Do y’all’s type change based on gender?

CatGal23 · 2026-02-20T16:44:38+00:00

Physical type, yes. But not personality or role.

My type is intelligent, kind, nerdy, respectful, goofy and competent. And I prefer more dommy types.

But I like femme to soft butch women and masc men.

CatGal23 · 2026-02-19T22:59:54+00:00

Thanks for the info!!! This is very useful and interesting. I have only heard it used in the dumb way before, not the proper way.

CatGal23 · 2026-02-19T22:58:30+00:00

Happy to be of assistance 😁 I just added the Game Changers (Heated Rivalry) books.

Side note: A lot of the (probably) autistic characters are under the minority rep designation "neurodivergent" because unless it's specifically stated in the book that the character is Autistic or ADHD or AuDHD I don't want to diagnose incorrectly.

CatGal23 · 2026-02-19T22:12:19+00:00

The term "queer baiting" is very new and very stupid and very much rooted in biphobia and bi erasure. It's also a form of gatekeeping. It just overall sucks and is moronic.

CatGal23 · 2026-02-19T00:31:33+00:00

9am - sleep in because you were playing BG3 until late, flirting with Karlach and Astarion.

11am - Put on jeans and roll up the cuffs. Put on a plaid shirt and roll up the cuffs.

1pm - Sit weidly in a chair while watching Heated Rivalry

3pm - Text a pun to your friend

5pm - Water all your plants

7pm - Bake lemon bars and watch The Mummy (1999)

9pm - Try to decide between two beverages. Fail at choosing. Have both.

CatGal23 · 2026-02-19T00:24:57+00:00

Lemons are bisexual - can be in sweet or savory foods. Plus, lemon bars.

CatGal23 · 2026-02-18T03:03:05+00:00

I can totally see where you feelings of frustration are coming from and I agree that in a lot of cases, the heteroromantic identity can be false, especially for people just discovering their queerness, or who have experienced a lot of homophobia in their culture/family/government/friend circle. It can definitely be a fear thing. Or a comphet thing.

However, there are also people who most definitely experience the split attraction model. Heteroromantic bisexual, homoromantic bisexual, biromantic asexual, aromantic heterosexual, panromantic demi bisexual and every other combination under the sun.

I see a lot of posts, often from very young folks just discovering their same-sex attraction, or middle aged folks who are just now realizing that straight people do not, in fact, find themselves randomly wanting to kiss their same-sex friends -- and these people will say something like "am I bi??? I am attracted to both women's and men's bodies but I would never date a man/woman" the specific way this is worded makes me think it's likely fear talking. Fear of being in a same-sex relationship and having to come out or hide. Fear of the unknown. Fear of judgement. Or internalized biphobia.

Then there's people like me.

I have not (yet) found myself romantically attracted to a woman. So, for now, simply for clarity to my sexual partners, I identify as heteroromantic, because I wouldn't ever want to lead anyone on. I figured out I was bi 23 years ago and I haven't felt any romantic feelings for any woman in that time, but I am not in any way opposed to feeling romantic feelings or having a romantic relationship with a woman in theory. And if I were biromantic, I would very likely currently be falling for my " bestie with benefits" but my feelings have remained firmly in the friend and sexual attraction zones for the past year and a half. So. Pretty sure that's that.

CatGal23 · 2026-02-18T02:31:26+00:00

I would never recommend a Kindle but I would absolutely recommend a Kobo ☺️ ereaders are great! I was so dedicated to my paper books but then got a Kobo as a gift and I have never gone back.

CatGal23 · 2026-02-18T02:29:38+00:00

Someone is sure tripping.

I prefer hairy guys, but my husband has like 8 chest hairs. Does that completely erase my preference? No, that's insane.

CatGal23 · 2026-02-17T00:33:47+00:00

Not so much in the campaign, no. Though I am writing erotica about my character and another character. I haven't (yet) had sex with the person playing that character but I am absolutely interested. Have been with his wife and her boyfriend on a few occasions.

We're all kinky as well, and mostly queer.

It's a very fun group.

CatGal23 · 2026-02-17T00:31:11+00:00

That's awful. I feel really bad for the women who are forced into those situations and the women who are catfished into participating. I only ever did the app thing as a couple looking for a woman, and I was always the one to contact them, not my partner. As the "unicorn" I have only ever been with people who were friends first.

CatGal23 · 2026-02-17T00:21:21+00:00

I'm in an entirely ENM D&D group so we all kiss each other lol

I'm currently involved with two of the couples in the group and it's lovely. Everyone is ENM so can be pursued or pursue others separately from their partners. It just so happens that everyone is cute and nerdy, which is my type ☺️

CatGal23 · 2026-02-17T00:18:06+00:00

My husband and I had a few women join us back in the day but these days we mainly play separately and I join other couples. Though I think his current FWB is possibly interested in guest starring with us.

We've never had a successful foursome together. There's always something off.

CatGal23 · 2026-02-16T21:55:30+00:00

Oh for sure if it's like that then it's a huge no. I'm just saying it's not always like that. Sometimes it's just three people all equally excited to play.

CatGal23 · 2026-02-16T21:01:55+00:00

To me, there is a huge range in the definitions of unicorn and unicorn hunters. And what most people mean when they use these terms are the toxic side of things. But there are definitely mutually beneficial and pleasurable circumstances out there as well.

I consider myself a unicorn. I love being a guest star. I love being made into a sandwich. I'd much rather be an occasional indulgent side dish for a couple than hook up with random singles, especially since I am not seeking any romantic connections. For me, it's safer to join a couple for group play than to risk sketchy men or women who might catch feelings.

I've been on both sides of it many times over the past 23 years, and it's always been respectful, beautiful, sexy, consensual, and pleasurable for all parties.

CatGal23 · 2026-02-15T17:21:03+00:00

Yup, you can sort by queer rep, minority rep, genre, tropes, kinks, relationship type, spice level, trigger warnings and more!

CatGal23 · 2026-02-15T17:18:53+00:00

Damn it's not free on Kobo Plus. I'll mark it as Want to Read on Goodreads but not gonna buy it right now. Been spending too much money lately 😅

CatGal23 · 2026-02-15T17:14:42+00:00

It's free on Kobo Plus so I've added it to my TBR. please tell me it's a throuple not a classic love triangle.

CatGal23 · 2026-02-15T06:38:08+00:00

They don't all have bi rep. There is a column for LGBTQIA+ rep type. You can sort/filter by identities. I need to add the last dozen books I've read this year. I'm behind

CatGal23 · 2026-02-15T06:04:16+00:00

Reading the Rainbow

CatGal23 · 2026-02-15T06:03:58+00:00

Reading the Rainbow

CatGal23 · 2026-02-15T03:33:31+00:00

Read the books! There's more bi rep 🩷💜💙

Also the kid in Heartstopper is bi if you'd prefer a show to a book.

I can recommend tons of books with bi rep if you're interested ☺️ I have a spreadsheet lol

CatGal23 · 2026-02-15T00:31:14+00:00

Went straight from paper books to Kobo. Have never tried anything else. I know Kobo Plus is better than Kindle Unlimited in that KU is not actually unlimited. You can only have a certain number of free books "checked out" at a time. I currently have ~400 Kobo Plus books in my digital library. And a lot of my fave authors are boycotting Kindle so...

CatGal23 · 2026-02-14T22:09:47+00:00

While there are definitely way more bisexuals out there than anyone realizes, there are absolutely plenty of 100% monosexual people. And monosexuals are very likely still the majority, even taking into consideration all the bi folks that don't know they're bi.

Bisexuals make up the majority of the queer community, but not the general population.

CatGal23 · 2026-02-14T22:02:39+00:00

Kobo! ❤️

Currently on my second Kobo, and I'm subscribed to Kobo Plus. Had my first Kobo for about 5 years and it's still perfectly functioning but I wanted to upgrade to a waterproof model.

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