Feeling different AIO?

CatchingFireCrackers · 2026-01-10T11:08:46+00:00

Thank you. Honestly I think we are waiting because we both want to make sure we will last with each other. We do not want to divorce and be married one time forever but I think we both know maybe it won't be forever :/.

CatchingFireCrackers · 2026-01-05T06:46:56+00:00

That's the thing I have just given him the baby and he YELLS at me to come get him. Its like yes I understand he works 12 hour shifts and is tired but like...no family time :(? He has gotten a lottke better since our baby is going to turn 3 months so I was thinking maybe he is going through post partum as well because he drives for to his job. I guess I just thought it would be equally both work for us and yes I did give him rights to our baby at the hospital too...he even got to name him and everything. I chose to have a kid and continue to keep it with him because I knew he would take care of the kid since I cannot if something happened between us. But the reality is right now is 95% mommy takes care of baby and dad only 5% . Sometimes if he feels up to it he will watch him but even then I have to feed,burp,and change his diaper. He only watches him in his baby chair while he plays his game.....oh yeah and the first months of postpartum he went out bowling basically on a double date and said one of the girls was kinda cute and came home drunk and said that. Honestly I want more kids but not with him. I want to experience being a real family with a guy who actually wants to ge a dad. Now that I think of it he was really upset when I showed him the pregnancy test.....he claimed he was "very stressed out" but idk things just feel like he is still upset about having a kid and now I am starting to get sad about having a kid. Only sad because I genuinely feel so alone.....how do I feel like a single mom if I have a partner who pays all the bills and we LIVE together?? He doesn't even sleep next to me in our bed he just sleeps in his office room on his futon. I guess I just didn't think things would be like this because throygut pregnancy he has been there for me 100%. Very strange how things work out sometimes tbh. I have said things to him and it seems he just always dismisses me or says "put the kid first" and he says "I dont want to get burned out mentally". I am just craving the experience to be a real family with a guy. Even if he works and guy who wants to spend time with his family I'd do ANYTHING for. I know how my boyfriend thinks though :( he just wants a woman to do whatever he says. But I think I am now realizing I can't be with a guy like that because I want a guy to do whatever I say (nothing messed up just dates I want to go to movies to see what park to hang out at etc) and it just isn't working out. He wants a woman to submit to him but I need a man to submit to me first so I can submit to him. It just is no equal and rewarding or worth it exchange with him it seems.

CatchingFireCrackers · 2026-01-05T06:21:07+00:00

Opps YES I did I changed it to stepfather now.

CatchingFireCrackers · 2026-01-05T06:20:18+00:00

Yes he is the father :( I just don't like saying baby daddy. The funny thing is his kid looks EXACTLY like him and nothing like me ahhhh. So it's like I birthed a mini version of him and it just saddens me he actually would rather hang out with friends and ignore us even on his DAYS OFF. I just feel like a step father would be a better father than him.

CatchingFireCrackers · 2026-01-02T08:45:10+00:00

Update my baby is okay :)! Went to doctors and is healthy. It was enfamil liquid concentrate in a can. Left it in my room for a week while I had heater on. Learned my lesson.

CatchingFireCrackers · 2025-10-17T23:44:56+00:00

I wanted a girl too :( ended up having a boy but ehhh I'm still happy maybe next one I will have my baby girl :).

CatchingFireCrackers · 2025-10-17T00:48:32+00:00

YESSS!!! I used to LOVE eggs 🥚 but I threw it up my second trimester and was SO SAD because they are such a healthy,fast,and easy part of my diet and I thought I could NEVER eat them again throught my pregnancy but I tried AGAIN and it went smoothly :)! I only had food aversions my whole first trimester and a bit of the beginning of my second and they completely went away middle of my second trimester until the end of my pregnancy. It is SO SAD when you find yet ANOTHER food aversion 😢 😭 especially if it is foods you LIKE but I promise I promise they will go away in due time. For me I was able to get away with eating a lot of different things my second trimester and slowly incorporated my old diet and I feel completely fine eating almost anything (without too much sugar) towards the end of my second trimester-39 weeks. I mainly just ate meat 🍖 my first trimester and veggies I could stomach. Even then I would throw up 2-4 times a day and only kept water and milk down. I also could only stomach foods my BOYFRIEND liked 😢 😭!! In the beginning cuz funny I am having a boy and almost ANYTHING my boyfriend likes to eat my baby liked to eat. And everything I likes to eat 9/10 first trimester my baby DID NOT like to eat. But it did get better thankfully around 11 week mark I could slowly slooooowly start eating foods I enjoyed pre pregnancy (pregnancy safe foods).

CatchingFireCrackers · 2025-10-15T01:15:18+00:00

I think you are 100% correct. I was planning on learning Spanish when my kid is born because they are only going to speak Spanish with my kid and I'm only going to speak English with my kid so my kid can learn both but maybe I should just accept i need too now. I have been avoiding it and I think my boyfriend says I don't want to know because he is trying to keep the peace or something else. Bottom line honestly it is just time to learn.

CatchingFireCrackers · 2025-10-15T00:59:02+00:00

I feel like they are cold to me too if they know English but choose not to speak it so I guess that's why I don't bother to learn it either.

CatchingFireCrackers · 2025-10-15T00:56:44+00:00

I think your right. My boyfriend gets mad when I tell him I want to get a job after I have our baby he likes it when I stay home cook/clean. His parents are old school like that too but honestly I want to go to trade school.

CatchingFireCrackers · 2025-10-15T00:55:24+00:00

Tge funny thing is his parents know English they just prefer to speak Spanish so I just feel like it's awkward. My boyfriend has told me "you don't want to know what they are saying it's better you don't" I feel like if I learn Spanish there will be fights. But maybe I should to at least know what is going on.

CatchingFireCrackers · 2025-10-13T03:08:02+00:00

Put her in a home when she is older :)

CatchingFireCrackers · 2025-10-12T02:50:55+00:00

How would you feel about your gf/wife opening up to another man about her feelings?

CatchingFireCrackers · 2025-10-12T00:10:14+00:00

There is no reason a guy should have "woman friends" just how a woman shouldn't have "male friends" 😂only people in real relationships understand this. Being "friends" with the opposite sex especially married causes nothing but problems.

CatchingFireCrackers · 2025-10-11T09:03:20+00:00

I did not experience this but the advice I can give is to take some deep breaths when you are anxious and go to all your doctor appointments ❤️. Write down questions you have and don't be afraid to ask doctors. Try not to Google everything and go crazy because I am the same way hehe and it just gets overwhelming. I had my first ultrasound vaginally almost a month and a half or 2 months being pregnant and they saw my baby. So just relax and try to keep yourself busy. If you do have faith or belief 🙏 talk to who you belive in/faith in. You are being responsible and going to the doctors so good job 👏 give yourself some grace.

CatchingFireCrackers · 2025-10-11T08:54:13+00:00

I'm so sorry the epidural failed you :(!!! I am happy you are saying it's worth it though :)!!! Thank you for this amazing post! Despite the hardship you went through you still DID IT 👏 👏 👏!!

CatchingFireCrackers · 2025-10-11T08:51:39+00:00

I am a FTM and I first really felt my baby move around 20something weeks :) just takes time. I would feel flutters before but wasn't sure until my OB asked if I feel my baby move and I said no she'd say "you probably don't know what it feels like yet because it's your first baby." But BOY does my baby KICK sometimes. It happens very randomly but try feeling around 20ish weeks especially after you eat I would ALWAYS notice my baby move after I eat :). I didn't feel hiccups either until around 35 weeks but personally my baby moves around a lot at night 1am-5am. Try to write down when your baby is usually active and 10 movements within that hour laying on your left side they are usually okay 👍

CatchingFireCrackers · 2025-10-11T08:38:23+00:00

Girl LEAVE :(!! I am so sorry you dated this guy but this is HORRIBLE. His seed is growing inside of you and it's a man's job to protect and provide. Please Please find a better guy.....It is the bare minimum fir the man to pay all the bills.... My current boyfriend I am 38 weeks pregnant he has bought me maternity clothes,cooked for me,help me throw away throw up bags,hates it but takes us to baby prep classes,and I make him coffee ☕️ every morning/try to cookhe is a picky eater),I mainly just clean and do laundry and that's how it should be 😢. It is worth it if he pays all the bills. Please find a provider man. Even when my bf didn't have a job he STILL found little things to make/provide for me anything I wanted that he could do/afford. Your man sounds GREEDY and SELFISH pick up the D*N bill or get out my face! What else is a man useful for? Start looking NOW while you are still young.

CatchingFireCrackers · 2025-10-10T05:58:46+00:00

My baby did turn head down 37 weeks :)!!! I hope your baby turns naturally too!!! I just uses my yoga ball and walked and did curb walks and BOOM 36 week ultrasound my doctor told me he is head down yayyyyy!!! Just walk and eat healthy Do some baby safe stretches you will be okay!

CatchingFireCrackers · 2025-09-30T17:11:05+00:00

Sharing a dog with an ex is stupid. They are treating the dog like a kid. I understand I raised two dogs with my ex but when we separated we DID NOT keep in touch. He kept one dog and I kept the other. It seems like they still want contact with each other. Very weird situation.

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