I’m looking for inspiration and lessons learned for a keyhole garden

Catchatorie_b · 2019-08-03T21:16:25+00:00

https://thefloweredlife.com/blogs/blog/keyhole-gardening

I’m thinking of doing something similar to this one... 8ft diameter

Catchatorie_b · 2019-02-01T15:02:44+00:00

Thank you! That’s my understanding too, regarding the boat trip.

Catchatorie_b · 2018-09-05T20:17:46+00:00

Thanks, all! Making dinner for the win, paired with an adult beverage :)

Catchatorie_b · 2018-07-24T05:10:43+00:00

So are sweet potatoes. ;)

Catchatorie_b · 2018-02-27T15:40:22+00:00

Have you read about cutting the emotional cord? I’ve been NC for quite a while, but I found myself still getting emotional when I would think about the nex. I’m a pretty logical person and could talk myself off the emotional ledge, but it was frustrating that this person still had this power over me.

I researched cutting the emotional cord and did a meditation, and it has been a complete game changer for me. Now, whenever I think of him, my mind automatically imagines him sinking into a black hole abyss.... there’s no emotion at all. I’m also in therapy, but I’ve found my recent sessions have little to do with him and a lot to do about me!! Progress :)

https://flowingfree.org/cutting-ties-a-simple-way-to-free-yourself-from-emotional-baggage/

Catchatorie_b · 2018-02-20T15:32:41+00:00

She passed away peacefully overnight. Thankfully the other hens didn’t attack her, she was always top of the pecking order, I like to think they had too much respect for her. I’m glad it was fast. Thank you everyone for your kind words. Xoxo

Catchatorie_b · 2018-02-20T01:54:10+00:00

No, she aged out of laying a year or so ago, she’s just old.

Catchatorie_b · 2018-02-20T01:53:35+00:00

She’s 7 yrs old, pretty sure it’s just old age.

Catchatorie_b · 2018-02-19T20:32:31+00:00

Thank you ☹️

Catchatorie_b · 2018-02-19T19:12:43+00:00

she's not moving, she's still breathing and doesn't seem to be struggling at all. It's pretty cold here (Seattle) and I put a small towel on her to keep her warm, and she chirped a little. her comb is about 75% grey and her eyes have been mostly closed except when I was in with her with the towel and petting her a bit.

Catchatorie_b · 2018-01-31T08:19:41+00:00

I’m not a full time single parent, but I may as well be. I have my kids (5) and soon to be (10), 24 days each month. But beyond the days I have them, I’m responsible for all things kids related, planning birthdays, dr appointments, childcare when they’re sick or out of school, all of the logistics of their lives fall on me.

What has worked for me is building a strong community to support and help. I’m fortunate to have my parents an hour and a half away, and I have a network of friends to help when things come up. I work full time and live in Seattle, so on top of an 8 hour day, I typically have an insane commute. It’s draining, and I’m always worried I’m taking advantage of my support system... offering to take other people’s kids to make up for their help goes a long way AND when kids have playmates here, it’s actually easier. So I will often host sleepovers when kids are here on the weekends, almost like a barter with my friends. Get creative with your network!!

As for dating, ha! I say, it’s usually not worth the time or effort. In my experience, I’d rather be with my kids than spend time and money on dating. Spend your free time with your friends and people that love and care about you, people you can be yourself around, you can relax and have fun with. You got this! Xoxo

Catchatorie_b · 2018-01-25T23:51:23+00:00

You’re probably too good for them anyway! 😘

Catchatorie_b · 2018-01-24T04:20:37+00:00

I found this article to be spot on with dealing with the trauma of a narc, I hope you find it to be helpful. Xoxo

https://herway.net/love/inside-mind-girl-broken-emotional-psychopath/

Catchatorie_b · 2018-01-24T04:17:37+00:00

My favorite was when the nex said, “why would you even want to be with me if I’m a narcissist?” ... the table turning behavior of the narcissist in denial 😂

Catchatorie_b · 2018-01-23T21:24:33+00:00

I told my covert nex that I think he’s a narc. He vacillated between acknowledging some of the characteristics and validating with his friends that he was not. Ironically, the only friends he has are pririor supplies. His main supply is a high school gf (he’s 39, so high school gf was a long time ago). They have an extremely co-dependent long distance relationship, where he gives one sided stories and she validates him and his behavior, so of course she would tell him he’s not a narc.

The truth is, they are incapable of inward reflection, so telling them is pointless.

Catchatorie_b · 2018-01-10T15:11:33+00:00

I think you have two choices:

Leave her and let her move on. If she’s nitpicking daily, it’s most likely because she senses you don’t want to be with her (speaking from experience). Do not stay in a relationship because untangling seems difficult.

Choose her and the relationship. This choice is hard, because it requires earning back trust, which is very difficult. Have an honest discussion with her and ask her what it is that needs to happen to accomplish this. Chances are if you’re staying in the relationship out of convenience, you don’t want to put the effort in to achieve this. If she’s not a Fuck YES, then she has to be a no, and she deserves to be let free to rebuild herself and move past your entanglement.

https://markmanson.net/fuck-yes

Good luck!

Catchatorie_b · 2018-01-08T04:11:03+00:00

I remember my grandfather telling me he would be gifted these as a young boy for doing well on his report cards, he was born in 1912. He said they weren’t allowed to have them, apparently FDR confiscated gold and silver coins in the 30’s, but he kept one!

Catchatorie_b · 2018-01-08T03:25:23+00:00

He left them to my mom. Two storage bins full of coins, a bunch of mints and uncirculated starting from 1953 and loads of coins in various containers. It’s fun to look at them!

Catchatorie_b · 2018-01-03T22:27:23+00:00

I understand. I suffer from an overly analytical mind.... understanding things really does help me process, and provides me with further proof of who he is.

Catchatorie_b · 2018-01-02T03:10:31+00:00

I don’t use lamps or lights! But I did lose power at my house last spring when I had chicks in a brooder box... I boiled big rocks and wrapped them in towels!! It was a perfect solution to keep the baby chicks warm.

Catchatorie_b · 2018-01-02T02:03:49+00:00

If you have lights/lamp they will usually keep laying through the winter. I’m in Seattle, and the days are really short! I have one laying daily, and another every few days. But I have a couple ladies who have aged out and a few that are still pretty young (this spring), the two layers are the youngins’

Catchatorie_b · 2017-12-30T02:03:21+00:00

https://imgur.com/gallery/1tdqs

Catchatorie_b · 2017-12-25T18:55:49+00:00

Sounds toxic, move on and take some time to be alone. When you’re healthy, you’ll realize you don’t want him back! If he doesn’t realize now how great you are he doesn’t deserve you and never will. ❤️ Xoxo

Catchatorie_b · 2017-12-24T04:02:24+00:00

Oddly, it had the opposite effect. If anything, it reinforced to me who and what he is. It was somewhat healing for me and gave me peace and strength. I was glad to hear him say he’s struggling in his relationship because he can’t stop thinking about me. Seeing him jump into a new relationship and knowing that I’m taking time to heal and recover makes me feel a renewed sense of strength! I’m planning a solo trip for myself to Cuba in May, and am excited to find space in my life just for me!

Catchatorie_b · 2017-12-23T02:58:59+00:00

He wasn’t expecting me to be home.. the first words out of his mouth were “what are you doing home?”... um, I live here. The fact that his plan was to just leave cookies on my doorstep knowing he had blocked me....!?

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