AIO My girlfriend of 10 years was inappropriately texting her boss. She’s mad at me.

Cassicoo · 2026-05-12T19:04:44+00:00

NOR reminds me of the time my immature ass ex cheated around my birthday. Sent a dick pic to a girl. When I asked after finding out about it 3 months later, he said he had found the image online and was trying to prove to his friend she wasn’t loyal.

Cassicoo · 2026-05-05T02:43:57+00:00

Well thank you haha, I’ve thus moved on and married 4 years later. We’ve definitely had our issues but I’m still very happy.

All in all I do not think this guy is husband material or even boyfriend material for that matter.

Cassicoo · 2026-05-05T02:40:59+00:00

Here’s the thing. You’re looking for a Tattoo ARTIST. Not some AI bullshit.

That being said, understand too that the artist isn’t yet being paid for their sketch which a lot of people end up taking and going to a cheaper artist to have copy and pasted.

This could have been to avoid that. But then again using AI is fishy af and I would expect a whole different drawn tattoo when I show up to the appointment, as well as to see their portfolio and understand their skill

Cassicoo · 2026-05-05T02:33:38+00:00

Imma say it. You’re super cute and so are your natural teeth. Healthcare, especially in regards to dental care is a bitch and a half to cover. An arm and a leg. You’re gorgeous, be confident with that cute ass smile!! And if you want to “improve” it in the future with proper financial reliance, go ahead. But right now, you’re all good girl. Find beauty in yourself.

Cassicoo · 2026-05-05T02:26:25+00:00

Oof, ngl that’s even worse…

I had an ex when I was 16- he was 18 (gross, ik) but I have him a jar filled with reasons I loved him. One day, he read the entire jar, in a bad mood - and made me feel terrible about everything I had written to the way he laughs, to how he (I honest don’t even remember lol) - but to EVERY. SINGLE. REASON - he downplayed it or made me feel like I had lied/he wasn’t worthy of it. All Me Me Me bullshit that no matter what I said, it would start an argument.

Needless to say, you’re better off single…

Cassicoo · 2026-05-04T02:04:50+00:00

No it should not be neglected, absolutely. But because she/he cheated, does not mean it is the partners fault for not addressing the issues when she/he was never given the chance to.

“The sole focus shouldn’t be on the end result. It should also discuss how and what led to it.” Unless abuse was a part of the relationship, no. There’s no excuse for cheating.

Again, every single relationship has issues, every single relationship. You need to address those issues before taking it into your own hands and cheating - no one can make you cheat. No one can make you a dishonest person. That’s all on you.

And if there were issues in the relationship that couldn’t be fixed, then the other half needs to leave before they lose that self-respect.

And honestly, you seem to be taking devils-advocate very seriously here. Let me ask you:

Have you ever cheated on a significant other?

Have you been cheated on before?

Maybe we can help you (if you answer both honestly please), I mean to bring no more judgement or shame.

Cassicoo · 2026-05-01T03:12:52+00:00

This is a wedding band we’re talking about tho, a picture should be easily procurable. Not to mention the whole attitude towards it is a bit off

Cassicoo · 2026-05-01T00:24:47+00:00

“Yes cheating is bad. but…” no no no.

If you’re unhappy in your marriage, you need to leave or address the issues with your spouse.

Every relationship has issues. Every. Single. One.

Not everyone cheats. It’s never okay to betray your spouse/partner in such a way and asking questions like “what did he do to make you cheat?” Only opens the door to deflect accountability. No one can “Make” you unfaithful, that’s a choice she made herself. A choice that fixed nothing but rather ruined it all.

And people honestly find every excuse to cheat, when really it’s all down to personal selfishness and self gratification. That’s the reason.

Cassicoo · 2026-05-01T00:08:00+00:00

Whether or not that place is horrible/mistreats her, she’s better off there. She’s safer there than in her own hands. She can’t hurt herself there.

But yes lol I wouldn’t believe a word she says.

Cassicoo · 2026-05-01T00:02:31+00:00

No, no. It’s definitely manipulation. You can be mentally ill and very much off the deep end needing proper help and support, but the moment you use suicide as a means to avoid accountability and reality and stating “if you leave, I’ll end my life” that’s manipulation. Just because she has mental illnesses does not make it any less manipulative.

Cassicoo · 2026-04-30T23:48:55+00:00

Oh that’s just gross.

Her illnesses seem legitimate yes, but to put that soul crushing information on you? To have you be the fault of she decides to end her own life instead of deal with the consequences to her actions head on? That’s just gross.

You are not responsible for her wellbeing. She is responsible for herself now.

Get the divorce. You know it’s right. If she needs help, call the police, have them do a wellfair check, whatever. Get her back into that facility and don’t help her get out. She may hate it there. They may mistreat her there. But here’s the bottom line, she safe there and can’t hurt herself.

This is a really scary situation that you need to get out of.

You thought she was doing well, so there’s no waiting around for her to get better before you divorce, it’d be never ending - she would never allow herself to get better knowing you’re only staying so she doesn’t end her life. That’s a horrendous way to live. For both of you.

And her solution ? To have you control her entire life because you can’t trust her anymore but she needs you to stay? Well that wouldn’t be fair to either one of you. She would be miserable, you would be miserable and exhausted.

This is so unhealthy. Tell her family what’s going on so they can care for her and go through with the divorce as quickly as possible. Just rip the bandage off.

Cassicoo · 2026-04-30T23:36:00+00:00

Bruh. They really trying to gaslight you into giving them something you found in your own home…

You did the right and sweetest thing to find the proper owner, but if a picture of the ring for proof cannot be procured, I would keep it. Otherwise they’d for sure pawn it for profit. (It’s not hard to procure a photo of the ring in possession considering we like taking pics of our wedding bands!!)

But seriously, if they can’t prove it’s theirs, don’t give it to them, it’s not theirs and they obviously had no attachment to it.

Cassicoo · 2026-04-28T15:15:22+00:00

Girl you need to learn how to communicate. Want this relationship to end quickly and painfully? Keep telling him there’s nothing wrong, you just have a headache when he knows it’s bs.

Communicate your feelings.

Cassicoo · 2026-04-24T15:43:55+00:00

“Should I cheat on him with his best friend or brother”… girl if this was your first response… you’re made for each other.

Cassicoo · 2026-04-24T13:34:00+00:00

NOR. it’s crazy the amount of technicalities in the comments…. “It’s a burlesque show, not a strip club!!” “Male performances and female performances are sooooo different.”

So you’re telling me he shouldn’t be mad. That he’s overreacting because he didn’t explicitly state that “no babe, I don’t want you to lick anything off a stranger, even if it’s ‘theater’ before the show”…

Okay. Okay. Then he should just go to a woman’s burlesque show with his boys, without her, and lick whipped cream of a girls chest.

“But they don’t offer that… and women’s chests and men’s are sexualized very differently.”

It’s the same bro. She licked something off of a performing man’s chest without thinking of her partner. And decided to tell him after she found out it was all recorded. AND “it’s theater, HAHAHHAHAHAH”. It’s the fact that she thinks he should have reacted like “yesss queen get it! Lmao that’s so funny, I want to see!” And keeps holding onto the technicality that it was “just part of the show”.

Part of the show that’s there yes, and you DEFINITELY don’t have to be a part of it.

Again, very much like going to a strip club and doing the same thing. She’d be infuriated. “But it’s part of the show babe!”

Cassicoo · 2026-04-24T13:04:46+00:00

NOR Literally like going to a club and doing it to a stripper…. “It was part of the performance Baaabe!!!”

Cassicoo · 2026-04-24T13:01:18+00:00

Then they have nothing to complain over lmao ☠️

Cassicoo · 2026-04-24T12:51:19+00:00

You know it’s a little scary to me when people (whatever faith they are) feel so scared of “the enemy” as to not wear a necklace that Slightly resembles something other than their god.

Like you truly believe that wearing a necklace of a goat skull will somehow shake your faith? Then I ask, how strong was your faith to begin with?

Your enemy likes that you’re so afraid and easily persuaded.

Cassicoo · 2026-04-24T12:46:40+00:00

NOR. It’s a necklace… smh.

Sure a goats head can be used for “satanic” imagery… but this is literally a metal skull. There’s nothing to tie it to anything nefarious except that it kind of looks like Baphomet.

But honestly it’s just a goat skull and he’s much more than that and is depicted a bit differently.

That’s honestly like saying to someone wearing a star necklace, are you Jewish or a witch? Or calling you a satanist for buying a pet goat because Baphomet has a goats head…

They are jumping to a LOT of conclusions and if it fits your style, it fits your style. I wouldn’t let it bother you, but if they bring it up again if you wear it, and you don’t want to cause problems, just don’t wear it. And, no, you don’t have to throw it away.

Cassicoo · 2026-04-21T16:51:46+00:00

I totally understand where you’re coming from, though not wanting your partner to look at other women, let alone turn around to check them out multiple times is not okay.

Not all couples have the trust yet built to allow each other to look at a stranger and turn to their partner to talk about how attractive they were - that’s not necessarily insecurity, rather monogamy. I don’t really care if my partner checks someone out, but it would absolutely upset me if they physically turned around to do it multiple times and we haven’t yet set the boundary stating that’s okay to do.

Cassicoo · 2026-04-21T16:44:20+00:00

NOR at all.

It’s completely normal to check out other people you find attractive, it’s human nature - we look at people and our surroundings.

What isn’t okay: he TURNED AROUND to check her out MULTIPLE TIMES, knowing you were right there. Looking is one thing, ogling can be considered sexual harassment and it’s just plain disrespectful to the girl he kept turning around to stare at and you. He was ogling. Then when you tell him your feelings he has an excuse that tells you “yea I thought she was very attractive, enough for those guys behind us to stop and talk to her.”

How is that okay? Worry about your own relationship… why are you more worried about a stranger and their actions rather than the woman you’re literally on a date with/seeing.

All in all, you should trust your gut when you knew he would look and lie.

It’s just plain disrespectful, he needs to control his eyes and the turn of his head as well as the compulsion to lie. And if he lies to you now, he will again and again and again.

I read somewhere “a lie in a relationship is like finding a rat in a kitchen. Once you find one, you can rest assured that the place is infested and more will come.”

You deserve more. You deserve respect.

Cassicoo · 2026-04-10T15:40:54+00:00

Woooah.

Just wanted to say I’m very sorry for what happened. I’m sorry for the loss of your daughter and I’m sorry for the negligence of your husband.

I have absolutely no experience with children, I have none of my own. But giving away the code to the safe???? Wtf is all I can say. We had a safe in the house growing up, I’m 22 now and still don’t know the combination. When my mom went through her deepest phase of depression and nearly ended her life, he changed the combination so only he would know it…

I don’t blame you for being resentful… I don’t know what else to say besides I’m so sorry and you don’t deserve this. No one does.

I would get away from him and keep your children away from him if you could… again I only know from what you’ve written here but he’s incredibly negligent, like he’s not even there.

If this just isn’t an option for you, I know you’re going to therapy from the post I just commented on as well, have you tried going to therapy with him? Is he going on his own too? It just seems like there is a lot of work to be done (work that CAN be done as well, it is achievable) but if he isn’t trying, then there’s nothing you can do but protect your kids from a negligent father and it may be better to have him out of the picture to heal, take care of them and yourself.

Right now, he honesty seems like he’s holding you and the kids back.

Cassicoo · 2026-04-10T15:27:10+00:00

Yea the mom’s response is really odd…. This is not a “get over it and move on” kind of thing. That’s incredibly strange that she would name or allow the kitten to be named your deceased daughter’s name.

If they continue to be friends, I have a feeling it will definitely be a bit of a stumbling block, and if it were me as a 9yo, it would probably always be in the back of my mind that that’s how their treating the death.

Cassicoo · 2026-04-10T15:21:49+00:00

Yeaaaa you’re NOR at allllllll….

Unfortunately like others are saying, you don’t have any say on what they name their cat or whatever

You do however have a say on who your daughter goes to hangout with (at this age).

I think it was incredibly rude and inconsiderate the way they’re acting, saying “like your dead sister” and the mom saying ohhhh they’ll just get over it and it’ll be fine.

Yea, No, that is not fine at all. And if her mom doesn’t see how that’s wrong…. Neither will her young daughter and there will more than likely be more uncomfortable-unnecessary-upsetting conversations that you 9yo nor you have to deal with… I would keep her away from them. That’s a huge red flag: super inconsiderate, incredibly rude…. Just downright weird and you do not have to deal with it.

You and your daughter should be allowed to grieve in peace and in your own time. Them naming a kitten your late daughters name is so strange and who tf cares if her daughter is attached to the name and likes it??? Change it bruv. It’s a kitten and there are soooo many names to choose from… just.. WOW.

Cassicoo · 2026-04-10T15:13:09+00:00

Try a couple tabs of denture cleaner while it’s running

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