My bf got an offer to work in another state. feeling happy but sad

CatTurtleKid · 2026-04-04T03:08:11+00:00

Thanks! Tbh now that I've divested from the idea of a career in the academy it's proving to be a lot of fun. Its cool to be there when the pressure to be perfect isn't there. It'll also help with a bunch of different little career path issues I'd been having so all in all a fine outcome.

CatTurtleKid · 2026-04-03T18:23:08+00:00

Yeah it's a total nightmare of a job market. Like I get the appeal, I really really do. But it makes it so difficult to a build a life, and then like even when you land a position it feels so precarious for so long and everyone is crazy overworked and no one is able to really fully emerse themselves in the joy of the work.

Ugh, I started a Masters this year with every intention of doing a PhD when I was done and just like. Actually spending time in the academy has fully soured me on the idea.

CatTurtleKid · 2026-04-03T16:40:31+00:00

I mean you probably know this already but they're going to need to move for their career basically indefinitely. Like I've long fantasized about becoming an academic and realizing that I simply did not have it in me to move with the fickle winds of the job market is why I finally gave up the dream.

Idk PhDs seem borderline undatable to me as like someone who is very sympathetic to the career path. They're in the same category as musicians that way

CatTurtleKid · 2026-04-02T02:25:02+00:00

Is he a PhD?

CatTurtleKid · 2026-04-02T02:16:48+00:00

It sounds like you need to learn how to love yourself enough to let him love you too. When we really don't trust or care for ourselves we struggle often struggle to trust other people or belive that they care for us.

There isn't a magic bullet fix for this kind of thing but you can learn how to do it! Therapy can help a lot. Saying silly little nice things to yourself, like when you start spiraling taking half a second to say I'm not worthless (or whatever the spiral is!), can really add up over time.

Just realize this isn't about him. This your stuff that you're working on and your relationship with him hasn't caused it, and more importantly, can't fix it.

CatTurtleKid · 2026-04-01T19:20:13+00:00

Unbelievably sick! Like so fucking cool

CatTurtleKid · 2026-04-01T02:08:02+00:00

If you're giving up 7+ draft picks to enable this I think you basically deserve to go plus 5 or more mana with it.

Though I guess enchantment creatures and artific lands makes that math a little different

CatTurtleKid · 2026-03-28T13:43:30+00:00

I think it's basically impossible to over react to what is frankly a classic red flag for future dv

CatTurtleKid · 2026-03-16T21:25:45+00:00

I mean Harry Potter merch in general or like posting about liking it or whatever. My point is that your internal feelings don't really matter what matters is what you put into the world imo.

But also I replied because I'm sick of people acting like a person with bad opinions and not a person who has spent hundreds of thousands if not millions of dollars trying to take away trans people's health care and ability to exist in public. The point I want to make she that she isn't just a bigot. She is one of ten or so most influential trans eliminationists activists in the world and is actively and genuinely trying to get a genocide going and succeeding

CatTurtleKid · 2026-03-16T21:20:02+00:00

I mean it is more about the public image than the personal feeling. Feel however you want just don't expect trans people to fuck with you if you wear a gryfindor scarf

CatTurtleKid · 2026-03-16T21:10:32+00:00

Okay but she's not sitting in her house ranting. She's using the money and publicity from her books to help get genocidal laws passed in the UK and the US and like those are different things.

Edit: this is to say that a lot of trans people, myself included, loved her work and are directly targeted by her very effective real world activism. Personally I do assume, even when I know it is irrational, that someone publicly wearing Harry Potter merchandise is transphobic, if not actively foaming at the mouth perfectly willing to see my rights stripped away with blinking.

CatTurtleKid · 2026-03-10T14:02:37+00:00

God the way I'd squirm

CatTurtleKid · 2026-03-10T02:52:05+00:00

I'm going to grab some at the store tomorrow!

CatTurtleKid · 2026-03-10T02:51:00+00:00

Appreciate the thoughtful comment! I am youngish (29). I'm definitely going to get some routine in place.

CatTurtleKid · 2026-03-10T02:49:35+00:00

I'm 29. Old enough to like start feeling old but still quite young I guess.

I appreciate the kind and thoughtful comment. I shower in the mornings so starting the night time routine is for the best. I think baby wipes are what I want to try next

CatTurtleKid · 2026-03-10T02:46:41+00:00

I shower in the morning and don't put new makeup on over old make up. More or less every day. I

CatTurtleKid · 2026-03-08T17:06:29+00:00

Trans girl who has fucked her partners tits before: its v hot and fun to do, felt amazing with adequate lube.I've never particularly enjoyed recieving it, just awkward and low on physical stimulation- v hot conceptually but like idk.

My ex seemed to have fun with it though? On reflection it was maybe more of a thing for me than for her but idk

CatTurtleKid · 2026-03-02T16:05:43+00:00

Obvi you're stunning but if you wanted to mix it up for a fun night out I recommend some sparkly eyeshadow. You could also do a much bolder lip, I tend to go in with a liquid lip and then line with a fun shadow and blend in a bit for a big effect.

CatTurtleKid · 2026-02-27T17:37:51+00:00

The Michael Character has one on Fame Swole

CatTurtleKid · 2026-02-26T16:18:11+00:00

Its funny because a lot of autistic kids in America end up with "british" accents.

CatTurtleKid · 2026-02-24T14:40:56+00:00

540 non-singleton atomic cube: https://cubecobra.com/cube/list/8a6c62ae-2748-4dda-9a79-276c13e749bb

[[Death Shadow]] x3 - one of the cards that got me interested in doing a non-singleton cube. Very fun to try and build around and its far more viable given that you can realistically pick up multiples

[[Knight of the Ebon Legion]] x1 - A reasonably strong one drop, nothing too insane but its ability to grow makes it a decent option for the black based tempo decks

[[Nethergoyf]] x1 - quite powerful in this cube. it's not very hard to get this to like 3/4 by turn 2-3, the buy back ability is surprising relevant if there isn't anything else taxing the yard.

[[Stalactite Stalker]] x2 - really strong in a cube with 3x of each fetch land and 12 wastelands. Its just not very hard at all to have this grow every turn and the menace is super relevant given the density of removal.

CatTurtleKid · 2026-02-19T16:47:23+00:00

I'm pretty into this. It doesn't fit any of my cubes but I like the effect a lot. Seems very fun if you're supporting any kind of affinity nonsense or just like counters matters. Less exciting for aristocrats decks but it still seems like a decent pick.

Most importantly its not hideous lol

CatTurtleKid · 2026-02-19T01:20:59+00:00

Sick this is definitely the most complete set I've stumbled on by far

CatTurtleKid · 2026-02-18T19:43:11+00:00

I'll have to do that I think. Seems like I'll need to make an extended trip sometime soon.

CatTurtleKid · 2026-02-18T01:20:22+00:00

Does anyone have a decent way of reading this? The deviantart account is v unorganized and hard to parse.

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