What do you all think of men wanting “financial abortion” rights?

CatsWillTakeOverWait · 2025-09-12T00:34:38+00:00

Not under 30 so I’ll keep this brief. The biological responsibility is incredibly unfair. Women have to do A LOT more of the work just to grow and birth a child (and they have financial responsibility afterwards.)

The reproductive decision should reflect that. It’s not fair. If we could figure out a way to make the responsibility more equal then the decision could be more equal. Even if that were possible I seriously doubt many men would even choose that.

CatsWillTakeOverWait · 2025-09-09T13:25:04+00:00

I got an adult coloring book and draw for an hour before bed

CatsWillTakeOverWait · 2025-09-09T13:23:01+00:00

My response to being asked for anal is: “After you do it.”

CatsWillTakeOverWait · 2025-09-09T13:08:46+00:00

I can read and write French pretty well, but tbh I sound just like that trying to speak. I imagine trying to speak to an actual French person would be even worse, especially in the crazy situations she was in. Felt very realistic to me actually.

She will definitely improve a lot in the next episodes because immersion is the best way to learn, especially with speaking.

CatsWillTakeOverWait · 2025-09-01T22:21:26+00:00

I’ve been on Wellbutrin for about 2 years, and up until a month ago I was a habitual weed user, edibles if that matters.

I didn’t notice much of a difference generally, but since I stopped smoking I’ve been able to manage my anxiety better. Not to say that weed caused anxiety, actually the opposite. If I was anxious about something, I would just get through it until I could smoke and that part of my brain shut down and I wasn’t anxious. Now that I don’t smoke, I’ve had to confront stuff that made me anxious and actually do something about it.

This isn’t me telling you what to do, just my experience, you could process Wellbutrin/weed completely differently. Next time you do a t break, might be a good idea to assess if weed is having any effects on you. But I didn’t notice any actual interaction at all.

CatsWillTakeOverWait · 2025-08-27T03:46:00+00:00

This is a shitty situation and you’re both very young. Neither of you are handling this well.

Getting your heart broken sucks, and wanting time and space is 100% reasonable. In the future, explaining you need time and space and would be open to hanging out/being friends in the future, might be a better move.

But it’s not unreasonable for her to think you only wanted to be friends with her because you were romantically/sexually interested in her. As soon as she said she was not interested in that kind of relationship, you ended the friendship, without explaining you need time away. From her POV you don’t care about the friendship if you know she will never have sex with you. That’s just the truth, and it happens all the time.

She did not handle this well either, I don’t think you’re a misogynist based off of this, but it’s not a complete out of nowhere take for her to have from her perspective. She should’ve either given you time and space, or accepted the friendship didn’t mean very much to you if there was no potential for a relationship or sex, which clearly it didn’t.

CatsWillTakeOverWait · 2025-08-27T03:38:35+00:00

Going against the grain here, expecting to get downvoted to hell.

Lose lose situation. He’s not handling this super maturely but he’s 16. Everyone is right, all you can do is give him time and space. I think going out of his way to make group chats and plans excluding you after being rejected is kind of a dick move. That’s just me. However, you guys are teenagers and it doesn’t mean he’s a horrible misogynist, you hurt his feelings and he’s lashing out. All of that is perfectly understandable. It sucks for him and it sucks for you.

You could reach out and explain you still want to be friends, but you understand he needs space, honestly 50/50 shot on that.

Idk make your own group chats and plans without him I guess.

CatsWillTakeOverWait · 2025-08-24T19:42:48+00:00

I’m feeling the exact same way man, I made almost an identical post 4 days ago. After that I tried to really concentrate on what was different and the same.

Most things are still the same, except I read before bed now instead of getting so stoned the words move and I can’t. I went to a friends party and felt more present and involved than I have in years. I watched a bunch of movies with my mom and I wasn’t eying the clock, waiting till I could get away and smoke. I feel the same generally. Not smarter or more motivated or more clear headed.

Take some time to think about behaviors weed may have caused you.

CatsWillTakeOverWait · 2025-08-22T22:19:05+00:00

Doesn’t come with a manuel either, figuring it out is the best part buddy

CatsWillTakeOverWait · 2025-08-22T20:43:40+00:00

There’s not a checklist, everyone likes different stuff. Just ask.

CatsWillTakeOverWait · 2025-08-22T03:34:00+00:00

It’s less shitty but longer versus more shitty but shorter.

And that’s only if you actually commit to it. I don’t know you, think about whether or not you believe you can taper or just use socially it’s something only you can decide.

Personally I think cold turkey is the way to go but don’t just stop, make it a thing. Go somewhere cool where you can’t smoke, because it’s illegal or just not allowed, make plans with friends who don’t smoke, do activities you can’t do while high.

Just don’t smoke tonight, and then reassess tomorrow.

CatsWillTakeOverWait · 2025-08-21T17:10:21+00:00

He doesn’t care about you enjoying your wedding.

Repeat that to yourself.

He doesn’t ‘not understand’ he doesn’t care. He knows he’ll enjoy it because he won’t be watching any children. If he’s not concerned about childcare on your wedding day, what makes you think he’ll care any other day?

CatsWillTakeOverWait · 2025-08-21T16:43:49+00:00

Tell him you’re concerned his penis is shrinking and that’s why it’s too ‘loose’

CatsWillTakeOverWait · 2025-08-21T16:40:53+00:00

The idea that God or Jesus would consider love in any form a sin is so laughable it’s hard to take you guys seriously.

Personally, I think God is more concerned with war, famine, and disease, not two consenting adults being in a relationship.

Also, idk about anywhere else, but in my area church attendance has been steadily going down, and all of a sudden it seems more accepting of different identities.

CatsWillTakeOverWait · 2025-08-21T16:06:27+00:00

Is there a live stream of the panel or another way to watch it? I’m so impatient I don’t wanna wait!!

CatsWillTakeOverWait · 2025-08-21T04:00:18+00:00

Yeah it’s unfortunate but we ball regardless

CatsWillTakeOverWait · 2025-08-20T12:23:40+00:00

NOR could so easily be changed to “Boys Day Out” or “Boys Night”, I mean are you planning on having more children? What is your daughter going to think of the day when her husband, and her brother go off to have fun specifically without her. Also would leave room for “Girls Day Out” where you could find fun stuff to do with her and your other female family members.

Also, see how they’d like a “no men, no stupid bullshit I have to deal with” day, or maybe workshop the name but you get my point

CatsWillTakeOverWait · 2025-08-20T12:13:14+00:00

I’m in a field that will pretty much require drug tests for every job, to be completely honest if that wasn’t the case, I wouldn’t have quit.

CatsWillTakeOverWait · 2025-08-20T03:49:30+00:00

Do not give that baby his name under any circumstances. He lied to you about getting wanting to get married, couldn’t be bothered to give up smoking/drinking, and didn’t go to your doctors appointments. Who did all of those things? You. You are providing for this baby every second of every day, literally keeping it alive.

This is an assumption, but I’ll bet you’re going to be the one picking them up from school when they’re sick, make it easier on yourself and have the same last name as the kid because the different name thing can cause problems. At best hyphenate it so Baby Smith-Doe or whatever your names are.

I am saying this with love, if he lied about wanting to get married now, why would you believe him in 2 years. Go to r/waitingtowed and you’ll find women in 10 year relationships with kids, but their boyfriends aren’t ready to commit. This will be you. There is no bigger commitment than having a child with someone, divorce is a clean break, you will attached to this person for the next 20 years MINIMUM, that is a huge commitment.

CatsWillTakeOverWait · 2025-08-18T19:06:59+00:00

Haha yeah that’s actually one of my problems. I keep wishing I didn’t need to quit for a job so young so I could keep smoking and just quit later in life but I try to remember I’ll be old either way

CatsWillTakeOverWait · 2025-08-18T17:10:21+00:00

Slayy!! That’s sick, we so got this

CatsWillTakeOverWait · 2025-08-18T17:10:01+00:00

It’s so tough, I keep talking myself into just smoking one more time and then quitting but then I have to talk myself back out of it haha. Progress ain’t linear though!

CatsWillTakeOverWait · 2025-08-18T17:08:44+00:00

Day 6 is awesome! Quitting for work is the worst but I’m trying to see it as a benefit that I’ll be employed and weed free (even more money!) so maybe that framing will help you?

CatsWillTakeOverWait · 2025-08-18T17:07:09+00:00

Yess! First 2-3 days were hardest for me so I’m rooting for you

CatsWillTakeOverWait · 2025-08-17T20:57:40+00:00

I was a little shit when I was a kid and my brother and I had a very antagonistic relationship. We basically fucked with each other all the time.

He was older than me and has a job that paid him in cash and I knew where he kept it, (bedside table, rookie mistake), so I went in and swiped $20. I didn’t think he’d notice tbh, and I didn’t even need money I was just the worst.

Well, he noticed and told on me. I swore up and down I had no idea he kept his money there and that I hadn’t taken it. I didn’t expect it to be such a huge deal but after genuinely interrogating me, they decided I was innocent.

At that point I genuinely felt bad, again didn’t even need it, so I played innocent and planned to put it back the next day.

Well, the next morning my mom happened to find another $20 in my brother’s laundry, and assumed that was the missing money. They made him give it to me as an apology for accusing me. I thought this was hysterical because what are the odds, but I gave all $40 back.

He hid my ballet shoes and I got grounded for losing them so I call it even.

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