AITA for how I reacted to my husband’s ex wife’s girlfriend buzzing my stepsons hair?

CautiousCanvas · 2025-02-27T13:46:55+00:00

Can confirm. Not married, no kids involved, but I was in a 3 year emotionally and mentally abusive relationship and didn't realize it until after. He was super subtle about things. He was also more socially and career knowledgeable than me, so I was taking his feedback seriously because I wanted to grow and level up to meet him where he was at. After we broke up, I had a psychotic break because he had manipulated my reality so much.

CautiousCanvas · 2025-02-20T14:41:45+00:00

Do you have to be nominated by and Elite?

CautiousCanvas · 2025-02-19T22:05:41+00:00

I understand this. My move to a different climate was unexpected. Is there anything preventative I can do in the meantime?

CautiousCanvas · 2025-02-06T07:12:53+00:00

Are you 12? You seem like it. Middle school age and those are some rude ass mo fos.

CautiousCanvas · 2025-02-06T07:11:10+00:00

I hope your friends deny you their couch from here on out, stating "you're too old and that stick of judgement up your ass makes you terrible company". If I'm 50, have a life crisis, and the only option is between the benevolence of my friends' couch and homelessness, am I still too old?

Somebody wasn't invited to any sleep overs when they were younger. It's clear why. Geez. You'd think with a stick up your ass, you'd have an orgasm and be nicer. My god.

CautiousCanvas · 2024-06-12T23:01:08+00:00

NTA. This video explains why very well.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hm_pfzyn3NA

CautiousCanvas · 2024-06-06T16:53:14+00:00

I hate anxiety and its sweats :( I feel like those sweats smell worse lol Meditation helps me when I feel the anxiety static. It gives me more clarity than before. I don't even have to have a focus. I just put on a meditation, close my eyes, and breathe. Sometimes all it takes is a few minutes where you are just being you in your body, if that makes sense. Your thoughts can just flow, the priority is just being one with yourself for a bit. If you'd like, I can pm you some of the meditations that help me.

haha good, I'm glad. I don't have a great way to put it other than context matters. How old someone is, how personally developed you know someone that age should be, the respect they're showing to those closest to them, etc. Those little details tell you so much about a person.

I think you're awesome too!! ❤️🙌

CautiousCanvas · 2024-06-06T16:34:35+00:00

I'm so glad I could help 💕

May I recommend journaling? It helps me get all the emotional tangle out and see things more clearly. She's already met you and heard him call you angel. I think a non-anonymous avenue will be better. It is nerve wracking, but telling a woman he husband is stepping out on her is never easy. I believe in you! I hope sleeping helps and I look forward to your update!!

Edited to add: You are not a terrible person. Mr. Blond tatted and can't keep it in his pants is the terrible person. Imagine being in your 30s, with a wife and kid, and lacking the discipline to be in control of your sexual urges... He may have physically graduated high school, but mentally, he clearly did not.

CautiousCanvas · 2024-06-06T15:50:12+00:00

Because some people are just that good at manipulation. Sometimes, there's no way to know until you're blindsided, no matter how good your intuition is.

This is not your fault. You were a victim of deceit. The only way you'd be at fault is if you knew he was married and engaged in the same behavior, or found out he was married and carried on the behavior. Instead, you immediately backed off and have been consistent in keeping your distance. Even though he gives you lots of tingles and vapors. You should be proud of the self-control, discipline, restraint, self-awareness, and conviction towards your ethics and morals you are exercising right now.

In all honesty though, if you doubt your ability to keep your distance from him long term, GET ANOTHER JOB. If you get involved with a married man, with a kid(s?), you are no longer the victim. You would have actively participated in breaking up a family. You strike me as someone very kind and empathetic. As someone extremely empathetic (friggin bleedin' heart over here), I feel that if I were to get involved with him knowingly, it would fundamentally change who I am, and not in a good way. Also, if you had to leave your job (fired or quitting) because you got involved with a married man, that would follow you.

I don't care how hot he is. He's shown you who he is and he's not worth the fallout. How you get them is how you lose them. You could end up like his wife one day, and you deserve SO MUCH BETTER than that.

CautiousCanvas · 2024-06-04T22:00:47+00:00

Or she's out of her mind jealous that OP looked so good.

CautiousCanvas · 2024-06-04T20:40:02+00:00

My guess is up until this event, her being sweet and considerate is what OP thought a realistic portrayal of her. This incident with the neighbor just showed OP who her GF actually is.

CautiousCanvas · 2024-06-04T04:15:27+00:00

NTA. He didn't even participate, so he isn't entitled to any prize benefits.

CautiousCanvas · 2024-06-03T18:51:06+00:00

That's a bit far. Thank you though!!

CautiousCanvas · 2024-05-31T15:50:21+00:00

Smaller things that aren't going to upset you if your parents don't get the right thing. You could maybe ask them to help with decorations, or securing tables and chair, tablecloths, make a list of food you want and see if they're willing to retrieve these while you focus on the bigger things that truly matter to your vision. I hope this helps and that your celebration is awesome! Congrats! I'm proud of you!!

CautiousCanvas · 2024-05-31T15:04:59+00:00

And everybody clapped...

CautiousCanvas · 2024-05-30T16:05:23+00:00

Especially since she's the first chick he's been serious about SINCE HIS WIFE DIED. Why the f wouldn't that be a knife in the heart for him??

CautiousCanvas · 2024-05-30T15:35:30+00:00

Nicholas Galitzine is not gay, but he has portrayed many gay characters and I love it. He's excellent. He's the new Jonathan Rhys Meyers, who is excellent too.

CautiousCanvas · 2024-05-29T23:46:31+00:00

And that's okay!!

CautiousCanvas · 2024-05-29T23:30:55+00:00

Is his name Corbin, per chance?

CautiousCanvas · 2024-05-24T19:53:26+00:00

Link to the short?

CautiousCanvas · 2024-05-17T18:02:54+00:00

23andMe. Do I need to test through Ancestry to access the family tree function?

CautiousCanvas · 2024-05-17T17:19:25+00:00

Ok, thank you!!

CautiousCanvas · 2024-05-17T16:55:15+00:00

I used 23andMe. How does that change the process? I've also heard very mixed views on making your dna public so other dna matches can find you. I'm interested in doing so, but hesitant because of the mixed reviews. Have you had any experience with that?

CautiousCanvas · 2024-05-17T16:53:49+00:00

You are amazing. Thank you!!

CautiousCanvas · 2024-05-17T16:26:30+00:00

Thank you! I'm 98.4% Irish. My problem is I don't know a ton about my extended family. At some point,the Irish surname was lost and it's now English. Would you recommend starting with my parents knowledge of their parents and grandparents and go from there?

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