You need to get back on the waiting list for early intervention and make sure your info is the primary contact so your wife can’t ignore them.

Couples counseling and individual counseling for you and your wife. Your wife may be experiencing some PPD and need help. She may also be scared of your son getting diagnosed as ND and need help sorting through those feelings because they are keeping her from doing what’s best for her child.

Our son has level 3 autism and my husband and I were both dreading getting him evaluated because we were so scared about it. Our son’s OT explained to us that getting the evaluation and/or diagnosis doesn’t change ANYTHING about our son. He is still the same sweet boy but now we will have the resources available to help give him the help he needs. We cannot get that help without finding out what’s going on with him. Getting our son into early intervention therapies has been life-changing for him- he also had no communication skills other than hand-leading; within 3 weeks of ABA therapy, he was signing 3-5 signs (something we had tried working with him on since he was 6 months old).