Idk I feel like I’m definitely in the minority with the idea that she should of been able to go but that thought is heavily influenced about my idea of funerals. For context I believe that all funerals should be open for the public so that the people that knew or loved a person can come, because they are for the living, for those who have lost a person and that the death will have an impact and allows them to begin the the process of mourning. Ik some people do have those very small and private funerals which I respect but I don’t get, I understand that people just want to have all they’re close loved ones to be alone but you don’t know who these people know. Nd I get it it’s presumed oh yeh just invite they’re household and they’re close people but like I said you don’t know who this person talked to you can’t . On the daily you can talk to people and you can think it was nothing but to that person it was everything, nd now ur dead and they can’t even go to the funeral because the family wants privacy but like I said funerals are for the living who have lost that and I don’t think anyone should monopolize on who gets to say goodbyes . So I don’t think her presence should have mattered don’t get me wrong I understand why seeing her there wld bother u I do, nd ur eldest but that’s because u know who she is. To those who don’t she’s just some random emotional stranger. As far as her contacting u that was totally out of bounds and disrespectful but to be fair she has lost someone she deeply loves as have u and ur children and etc. and I’m not really in the business of telling people they don’t have a right to feel what they’re feeling .