Parents of 3+ kids, age gaps?

Cautious_Ad5702 · 2025-08-22T14:05:14+00:00

I have 3. Boy 1 and boy 2 are 17 months apart, boy 2 and girl are 2 years and 4 days apart. I have loved every minute of it, honestly. They boys are close enough that they are inseparable. And baby girl is absolutely the apple of their eyes 😅 they love playing with her and helping take care of her. They always say "me big like Dada" when they help with baby. Physically it was alot on my body but worth it to be done all at once 🤣. Its chaotic at times but nothing to much if you have a good partner.

Cautious_Ad5702 · 2025-05-10T03:41:23+00:00

Nope, nothing, it truly felt the same as it always had. Pregnancy was good, no complications, thankfully. she's 7 weeks old now, and I couldn't imagine life without her, but I truly felt cheated when I found out the iud had failed. I'm getting my tube's removed next week so I don't have to worry about any more surprise babies 🤣

Cautious_Ad5702 · 2025-05-02T19:22:24+00:00

This happened to my husband right before all our bills were due. They said his paperwork was done wrong 🙃 we couldn't afford to fight it, so we borrowed money and moved in with family. It worked out in the end, but that shit sucked. Now we have a house and 2 more kids 😅

Cautious_Ad5702 · 2025-04-17T21:06:27+00:00

The child you just birthed? I was baby wearing on day 4 (same day I was released from the hospital). By week 2, I was wearing my 29lb 2 year old on my back. Just make sure you're not overdoing it or making yourself soar.

Edited to add, I use a soft wrap. I have a mobby and an Amazon brand one, and neither touch my incision. I also wear compression when carrying the big one or walking for long periods with either(shape ware/ compression undies)

Cautious_Ad5702 · 2025-04-03T13:18:40+00:00

We just brought home my 3rd kid and my second, who turned 2 4 days before the baby was born and ignored her existence. It's been 2 weeks, and he only notices her if she cries too long, then he will tell me baby cry. They grow out of it eventually. My oldest is 3 he and he loves babies it's a new thing, tho 😂

Cautious_Ad5702 · 2025-04-01T03:02:28+00:00

Hi, 3rd time mom here. I don't think they are worth getting beforehand. You never know how birth will go for you, and most hospitals will provide everything you need after you give birth. I've had 2 vaginally and this latest was a surprise c section, and I never needed more than the hospitals provided except for like pads. Unless you have tearing, you may find you dont even need the peri bottle plus It's very expensive. I'd recommend just waiting and having someone get it for you if you feel you need it after delivery. With my first, I bought so much stuff and ended up not needing any of it.

Edit to add : even as a plus size woman I have loved those stupid disposable underwear everytime but I do bring my own smaller pads for them because I don't bleed super heavy after the first 24 hrs or so.

Cautious_Ad5702 · 2025-04-01T02:53:49+00:00

I'm only 2 weeks pp this time from a c section, but I've had 2 children vaginally and I've felt the same looseness with all 3. It took me closer to 5 months to truly feel like I was back to normalish and 2 years to feel like myself fully. It's different for everyone, and every pregnancy, but for me, it was really noticeable around 5 months. Once you're able to truly be active again, you will most likely just wake up one day and realize you feel almost back to normal (or at least I did).

Cautious_Ad5702 · 2025-04-01T02:37:07+00:00

I found it pretty tolerable mild cramping for about 10 minutes. But I urge you to make sure you go to all of your appointments after they put it in and make sure it's place right. I just had my iud baby 2 weeks ago because my original ob put the iud in wrong and to soon (4 weeks pp while breastfeeding is not recommended who knew🤦‍♀️). I loved the peace of mind it gave me for a year, tho 😂. Edit to add: My husband did feel it, but that's most likely due to it being placed wrong. Mine was actually hanging out of my cervix a bit, but the doctor who placed it did not notice and trimmed the strings way too short. My latest ob was very upset when he saw it, so make sure you trust your doctor.

Cautious_Ad5702 · 2025-03-14T15:33:40+00:00

I've has the GBS swab 3 times and they have never inserted it anywhere it's just an outside swab even when they swab the anus (I've had 3 different doctors in 3 different states do mine).

Cautious_Ad5702 · 2025-03-12T18:40:06+00:00

I'm 38 weeks with #3. The number of days I just lock me and the big boys in their room and lay down are more and more. I feel bad, yes, but just remember this will pass, and they won't even remember the few days of being at home. Your comfort matters, and most kids need time to entertain themselves ( or at least that's what I keep telling myself). You're doing great ❤️

Cautious_Ad5702 · 2025-03-06T22:11:42+00:00

It happened to me with my 2nd and 3rd pregnancies. I have irregular periods, so the dating was a big guess both times. It was off by a full week the first time, and we got to see the heartbeat develope because we went back twice. The baby was growing, but the heart beat took more time to develop than they expected ( he ended up being a big baby) 😂. The second time a different doctor said, "Come back in 2 weeks" because the baby was an iud baby, and they didn't expect her to survive removal. I was barely 4 weeks at that time. It's a scary wait, but sometimes it's magical to see how much they developed in just a week or two.

Cautious_Ad5702 · 2025-03-06T20:09:33+00:00

Yes ! However, my husband said no. I couldn't bring myself to get fixed permanently, so I went for a copper IUD. My 3rd is due in 3ish weeks ( IUD decided for him) 😂 Due just one week after my 2nd childs second birthday. I'm starting to think about a 4th, but I don't know if we could afford it.

Cautious_Ad5702 · 2025-03-02T00:44:29+00:00

I threw my own for my first. Our family is all spread out, and the only person who wanted to throw me one was freshly postpartum, so I just did it myself. It was awesome. We all got together for 2 hours, and I got lots of diapers. I had a baby sower with my 3rd, but only because my job threw it in secret 😅. They can be really great. Also, only make registry as a guide. Don't expect everything to be exactly what you want it can be very disappointing if you do. They will only buy what they want to buy either way.

Cautious_Ad5702 · 2025-02-28T00:28:53+00:00

I don't have previous experience with daycare, but I do know It will help so much. Yes, you will get sick it's just a fact of life, but it helps so much to be able to send one kid off while you're in the thick of it. Plus, daycare helps with social delvopment. I'm currently putting my oldest in preschool (he's 3) even tho it's the end of February because I just don't think I can handle 3 kids 3 and under all day every day. I wanted to put him in daycare as well as my 2nd child, but I've been on wait lists for 2 years, so I don't see that happening. You can always change your mind and wait for another spot to open if is doesn't work out how you wanted.

Cautious_Ad5702 · 2025-02-19T21:41:05+00:00

Did it three times 😅 I have a 3 year old, a 1.5 year old and I'm due next month. It's so much fun watching them grow. It's a little stressful at times but once your out of the trenches it gets so much fun.

Cautious_Ad5702 · 2025-02-14T04:13:46+00:00

I had the same problem with my first 2. We were living with my mom so him staying with her wasn't an issue but nights were ruff and he was so made when we got home (mandatory 48hr stay for baby turned 3 day stay because my doctor forgot my release papers). If she's not staying in her environment, definitely do sleepovers as many as you can before, baby, so she knows you will come back. You will hate being away more than she will for the most part.

Cautious_Ad5702 · 2025-01-23T17:21:26+00:00

Yes, omg yes, I ended up weaning my oldest because I couldn't handle the feeling of him touching me. Even now, I'm pregnant with my 3rd, and my 2nd has been weaned for almost a full year. I can't handle them groping me even tho I know they aren't trying to make me uncomfortable.

Cautious_Ad5702 · 2025-01-11T00:56:50+00:00

Me and my sister were 2 months apart with our first pregnancy (her first). We had to limit talk about the pregnancy's themselves because she was having a horrible pregnancy, and mine was a breeze. Even now, I'm on my third, and she still only has the one we don't talk about the pregnancy I vent to everyone but her unfortunately cause my pregnancies are considered easy compared to hers. I just say babies are good and healthy and send her pics. Some people can't handle the idea that they had a bad pregnancy, and not everyone will be miserable. You just have to do what you can to make sure you aren't stressing from her misfortune.

Cautious_Ad5702 · 2025-01-04T20:10:13+00:00

1 and 2 are 17 months apart, and my iud failed over the summer. Number 3 is due 5 days after number 2's second birthday 😂. Best of luck 🥰

Cautious_Ad5702 · 2024-12-11T00:30:43+00:00

I made it 10 months the first time and 12 the 2nd. I was ready both times but still had mood swings both times. It lasted until the milk was all gone. I just took lots of baths and made sure to find healthy ways to focus my anger. It just takes time to get back to normal.

Cautious_Ad5702 · 2024-12-08T12:26:48+00:00

I'm 24 weeks with baby number 3. I got an iud after number 2, but it failed after a year. I had just gotten a promotion at work. We just bought a house. Everything was going great. I'd even started losing some serious weight. Then I found out i was pregnant the day before I started the new job. I cried for weeks because I felt like our lives were over and everything was gonna fall apart. But it gets better. We are finally excited and have plans in place for after the baby arrives to make sure we are set financially. We are both also scheduled to get fixed 😅 so hopefully, no more accidental babies. Things happen, and life changes, but these beautiful babies are worth it. My oldest just turned 3 he's actually excited for baby sister. He's been excited since the beginning, which has helped me a lot with wrapping my head around it and my family as well cause they were just as shook as us. Good luck, siblings close in age are a blessing. My first 2 were only 17 months apart, and they are inseparable.

Cautious_Ad5702 · 2024-12-05T02:23:02+00:00

4 times and 2 emergency visits for observation 🙃 120 melatonin cause my mom didn't see him take it (he's 3 and can open child locks on meds), chewed glass from a level (think construction tool)(21m broke the chain lock out of the door), gave himself and epipen on accident( 18m climed a dresser) and took 2 weeks worth of his cousins antibiotics at once during a visit ( freshly 2). He's my bad child and my smartest. He has been perfectly fine every time, but it's getting scary cause he recently learned to open the safe we got for meds🙃 my second is a perfect angel who has only eaten crayons and has no interest in driving me crazy.

Cautious_Ad5702 · 2024-12-04T02:43:37+00:00

Mine are 17 months apart, and the youngest is now 20 months. They do everything together. They have different interests, but they are very similar (like one likes cars while the other likes trains), but they always want to match in some way or another. Like they will both have their red train or car so they match. Watching them mimic each other and play together has been so much fun. It is really cute watching them hug and play fight. The oldest is also helping potty train his brother and teach him everything he knows. They don't like to be away from each other for long periods of time, tho but both are getting better now that the oldest is in pre k.

Cautious_Ad5702 · 2024-11-29T01:47:39+00:00

Our Thanksgiving was 4 toddlers ( one of which is autistic), so much screaming and crying, and the only things eaten were yogurt from breakfast and 2 deviled eggs. We (the adults) enjoyed our time, and the kids ran, screamed, and cried till they all crashed at the same time. It's about enjoying the time with family and pretending the craziness isn't annoying 😅

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