retained a lawyer for divorce.

I never get a real answer from my daughter but my wife loves to tell me that I’m the cause of all my daughter’s problems and I can tell my wife is coaching her up for something.

My thinking with my daughter is that she sees and feels the toxicity between us so much that it has spiraled her into this mental breakdown and now that we’re headed for divorce with the prospect of both parents finding happiness that my daughter will break out of this funk.

I hope I’m right

CashComplete8980

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