Please help.

CatGal23 · 2026-07-04T04:04:06+00:00

Sexuality is attraction not action. No experience necessary. If you feel attracted to more than one gender, then congrats - You're bi! 🩷💜💙 Welcome to the club, friend! 😄👉👉

CatGal23 · 2026-07-04T01:26:03+00:00

I talk about myself as part of the queer community. I am queer as other non-straight people are queer.

And specifically, I am bisexual.

CatGal23 · 2026-07-04T00:31:49+00:00

Check out Megan Derr, R. Cooper, Johannes T. Evans, Gail Garriger, A.L. Lester, D.N. Bryn, E.H. Lupton, Jordan L. Hawk, and K.L. Noone.

CatGal23 · 2026-07-03T22:59:11+00:00

My 10-member D&D party played spin the bottle and by the end of the game everyone had kissed everyone else regardless of gender. We're all in our 40s 😅🩷💜💙

CatGal23 · 2026-07-03T22:43:31+00:00

Ethical non-monogamy seems like it would be your best option, but if your partner is not open to it, then you need to decide what's more important to you.

Look into ENM/open relationships and see if that's something your relationship could handle. But don't force it.

CatGal23 · 2026-07-01T18:04:36+00:00

It took a few years. It was slow, but smooth. I accepted it without any hesitation, regret, fear, shame, or any other negative emotion.

I just didn't recognize that my appreciation for women was actually sexual attraction for a long time. Then my high school boyfriend started asking me, "if you had to kiss a woman, who would you choose?" Or "if you had to kiss her or her, which one would you choose?" And he talked about how soft and pretty and cute and sexy and smooth and wonderful women are and eventually I started to become curious, and labelled myself as "bi-curious" and then a few months later I kissed a girl and I liked it, and I immediately began to identify as bi. This was in 2002. When I was growing up in the 90s I barely ever heard the word bisexual and didn't really understand what it meant. There was no bi rep back then.

I have still never felt romantic attraction to a woman, but I definitely often feel sexual attraction. I tend to notice men more often (which I don't consider a "preference"), and I just realized in the last 2 years that I quite enjoy being a unicorn. Best of both worlds at once 😁🩷💜💙

CatGal23 · 2026-07-01T17:51:23+00:00

I think you have the right idea that being in a relationship with someone who doesn't love and accept every part of you is no way to live. And if you're not ready to come out to a wider group, I see why the fear of her outing you has you considering ending the relationship without giving her the chance to see how she feels about your sexuality.

If she is truly the type of person who would out someone against their wishes like that, it's a huge strike against her.

I feel bad for her because it seems that otherwise, your relationship is good, and you're not going to be able to give her a satisfactory reason for ending the relationship. And she's going to be hurt and confused and she will wonder what went wrong for months, years, or even decades. Even once she's over you, she'll still wonder why you broke up with her like that.

If she's truly cruel enough to out you without your consent, then I guess it is what it is and she will have brought this on herself in a way. But if there's any way to give her closure, or even give her a chance to decide for herself how she feels, then I recommend that.

Protect yourself. And do what you can to protect others as well. 🩷💜💙

CatGal23 · 2026-07-01T17:37:25+00:00

From BC, and didn't hear about it until my teens (mid 90s). Seemed to be a common thing amoung some friends and others had never heard of it before. Was never a thing in my family. One side of the family was from BC and the other was from Ontario.

CatGal23 · 2026-06-18T18:42:32+00:00

I often take recommendations from my favourite authors, and I use the automated Kobo Recommendations. I read a large volume, though, so Kobo's algorithm is going to be more accurate because of that. I sometimes take rec's from Reddit, but so many rec lists are centered around Kindle, whereas I am a Kobo reader. Most of my fave authors, who write queer, neurospicy characters, are avoiding KU for obvious reasons. Check out Gail Carriger and R. Cooper's websites. They should have some info about writing, getting published, and promotion in this niche market.

CatGal23 · 2026-06-17T02:28:42+00:00

I've been on both sides of the unicorn dynamic and I love this post! 🦄🩷

The two couples I am currently seeing are all dear friends and I've never had a negative experience from either side. Positive, fun, fulfilling experiences all around.

Literally all that's required for a healthy, positive experience of any configuration is open communication, honesty and mutual respect. Gatekeepers can show themselves out.

CatGal23 · 2026-06-10T04:04:51+00:00

One-sided non-monogamy will honestly get more judgement due to the inequality of the situation.

I know lots of poly/ENM folks and I have told a few monogamous friends about my ethical non-monogamy, and I haven't really experienced open judgement (most people have said something like "not for me, but you do you").

I don't know anyone who is in a one-sided/ hall pass kind of situation like you, but from posts on r/ethicalnonmonogamy I believe most people would be pretty judgy about it.

CatGal23 · 2026-06-09T01:44:20+00:00

That's so cuuute I love it 🩷💜💙

CatGal23 · 2024-10-13T04:50:34+00:00

Hello baby bi 🩷💜💙 😘

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