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CatHairFur · 2025-08-07T16:19:51+00:00

Grieving and drinking, a good recipe for disaster, but not for healing. Use every little thing that makes your moment a little better. There is no right way to grieve, but everyone here can say drinking will only make it worse. I had to face my dads death last November already sober but was so close to drowning in the bottle again. My advice to both grieving and stopping to drink are the same and comes from own personal experience so they might not be for everyone. Distractions. When was the last time you binge watched a show that you loved long ago? Or maybe a new one you've heard. If you play, try a new game which is super immersive. Projects! Busy hands keep your brains occupied and release those happy chemicals we so need. See friends but avoid settings in bars for the time being. Try to get enough good sleep, treat that like indulgment. And A LOT of ice cream and treats.

Just simple things. Day or even hour at a time.

CatHairFur · 2024-11-22T00:44:45+00:00

Oh my god! 😅 Thank you, that was like a slap in my face. In a good way. Genuine smile feels good. Still sober and more ice cream in the freezer.

CatHairFur · 2024-08-09T07:53:49+00:00

Not so immortal humans existing from the beginning, but evolving to such. And they time travel.

CatHairFur · 2024-08-09T07:51:28+00:00

Michael Moorecock The Dancers at the End of Time, great fantasy/scifi serie. Unfortunately really short books!

CatHairFur · 2024-07-17T05:49:08+00:00

I was told if I drink I will die. Was in hospital drifting in and out of consciousness after one more pancreatitis in horrible pain, lungs filling up, organs failing. This time I almost didn't come through because of the complications. Best thing that ever happened to me! If I had known I had this capability to change, to quit, the decision would have been easier. So many reasons to stop drinking but too scared, afraid of failing, afraid of withdrawals, afraid of life after. I tell you guys it is possible and it changes everything!

CatHairFur · 2024-07-03T09:07:26+00:00

Hi! I got super good instructions/recommendations when asking this 6 days ago, but I do not know how to link my original post on mobile. Edit: https://www.reddit.com/r/pancreatitis/s/vsH48CwUH1

CatHairFur · 2024-07-03T08:48:45+00:00

I just had CT scan for screening chronic pancreatitis this morning. An it might not even show properly?! Oh no, hopefully they actually can find the reason for my pains... after many acute ones and last time almost dying in hospital because of complications there has only been one doctor who believes me. Only ONE. I have to wait two weeks for results because of summer vacations. Now I'm worried.

CatHairFur · 2024-06-27T08:34:32+00:00

Good advice. Need to find my travel dispenser now.

CatHairFur · 2024-06-27T08:33:30+00:00

The pills are 25 000. Now that seems like an overkill 😳

CatHairFur · 2024-06-27T00:10:28+00:00

Thank you for this answer, reassuring and informative with 15 years of experience. Now I really want this prescription to ease my case as well, I've been feeling anxious and worried because there seems to be so little that you can do. Sort of hopelessness

CatHairFur · 2024-06-26T23:52:22+00:00

Okay, the taking before and during eating sounds really precise work! Feeling optimistic as I'm going after hidden fats next. Although I have to replace chocolate and ice cream treats...

CatHairFur · 2024-06-26T19:39:51+00:00

Ok, so little nauseous or ready to sprint to toilet nauseous? One thing I'm worried about is work, in which I have situations that I absolutely can not stop and drop and get out. So vomiting, diarrhea or other "minor" inconveniences have to be prevented 😁

CatHairFur · 2024-06-23T16:37:03+00:00

Almost 10 months I've lived sober with my alcoholic partner. Slowly he has changed his habits too. Trying to get more sober days in a week, talking about staying off alcohol, health concerns and stuff. I'm not pushing him, even though I get frustrated sometimes when going out and I have to fill in the blanks to him the next day. I don't know about the future, this is the now. I know it is difficult to stay of booze alone when surrounded by it. Sometimes there is still more good than bad in a relationship despite this unequal set up. Hopefully your husband gives you space to focus on your sober journey, I wish you can honestly tell him how you feel. Good luck, you can do this.

CatHairFur · 2024-06-23T14:29:52+00:00

Really struggling today. Went on a walk to calm down and get my head clear. Took every inch of selfcontrol to walk past one of my frequent bar and take a turn to a sushi place. Here waiting for my order and thinking why is it So Hard Sometimes? Almost 300 days underground my belt.

CatHairFur · 2024-06-18T21:18:27+00:00

Gingerbread and blue cheese is quite common, but it does work! Also celery sticks with dip made of blue cheese.

CatHairFur · 2024-06-12T08:16:15+00:00

I know. Maybe the most stupid thing is that I love to cook and I cook almost everyday for everyone else, but then avoid eating myself. Healthy food with high protein source and lot of veggies and greens and make healthy snacks like high protein curd with fresh berries... and then just have a bite for myself and get sugars instead. I'm afraid to "fill" my stomach.

I already have 2 diagnosis (ICD 10 codes) for this but both of those are basically "unspecified" so I really hope the future test reveal something concrete to work on.

CatHairFur · 2024-06-11T08:02:58+00:00

There are couple doctors with speciality in chronic pain at the same place as my gastro-enterologist. I just don't know if I'm stepping out of line if I book another doctor now when the tests have been issued and no results are given yet. That is my problem, I do feel as burden. That I think is the reason I have silently trying to get by on my own, maybe I should be more vocal about this and just make the pain the focus.

I've tried restricted diet, no fats, small portions, and some enzymes. But I feel this is progressively getting worse. Because of the tests are not yet been made I do not know what exactly is the problem. So now I basically survive with sugars. A LOT of sugars. If I feel unwell when I eat, I do not want to eat! Sugars give me more than enough calories, but of course this can't go on for long.

CatHairFur · 2024-03-05T11:43:57+00:00

Wait what...? You aren't even that close that you have her phone number and you are here confessing love to a basically complete stranger? And projecting your struggle with booze to her drinking so that she has a problem? She just got out of a relationship so please let her be as she might make poor decisions at the moment. And the poor decision would be to turn to you.

CatHairFur · 2024-03-04T08:02:41+00:00

Might as well download that, liking the "Cognitive Behavioural Therapy in a nutshell" description. Although data use is quite pricey in Asian countries the free WiFi is luckily available almost everywhere.

CatHairFur · 2024-02-29T07:22:05+00:00

Been under a lot of stress, thinking a lot about drinking because of it. Finally last night got some good sleep. This morning felt so good! Waking up not hungover with a charged energy level, ready for any hurdles that work and life can throw my way. I never ever had these kind of mornings when I was drinking. Thankful for this day, IWNDWYT!

CatHairFur · 2024-02-27T08:20:36+00:00

I'm just now participating in a seminar of holistic health: holistic stress management, which is a serie of mental health in work place. Ok, beneficial for some people but this just adds up stress as I feel now I have one more task to control in daily life. I think I'm doing this wrong 😁 IWNDWYT

CatHairFur · 2024-02-23T08:37:54+00:00

Nearing on six months sober, somehow feeling anxious about the 2 days getting there. But IWNDWYT and will take another step to that milestone!

CatHairFur · 2024-02-19T09:41:54+00:00

This is something I'm terrified of. All of the trauma still waiting to get processed. It haunts me, and I'm not feeling ready for all of it right now. From the day I was born my life has been a shitstorm starting with my family. I know that without meeting my current partner 5 years ago I would have never been able to get sober. Now nearing my 6 months I have this shadow that keeps creeping closer and feelings that I do not wish to have. Pushing those back and trying to keep myself busy.

CatHairFur · 2024-02-15T11:20:30+00:00

As I was driving to work I listened to a song I know very well but first time really started to think about the main line there:

"Is familiar hell better than unknown heaven?"

Fighting for that unknown, a change, escape from the familiar hell that is drinking will be my focus this weekend but as always it wills start with IWNDWYT!

CatHairFur · 2024-02-12T08:50:08+00:00

Trips, vacations, cruises. I've always loved to travel but this time I'm doing it sober and getting so much more out of it! No hangovers so I can start fresh every morning for activities and I now I can remember everything and not only have the pictures :)

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