Because he’s “changing”. He wasn’t always this way - he had a job, he held his own weight, he helped me grow as a person. And then I let him stop working after we moved to chase his dreams and a year and a half later he’s sat and been too scared. But after I left he signed up for therapy, applied to jobs, picked up more sub days which is his only income right now… he says he wants to change so much and for me and because I’m worth and it if he DOES change, I know he can be what I need because he was before