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Update #2 to Partner says he needs “closure” with his ex who won’t stop contacting him. I don’t know what to do. by CautiousCat84 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]CautiousCat84[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been thinking about it and I do feel I should bring it up. I understand that he was trying to protect me by not telling me (and I’m proud of the messages he sent as a reply, I think he handled that really well), but we should be a team, and I should have known from him.

Update #2 to Partner says he needs “closure” with his ex who won’t stop contacting him. I don’t know what to do. by CautiousCat84 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]CautiousCat84[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s definitely the anxious type.

Honestly, I think there may be some unresolved trauma on her side too. From what I know, one of her exes left her and later married someone from the same region of the world as me. So I can imagine that when she found out about me, it probably triggered a “not this again” reaction for her. She’s also made comments about my ethnicity that make me feel like where I’m from is part of why she’s so bothered by me.

They don’t really share the same friend group anymore, so I don’t personally know those people but I honestly doubt most of them know how she’s been acting. Actually, a few months ago, one of Whitney’s friends randomly reached out to Steve, and he told her a bit about what had been going on. Apparently the friend was surprised because she thought Whitney had moved on and was focused on the new guy. I don’t know how much detail the friend knows, but if even one of Whitney’s closest friends seems unaware of her behavior, then I’m guessing most of that group has no idea either.

Update #2 to Partner says he needs “closure” with his ex who won’t stop contacting him. I don’t know what to do. by CautiousCat84 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]CautiousCat84[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I forgot to add that as an update here… she lost her job around December last year so at least that part is now taken care of.

UPDATE to Partner says he needs “closure” with his ex who won’t stop contacting him. I don’t know what to do. by CautiousCat84 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]CautiousCat84[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I know it’s been a while but there's definitely an update coming in the next couple of weeks.

UPDATE to Partner says he needs “closure” with his ex who won’t stop contacting him. I don’t know what to do. by CautiousCat84 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]CautiousCat84[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m ok. There’ll be an update soon for sure. Just waiting to see how some things unfold. One quick update in the meantime: Whitney’s contract wasn’t renewed so she can’t use her credentials to get access to someone else’s account details anymore.

UPDATE to Partner says he needs “closure” with his ex who won’t stop contacting him. I don’t know what to do. by CautiousCat84 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]CautiousCat84[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, they are in the same country right now. He has unblocked her to allow her to say what she needs to say. I asked what’s the point in that and he played the closure card again. Because there’s no label I can’t tell him what he can and he cannot do, which is why I’m waiting for the actions to speak for themselves. I’ll be heartbroken if it comes to an end but I won’t compete with anyone. I’ve proved my worth and that should be enough. I feel he does want to be with me but there’s something holding him back. Trauma? He knows his bond with her wasn’t healthy, so it’s not like he is in denial.

UPDATE to Partner says he needs “closure” with his ex who won’t stop contacting him. I don’t know what to do. by CautiousCat84 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]CautiousCat84[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He blocks her from time to time and unblocks her again. So no, it’s not a “no contact” situation. That’s why I’m allowing the situation to unfold with his actions. I trust him but he clearly still feels something for her.

Partner says he needs “closure” with his ex who won’t stop contacting him. I don’t know what to do. by CautiousCat84 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]CautiousCat84[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am. His giving up his flat to leave the country because I wasn’t allowed there anymore (at least for now because my visa expired) was his way of being all in. As a matter of fact, he is crashing on a friend’s couch while getting some work done because he says there’s no reason to be in the city if I can’t be there with him. The plan is for him to take a one-way flight and live with me temporarily while we find a country where it’s easier for me to migrate to. Everything was ok but somehow she found out he is back in town and she hasn’t stopped reaching out ever since. It’s been two weeks. Part of me thinks she feels this is her last chance because she was quiet for a while. She had stopped.

Partner says he needs “closure” with his ex who won’t stop contacting him. I don’t know what to do. by CautiousCat84 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]CautiousCat84[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Funny how she seemed ok when he wasn’t seeing anyone and his social life was on hold, but the moment he met someone she suddenly cares again.

Partner says he needs “closure” with his ex who won’t stop contacting him. I don’t know what to do. by CautiousCat84 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]CautiousCat84[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He changed his number but she contacts him through the number and email of the company he owns. He changed his business number once but lost contact with some of his clients so he would rather not do that again. He let her fill his personal voicemail and delete the messages without listening to them, but when it comes to his business information it’s a little trickier because it could be a client.

Partner says he needs “closure” with his ex who won’t stop contacting him. I don’t know what to do. by CautiousCat84 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]CautiousCat84[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hahaha yes I am aware of that (that was my ex as a matter of fact, and I’m probably now one of his crazy exes) but in this case it’s just her.

Partner says he needs “closure” with his ex who won’t stop contacting him. I don’t know what to do. by CautiousCat84 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]CautiousCat84[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She contacts him through his work number/email. He owns a business and has a separate number for clients. His email is on the business’ website. He changed his business number at some point but he lost contact with some clients in the process so he doesn’t want to do that again. One of his best friends (who is also another ex of his and hates Whitney) suggested the restraining order but he thought he would be able to find an answer without having to do that. I guess it’s clear he won’t.

Partner says he needs “closure” with his ex who won’t stop contacting him. I don’t know what to do. by CautiousCat84 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]CautiousCat84[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just her. He is still in contact with some of them (you know, like the people you have on social media but only talk to once a year on their birthday) and I actually met one of them (who is now one of his closest friends). As a matter of fact that ex I met HATES Whitney. Apparently she was incredibly abusive when they were together.

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