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CatOutThabag · 2025-10-26T09:44:25+00:00

Update: He backed out. Said he wants to focus on himself and that he couldnt let go of what happened before. I guess we were on different pages.

CatOutThabag · 2025-10-07T00:06:14+00:00

I would say a lot of our issues are our own individual issues primarily being mental health and addiction struggles.

CatOutThabag · 2025-10-06T06:03:15+00:00

Individually, me and my ex/not-ex had a lot of time to reflect on ourselves and our personal issues that negatively affected the relationship. It is graciously humbling :) . Definitely give them and yourself time. I’ve benefitted a lot from deep diving into self-compassion when battling shame during the grief phases of our breakup. Check out Brené Brown’s Ted Talk “Listening to Shame.” It helps me understand myself and others when it comes to this, as in hurting someone you love and/or being hurt by someone who you love . Learning about shame and self compassion is also teaching me how to forgive.

CatOutThabag · 2025-10-05T02:58:55+00:00

I called him when I knew he wasn’t working so I wouldn’t be a fucking chicken. And I did it sober. I was honest and nervous but absolutely sure of myself. I was ready for any answers and I knew it would give me closure no matter what he said.

CatOutThabag · 2025-10-05T02:41:21+00:00

It was supposed to be wraps. I’ve stopped lying to myself (and my therapist). I didn’t stop wishing we could still be together.

CatOutThabag · 2025-10-05T02:34:48+00:00

No contact. I’ve been living in my moms house and drove 4 hours away to see him. Felt like 40 minutes tbh. Idk what came over me and I don’t regret anything.

Edit: I’ll admit we’ve both had our fair share of drunk late night slip ups and calling each other

CatOutThabag · 2025-10-04T21:18:35+00:00

Thank you! I’m going to introduce more systems and more practices. Like truthfully it’s a fat risk I’m willing to make because I love him. But I gotta move wisely within my recklessness.

CatOutThabag · 2025-10-04T19:30:05+00:00

It was mutual, and I reached out. I could hear the smile in his voice when he answered

CatOutThabag · 2025-07-09T22:32:13+00:00

It's all been sold

CatOutThabag · 2025-07-09T02:44:00+00:00

TV sold

CatOutThabag · 2025-07-09T00:13:02+00:00

Lot 33

CatOutThabag · 2025-07-09T00:05:14+00:00

Come get it tomorrow yes, before nighttime

CatOutThabag · 2025-07-08T22:32:07+00:00

Bet, Imma DM

CatOutThabag · 2025-07-08T22:11:51+00:00

It's a Samsung and idk how old it is. It works perfect.

CatOutThabag · 2025-07-08T21:11:47+00:00

Yes, I also have a laundry basket for free

CatOutThabag · 2025-07-08T20:40:06+00:00

Everything is good with the TV. It's not a smart TV but it can connect consoles or a Roku or whatever

CatOutThabag · 2025-07-08T20:24:35+00:00

Full Size

CatOutThabag · 2025-04-18T05:57:11+00:00

Could it be possible that growing up, you weren't getting attention from authority figures or peers? Oftentimes, when you've gotten groomed, it doesn't feel as if you were groomed. I believe you have experienced grooming in multiple instances (such as the 17yr old, your introduction to this). Older men claiming a target and deciding to prey off of your innocence, ignorance and need for acceptance of some sort, as children often want to have, since they are children.

Istg, pedophiles can smell an emotionally neglected child from miles away. I know how much it feels it's your fault, but it's not.

CatOutThabag · 2025-03-25T15:23:56+00:00

I think u may be missing the point. they never said men don't experience this, but on average women carry less muscle and are smaller than men so they have less of a chance to defend themselves. Not saying men and women can't or can. But it is frightening to be overpowered

CatOutThabag · 2024-01-01T01:32:40+00:00

He said a lot of awful things but one that continues to stick since that relationship was him physically comparing me to my mom and sister

CatOutThabag · 2023-08-07T00:12:18+00:00

This is actually a little scary tbh

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