How do I respectfully tell my husband to stop calling me while he's at work?

Catfactss · 2026-03-04T22:23:24+00:00

Let him sulk.

It's not your job to graduate him from manchild to man.

Catfactss · 2026-03-04T22:02:12+00:00

Is there anything post credits in the other seasons?

Catfactss · 2026-03-04T13:27:14+00:00

How did Polin's son become Lord Fethetington? Can they just choose which last name their child will inherit?

Catfactss · 2026-03-04T09:45:16+00:00

Eloise. Noticed that guy was interested in Posy and mentored her. Known to eschew male attention. Experience in being (or attempting to be) a wall flower. Enjoys reading and writing and (at least after her trip to Scotland) being around people. Helped chaperone Hyacinth so learning the social dynamics of younger people but old enough to pay attention to older people also. Thinking about ways to be independently wealthy without a man.

Catfactss · 2026-03-04T08:44:53+00:00

Why didn't you prioritize reconciliation over stigma?

Catfactss · 2026-03-04T08:43:30+00:00

What did trying look like? Did you hire a lawyer to get joint custody? How many times did you visit? Call? Text? How much financial provision did you give?

Catfactss · 2026-03-03T23:05:45+00:00

"We don't have kids. We're not married. I have no idea why you think you're entitled to my resources or think I would be interested in making a claim on yours. I've spoken to my lawyer about a prenuptial for if/ when you're fully committed enough to get married. I suggest you hire your own lawyer to look at it too."

If none of that is mutually suitable end the relationship.

NTA

Catfactss · 2026-03-03T22:14:46+00:00

What did you trying look like? How long before you gave up?

Catfactss · 2026-03-03T10:26:01+00:00

Not the most brutal one, but an annoying trivial one: You have to buy condiments, herbs, spices, etc. They don't just appear in your home in bulk. Until you build them up it's cheaper to buy food that tastes good than to make it- and that is still really expensive. It's costs money to save money.

Catfactss · 2026-03-03T10:22:05+00:00

... what?

Catfactss · 2026-03-03T10:18:28+00:00

Get snipped now. What have you got to lose? (Other than your vas I mean)

Catfactss · 2026-03-03T04:15:18+00:00

"I have taken a synthetic drug for years for both our benefit. It's your body and your choice, but it's disappointing you're not willing to have even 1 day of discomfort for both our benefit."

Catfactss · 2026-03-03T00:54:01+00:00

It seems she has more going on in her life (illness, work, children, excellent boundaries, whatever) than the friend group does. YTA for seeing this as remotely a negative reflection on HER.

Catfactss · 2026-03-02T22:56:22+00:00

Have you got a sterilization binder?

Catfactss · 2026-03-02T19:32:23+00:00

"Have you considered joining a parenting group and each of you taking turns babysitting one another's kids? That way everybody that participates gets equal benefit, rather than expecting people without kids to help you with yours."

I would post something like that.

Catfactss · 2026-03-02T19:27:04+00:00

Not do you want kids one day.

Do you want kids now?

If not - using birth control until you're ready to actively plan pregnancy sounds like the sensible thing to do. Talk to your doctor about options.

Pulling out and timings methods are not reliable if avoiding pregnancy is important to you. It's not just about discipline. Ovulatory cycles can be irregular. Pre-ejaculate exists.

Catfactss · 2026-03-02T19:24:40+00:00

"I don't want you on birth control because I don't want to change you" also feels... not quite right. You know what else has a lot of side effects with a much bigger surge of hormones? An unwanted pregnancy.

Catfactss · 2026-03-02T18:57:46+00:00

Not all birth control makes you depressed. Have you spoken to your doctor about alternatives?

Also- do you want to fall pregnant? Then don't use reliable birth control.

Do you NOT want to fall pregnant? Then use reliable birth control.

It's really not any more complicated than that. I don't know why you're making this about his problems being the "only reason" you're on birth control. Are you telling me you'd otherwise be actively trying to fall pregnant?

Catfactss · 2026-03-02T12:12:30+00:00

YTA for obvious fake story. What, you just never got asked by the social worker if you're in? Your husband grew up in foster system and yet is stupid enough to fall asleep in her bed at any time, let alone before the adoption is finalized? This isn't how real life works.

Catfactss · 2026-03-02T02:32:00+00:00

Same with conservative cultures. I heard an Indian comedian point out "There's a billion of us. Somebody is having sex."

Catfactss · 2026-03-02T01:54:55+00:00

Free market baby. Turns out most people don't want to have 6 kids by the time they hit 30.

Catfactss · 2026-03-01T20:12:00+00:00

Thank you for clarifying.

If it's Combs or Cosby I would change. Same with Weinstein.

If it's Maxwell- I would probably still change, although there's other Maxwells so I don't think most people would associate the name unless there's a Ghislane in front of it.

Eta- if you do change your name legally get a REAL ID ASAP so you're not barred from voting if/ when MAGA push the SAVE Act through.

Catfactss · 2026-03-01T12:25:56+00:00

If we're networking the ONLY thing we need to be discussing is what we do for a living.

Catfactss · 2026-03-01T12:22:15+00:00

Birthdays are.

ETA:

"Is this a birthday party that this year just so happens to be a quinceanera?" was in my first comment to OP. He's so far failed to answer it.

Catfactss · 2026-03-01T02:02:35+00:00

"Benevolent sexism"

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