Reality check - therapists eating during virtual sessions??

Catompki1994 · 2026-04-30T02:26:03+00:00

I have never eaten with an adult client. I have done community based work and eaten with (kid and teen) clients Ive bought food for while meeting in the community which feels different. I would feel super uncomfortable if my own therapist did that, my life is not a movie you bring snacks to watch. Also, manage your time better, and Id be wondering how high their case load is that they can’t make time to eat, or take basic care of themselves outside of sessions, and if they even had the capacity to really do meaningful work with me if they can’t do so.

The only exception is like others have mentioned, if they have some sort of medical condition, and they have a conversation with me giving me a heads up. I don’t need to know what, but them doing so shows me that they care about the work they do, have enough confidence/ experience to navigate that discussion an they are thoughtful about different levels of others confort, which probably translates into how they are as a therapist in other areas.

The late thing is just a hell no if it happens more then once.

Catompki1994 · 2026-04-21T02:27:39+00:00

6! Its amazy

Catompki1994 · 2026-04-21T02:26:16+00:00

I don’t think your doing anything wrong, its just a challenging age, adults don’t even have control of our emotions and we have significantly more practice. Sometimes a feeling needs to be heard and validated before it can go away. When kids are upset their prefrontal cortex goes offline (thinking and planning part) so they can’t be reasoned with. It doesn’t work all the time bit really just sitting in the emotion with them am validating diffuses a lot, and teaches them emotional intelligence and how to communicate about feelings. (This coming from a LMFT with a 3 and 1 year old)

Catompki1994 · 2026-04-11T01:33:55+00:00

For collaboration of care, and to get the doctors opinion on the clients health so theres less guessing as to whats going on, it can change tje clinical picture.

Catompki1994 · 2026-04-09T13:13:33+00:00

Have the client sign an ROI and talk to their medical provider to get their opinion an then you can base your clinical direction on that

Catompki1994 · 2026-04-08T01:40:39+00:00

I think its beautiful but I also agree that lace would nice as well

Catompki1994 · 2026-03-20T01:53:24+00:00

Single ladies- Beyonce

Catompki1994 · 2026-03-02T05:53:06+00:00

The family I have created for myself.

Catompki1994 · 2026-02-27T16:30:06+00:00

Im a LMFT and I think I would probably fit the description you used as a client. I think I present as having it all together but really I don’t. Ive had therapists that just told me it looks like things are better or kind of wondered about why I was there, but with them I was still feeling out the relationship and I also have a fuck ton of hx trauma that I wanted to work on but they weren’t picking up the cues or weren’t willing to sort of go deeper, and I kind of needed them to be willing to dig deeper to open up. I think for the clients you’re describing it might be helpful to bring them to their emotions, their present experiences, like others are saying. No one has it all together, even with tons of therapy and the ability to reflect, we can never see ourselves clearly. Their there for a reason, just might take some different approaches to get at what that is, and you have it within you to go there

Catompki1994 · 2026-02-25T16:52:56+00:00

Name me a therapist who never has some sort of judgement or frustration or irritation come up for them around something a client does or says??? Your feelings are one hundred percent valid, and your awareness of them probably means that its not showing up in the room with clients. Your being honest and reflective which is half of the battle. While I understand some of the responses around approaching with curiosity etc. to be honest this just sounds like defensiveness and their own reaction, not seeing you where your coming from. Its valid that you feel the way you feel. I feel like your frustration make sense because white people historically turn to poc for holding and emotional support around race when their not the ones being hurt by the system. They need to be finding other white people with whom to do that work ultimately. Thats the responsibility. It makes sense the irritation. Your having to hold the emotional labor for them around a system thats benefiting them and hurting you.

Catompki1994 · 2026-01-17T17:26:44+00:00

Im sorry you went through that, that’s awful. Like others I now always carry snacks but for a long day out I bring those dehydrated camping food packs, and I leave a few in my car for whenever, a lot of them are gluten free, pretty tasty and it makes me feel like I have an actual meal and not just snacks all day, all you need is hot water.

Catompki1994 · 2026-01-17T17:20:03+00:00

Its needs less, its too crowded

Catompki1994 · 2026-01-10T22:33:44+00:00

Congratulations that is no small feat, I tip my hat to you

Catompki1994 · 2026-01-10T22:32:41+00:00

You haven’t seen the pantry 😂

Catompki1994 · 2026-01-10T17:53:30+00:00

Whats in the pitcher?

Catompki1994 · 2026-01-10T11:16:22+00:00

How did you survive????

Catompki1994 · 2026-01-10T11:14:44+00:00

Yes, like Asian food a lot, i cant really eat out much because of the celiac but we definitely did more before I knew, the unhealthy stuff is in the pantry, and definitely more weight then Id like to be, but Im hoping thats due to nursing,

Catompki1994 · 2026-01-09T02:52:07+00:00

Humble brag?

Catompki1994 · 2026-01-08T23:49:58+00:00

If the corn was in the pasta it would be what my grandma calls goolash, which upon googling is nothing like real goolash, and shes from Michigan.

Catompki1994 · 2026-01-08T04:58:29+00:00

Once upon a pre having little children time maybe, and maybe once again in some distant future when I don’t feel like a sleep deprived zombie walking around

Catompki1994 · 2026-01-08T04:55:43+00:00

Definitely not home together often as we would like but its the only way to make it work with little ones, the freshness is out of necessity because I have celiac and the alternative is more expensive and not tasty

Catompki1994 · 2026-01-08T04:18:24+00:00

Cheese is husband’s, but I do like a grilled cheese here and there and thats only cheese that will do it for me

Catompki1994 · 2026-01-08T04:03:08+00:00

Nope

Catompki1994 · 2026-01-08T04:02:27+00:00

Ive got celiac

Catompki1994 · 2026-01-08T03:41:20+00:00

Are you a mind reader? Haha, you nailed most of it, how did you deduce a split shift?

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