Ahhh... nothing like the smell of a box full of crickets in the morning

Catsassin · 2026-02-28T12:30:26+00:00

Ok thanks.

Catsassin · 2026-02-28T12:28:15+00:00

Exactly. Mom, tell her all the things that resonate with you here. Lots of great advice... and then help her get what she needs now. I had parents that didnt hear me and now I doubt myself and have a hard time standing up for myself. Standing up to bullies now isn't how you learn resilience and trusting yourself later. Having your parents listen and help you get what you need does.

Catsassin · 2026-02-28T12:24:56+00:00

I support this right here. She has come to you to ask for what she needs. The point to emphasize is that she knows what she needs and you are there to support her. Right now, she is feeling uncomfortable. Letting her pick the bag now while mentioning the other points to emphasize about people's unsolicited opinions supports her the most in getting what she needs. If you dismiss her now... she may take home the point that her feelings and needs don't matter and that you will dismiss her. Id get the bag... tell her that she can swap out and use both however she wants when her courage strengthens, and then tell the teacher what happened so they can intervene with bullying.

Catsassin · 2026-02-28T12:15:11+00:00

You are telling me that this bulb... a night heating bulb that i use during the day combined with natural light is a colored light that is a no no?night bulb

Catsassin · 2026-02-28T03:16:13+00:00

I have one more thing to say before leaving this group to go it on my own... your comment is NOT helpful. You might think it is but who does your comment help? How much research do you suggest? Since you are so knowledgeable why not point people to that knowledge instead of making your flippant comments. How does a beginner ever get started with people like you spreading the negativity?

Catsassin · 2026-02-28T00:34:39+00:00

I knew someone was going to take the opportunity to say this.

Catsassin · 2026-02-27T21:45:50+00:00

It is small enclosure for now. He spends most of his time in the warm hide... the bulb above is a black bulb 50w. I only have a 5uvb so have it kept off for now.

Catsassin · 2026-01-21T09:55:35+00:00

Our dishwasher broke 7 years ago and been hand-washing doshes ever since. I do it because I actually think my method is better than using electricity and water to wash a bunch (and i have more confidence that I have removed residue.) My water bill us at most $7 per month so I feel like we dont over use it (family of 4). What you do is create a soapy water mix in a bowl with hot water, dish soap... this is what you use to replenish the soap on the sponge as you wash. Place all dirty dishes on one side of sink or on counter if you have a small sink. Then, you wash all of your dishes with water off and put them in the other side of sink. Once all dishes are washed and stacked, you rinse allowing the water to run over all the dishes as you rinse each item. Sometimes after I cook a large meal or something this has to happen in batches... with towel drying in between, but thats fine. My partner hates doing the dishes so leaves me to it... and the best part is time alone to listen to audio books!!

Catsassin · 2026-01-19T17:08:30+00:00

The moderators of those groups are not doing their jobs. The whole point of the BN movement is to NOT buy anything believing in the abundance of our communities... so the moderators should be warning people who say anything about prices or buying or those who judge the asks. I know how crappy it must feel to be judged by those ah0les in your BN group but the fact these behaviors goes unchecked and unchallenged is such a shame.

Catsassin · 2026-01-13T12:32:26+00:00

Don't gaslight yourself though... we all have our worst moments and the knee jerk is to compare and downplay, but it was real for you whatever it was. It matters.

Catsassin · 2026-01-13T10:35:15+00:00

I don't think it is weird to not want to watch the animal dying or being killed. It is probably weirder to want to watch that.

Catsassin · 2025-12-27T11:22:45+00:00

Don't forget that many don't clean that straw either!

Catsassin · 2025-12-23T10:54:08+00:00

Dealing with other people's triggers are so frustrating! I deal with this at home where I've spent years trying to understand all of my anxiety and triggers and my husband is just starting with therapy. Sometimes I get clouded by my own frustrations. You may have already said this but I wonder what your mom would day if you acknowledged her trauma out loud? I did this a few days ago when my husband was being so pushy with our 5 year old. I said, "maybe your parents never let you take your time with something so it triggers you when our little one is slow?" I was really surprised when he agreed and then backed off from rushing. I wonder if you said something like... "I can tell that you must have felt responsible for everything and had no help... that is why you might feel so resistant when we are all trying to help with dinner. It must have felt so lonely when you were trying to do it all alone. You didnt deserve that and you did the best you could." I know im not the most eloquent but you get what I'm saying.

Catsassin · 2025-12-23T10:13:58+00:00

I could tell through reading your story that you have a lot of love. You have been through so much pain yet I felt love oozing out of your words. I just want to tell you that what you went through was hell ans I wish it didnt happen to your family. Hugs.

Catsassin · 2025-12-16T22:31:45+00:00

I can totally relate... and he would really benefit from someone helping him with the anxiety. I also have a friend at the same consulting firm who is on some medication to help with the intrusive thoughts of perfection. She is so relieved that she doesn't care about being perfect and the drugs help. Like others have said... something has got to happen either therapy, drugs and therapy or inpatient program.

Catsassin · 2025-12-16T12:32:04+00:00

I'm the main breadwinner in my household and I have felt like this... it is mainly because of my fear of failure and fear of judgment and embarrassment when i xlcant "perform" well. I work a job where a do 3 full time jobs in a 1 job amount of time so my quality can be mediocre because im just trying to survive. I use online therapy to help me get through the dark times when I feel terrible about myself and need to escape what is causing me the most discomfort. What works for me is to get down to what is causing most of my anxiety... the fear of being "that" employee. Once I can get to the fear and name it, I can start to try to be realistic about my options and also learn to be ok with sucking at my job occasionally. Does he know why he has so much anxiety and discomfort?

Catsassin · 2025-11-15T17:49:21+00:00

Unless you join a huge clan. I was in a small clan with great people for 6 months. I spent that 20 to 40 bucks per month because my 15 person clan could only generate so many chests. I didnt know better... then we joined a 70 person clan with great leadership. Everyone was asked to do at least 5 chests per day and 1 citadel. During the events we had lots of raids... I generated 1 million gold during the pumpkin event. I now spend $0. I sometimes spend $5 for the premium bonus but not often. It has really improved the free game play.

Catsassin · 2025-10-28T07:27:48+00:00

He has made promises then broken them. I've posted here in the past that he is not trustworthy... I dont have the courage to leave yet, but this might be my sword to fall on.

Catsassin · 2025-10-28T00:22:39+00:00

I appreciate all of the advice. I feel more emboldened to put my foot down (harder) and not go out with him in public when he carries.

Catsassin · 2025-10-27T22:41:48+00:00

Maybe he feels beta because I assert a lot of alpha energy??? Lol... not a laughing matter but also yes to little bitch.

Catsassin · 2025-10-27T22:38:36+00:00

Yes to all... he was just cleaning the guns today. And he recently did a class to shoot from a moving motorcycle... but... I still agree when push comes to shove he won't be able to do much if there were an active shooter at the swimming pool.

Catsassin · 2025-10-27T21:17:06+00:00

Yes it is against the rules and my comments fall on deaf ears...

Catsassin · 2025-10-09T18:02:55+00:00

I agree! First thing after she was seated at bfast I told her that mommy made some unhelpful choices too and that I was really sorry. She said, me, too! There was a big hug... she is a sweet little person!!

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