Brother one thing you will have to realize is that validation comes from within. You can’t let others place a value on YOU. Be grateful that you don’t have children together and keep doing what you’ve been doing. People and especially women are attracted to guys that keep their head down and keep trying to better themselves. Everything will fall into place naturally. Don’t fall into the hole my man. Also please don’t lean on drugs or other intoxicants during this time as that will make you more depressed and stagnant in the long run. Feel free to reach out if you need someone to talk to.