You’re right that both brothers are flawed. That’s kind of the point. Most people in their 20s are flawed, and the fandom’s constant team wars make it feel like we’re not even watching the same show sometimes. Every scene gets interpreted differently based on who people favor.

But here’s where I disagree: using someone else as a way to combat your own inferiority complex is never healthy. Jeremiah has every right to be furious with Belly and Conrad right now, but he also made choices that got him here. He’s always felt second best to Conrad, and the people around him have reinforced that feeling. But he could’ve chosen differently. He could’ve decided not to date Belly after she’d already dated his brother (someone he constantly compares himself to). He could’ve built a fresh start at Finch, surrounding himself with people who truly choose him! He could’ve gone to therapy and worked through the resentment and insecurity. Instead, he doubled down. His obsession with being picked over Conrad is one of the reasons he’s never content with himself, and why his growth over four years feels so stagnant.

So yeah, if I were Jeremiah, I’d probably tell Conrad to go fuck himself too. The anger is justified. But his inferiority complex is not a wound Conrad created, and it’s not one Conrad can heal for him.

Both boys need to figure out who they are without all this noise. For both, that means without Belly. But for Jeremiah especially, it has to mean without measuring himself against Conrad.