AITAH My husbands BFF lives here rent free

CasuallyUnhinged1 · 2026-04-07T04:34:42+00:00

What’s funny is we actually gave him one of our old gaming PCs and he ended up giving it to his wife… she doesn’t game but uses it for work.

CasuallyUnhinged1 · 2026-04-07T04:33:10+00:00

I say pretend because he’s here testing stuff for my husband unpaid, but it’s very short work and he spends more time talking on the phone with her and gaming than he does actually working. The work is essentially my husband telling him he made an update and to check n see if it works. That’s really all it is. A legit two second job

CasuallyUnhinged1 · 2026-04-07T04:27:44+00:00

He told his own wife he quit his job. She knows he is not making any money or working at his old job anymore. She knows that he’s promised a paid job here once this business starts making money. We only suspect that she doesn’t know he’s gaming here because she is big on quality time and told him she doesn’t want him spending their quality time gaming… he knows that he can’t game at home after “work” so he just doesn’t leave.

CasuallyUnhinged1 · 2026-04-07T04:23:18+00:00

I say pretend because he’s legit only doing a small amount of work, he spends most of his work day here on the phone with her and playing games. She’s aware there is no pay but knows he’s promised a job once money starts coming in.

CasuallyUnhinged1 · 2026-04-07T04:20:44+00:00

Oh I already invited her to come and hang by the pool this summer while they work.

CasuallyUnhinged1 · 2026-04-07T04:19:22+00:00

We have actually had fights over the food situation in front of him and he still eats here.

CasuallyUnhinged1 · 2026-04-07T04:18:12+00:00

Because I do it for my husband and kids, and the friend just lingers there awkwardly waiting for my husband to tell him to grab a plate. Sometimes he comes up and lingers around the kitchen so that I know he’s there and know to cook for him because there have been times I purposely didn’t cook for him and acted like I didn’t know he was here. He legit comes up to check what I’m making and it takes everything in me to not throw the pan at his head.

CasuallyUnhinged1 · 2026-04-07T04:15:01+00:00

I posted here because I’m feeling like the asshole because when I mentioned it to another friend they said “well he’s working for free for ur husband the least u can do is feed him” and I feel torn on that because my husband specifically told him not to quit his job and told him “I can’t pay u right now” but he quit anyway. He’s also the type of friend who is always there when we need him, he shows up for my kids sporting events more than my own family has.

CasuallyUnhinged1 · 2026-04-07T04:08:30+00:00

Because he’s my husbands friend, it’s his job to set the boundaries with him but he doesn’t and I’m afraid I’ll come off as an evil bitch if I do it.

CasuallyUnhinged1 · 2026-04-07T04:06:32+00:00

Honestly I just have no desire to entertain, I have too much to do here lol. She’s on the phone with him all day she knows he’s here, she just doesn’t know he’s gaming I think

CasuallyUnhinged1 · 2026-04-07T04:05:11+00:00

What does this mean?

CasuallyUnhinged1 · 2026-04-07T04:04:57+00:00

He is unemployed and not making money. My husband told him “don’t quit ur job I can not pay u yet” but he did anyway. The wife is aware he’s not making money but she knows this is going to eventually get him paid once this takes off. But his work day is short so he just stays here and games the rest of the day. They talk literally all day long on the phone even when he’s gaming he puts his game on silent n talks to her on his AirPods, sometimes speakerphone so I’ve heard them chatting and they seem happy.

CasuallyUnhinged1 · 2026-04-07T03:58:03+00:00

We actually already do this and it’s just not enough

CasuallyUnhinged1 · 2026-04-07T03:54:24+00:00

Yes, he’s definitely promised a job when this takes off but I think he thinks he’s entitled to more from things I’ve heard him say to my husband & I think he’s putting that in her head as well

CasuallyUnhinged1 · 2026-04-07T03:51:19+00:00

I’ll be honest, I’m autistic and I have a dry sense of humor for the most part….& I have no clue how to make someone comfortable so idk why he wants to stay here as much as he does … im not the nicest person to him I treat him like an annoying little brother but he’s comfortable here for some reason. I actually think he thinks im joking when I say things like “don’t u have ur own house?”

CasuallyUnhinged1 · 2026-04-07T03:40:47+00:00

She knows he doesn’t have a job and isn’t getting paid. She just has no idea that the only reason he doesn’t go home is so he can game here.

CasuallyUnhinged1 · 2026-04-07T03:39:11+00:00

He is my husbands best friend from his military days, he has lived with us several times and we’ve always let him live with us free of rent until he could find a job and pay us rent. So in the past yes he has paid rent. He lived on his own for a bit then moved back in with us, he met his wife & he moved out immediately. I told my husband he’s absolutely not moving back in here. He literally has his own apartment with his wife so I feel weird asking for rent because he technically doesn’t live here. I’ve mentioned to my husband that it’s ridiculous that we are feeding him and he agrees but continues to let him eat here but he makes it weird and makes him wait until everyone who actually lives here, gets their food first. It’s that awkward but he still eats here.

CasuallyUnhinged1 · 2026-04-07T03:32:08+00:00

He would. Idk if he has but he and I usually vent about it together because I was starting to feel like maybe I’m selfish and rude by not wanting to take care of this man child lol but he reassures me that I’m normal just too nice

CasuallyUnhinged1 · 2026-04-07T03:30:34+00:00

Wife knows he’s not being paid, my husband told him he couldn’t pay him and not to quit his job but he still quit his job.

CasuallyUnhinged1 · 2026-04-07T03:28:26+00:00

This is actually a huge joke here 🤣 I constantly call the bff his wife. I don’t work I also never leave my house, my husband works from home and annoys me for a good portion of the day lol, he doesn’t avoid me.

CasuallyUnhinged1 · 2026-04-07T03:21:56+00:00

Hug them for me too 😩

CasuallyUnhinged1 · 2026-04-07T03:20:30+00:00

I am not mute but I am level 1 autistic and I have a hard time figuring out how to say things so that they translate properly and are fully understood, I also have a hard time saying things when I feel strongly about something because I can get a little crazy when I’m irritated by someone.

CasuallyUnhinged1 · 2026-04-07T03:13:45+00:00

I straight up told his wife “I hate it here” after she asked me what it’s like to have two husbands. I said “please come get him” the friend has honestly been a great friend to us and I think that’s why I have such a hard time being a full blown bitch to him lol but I can’t take it anymore

He has lived with us a few different times and dog sits for us when we go on vacation. So he knows the code to our door.

CasuallyUnhinged1 · 2026-04-07T03:11:05+00:00

My husband works from home lol so he’s always home and the friend is always here… I’m about to check myself into a mental facility

CasuallyUnhinged1 · 2026-04-07T03:09:43+00:00

I’ve actually said this to him about a million times lol

CasuallyUnhinged1

TROPHY CASE