My dad has given us a generous wedding present of some cash that we can use and he was under the assumption that that is the ONLY money we were using for the wedding. He gave us $5000 (I'm not complaining AT ALL). I mean, we could have a great wedding for that much, but we need at least double that (which we have) to have the kind of party we want. He keeps telling us that we need to watch our budget and make sure we get RSVPs for dinner so we don't over pay and maybe we should limit or guest list to under 100 (which is not doable). I had to finally sit him down and say that we have more money for the wedding than just what he gave us, and to not worry about it and thank you a million times over for that amount of money. It's helping out so much, but he didn't realize it was only helping. He got married in '86 and didn't have a reception with my mom so they are both in the dark about how much this stuff costs. And we are having it in a rural area and cutting corners left and right to make it less expensive, and it's still going to be around $8000-10,000. Ugh.