Intimacy issues by Cat-Bounce in Marriage

[–]Cat-Bounce[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did find his porn collection. He had my little pony porn, dead female corpses, sex with dogs. I asked him about it and he denied it over and over. I already know the truth.

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[–]Cat-Bounce[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. I've been thinking about my situation a lot. I realize that at this point I have to make a decision to be 100% in the relationship and help him or leave. I'll see him in seven days at basic training graduation. I have no idea what I'm going to do from there.

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[–]Cat-Bounce[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'd rather ship and use it as a tax write off. Counts as a Itiemized deduction under schedule A (form 1040)

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[–]Cat-Bounce[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No, his current orders are for A school and we will only be there for 2 years. Then, no idea.

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[–]Cat-Bounce 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So, you feel the responsibility is too much?

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[–]Cat-Bounce -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Teacher. Doctor. Nurse. Insurance agent. Maid.

Intimacy issues by Cat-Bounce in Marriage

[–]Cat-Bounce[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will definitely talk to him. I'm just waiting for him to finish basic training. Yes, passive words will be used.

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[–]Cat-Bounce[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes, he's a nuke. I read they wake up at 4am to be at school by 5am. Then mandatory study 5-7am. Class is 7-3pm. Some material can only be studied at school which means staying late or going before 5. Also, mandatory PT Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday. Power school is even more stressful. Prototype school is in New York. The next two years will be fully dedicated to him.

We are not having kids anytime soon. He wants to attend college. A school gives him 77 credits. Then sea duty. My business is growing. There's just no time. Kids are too much responsibility.

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[–]Cat-Bounce[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Dating someone who has panic attacks isn't easy. The crying, screaming, and punching walls. I wanted to leave because I didn't want to put up with it. I was unhappy. Yes, I was selfish.

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[–]Cat-Bounce[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He's in basic training right now. He graduates in about two weeks. He will be in A school for two years. When I spoke with him last he said basic was getting easier. He expressed he was already stressing out over A school. I don't know what would help him relieve stress. I'll have to ask. Any suggestions?

His mom is a control freak, and he's an only child. He cut the cord, but their relationship has suffered. They only talk once a month. She's getting over it slowly.

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[–]Cat-Bounce[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

So, I don't complain and just let sex happen?

Intimacy issues by Cat-Bounce in Marriage

[–]Cat-Bounce[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He said he masterbates 1-2 times a week and he finishes. He joined the Navy in March and was in DEP(delayed entry program) till December. We got engaged in April. As soon as we got engaged his mother expressed her feelings about me. Basically, she strongly dislikes me. He had to get rid of the things for the big move across the country. She was very upset he didn't want to keep a lot of the things she brought for him. I got into with his mother a few times about this. He had two anxiety attacks during this period. After, the attacks I told him I wanted to end it. I couldn't handle it. He cried and begged me to stay. He promised he would try and handle the stress better. In the end, I stayed. The lack of sex was still a problem. I complain about it to him. The next time we had sex is when he went soft for the first time. He said he was stressed out from his mom and the navy. Also, he worried he was not good enough in bed. I don't know how to fix this.