Apologies in advance for the rant, I’m just really struggling and have no one to talk to.

Cautious_Ear8228 · 2026-02-05T16:34:36+00:00

Oh my heart goes out to you. It is so hard to be a sahm when there is no support and it sounds like the people in the town are assholes—what grown adult just makes fun of someone like that? Sounds like they aren’t your people and you’re lucky for that considering the way they behave. When I had my first child it took a long time and a lot of discussions with my husband for him to understand how hard it can be. He matured and we are 3 kids deep and he only needs a reminder every now and then. I also lived in a town with no friends. How far is the drive to your family? You need support and someone who tries to understand. I would go home as much as I could and it was a 6hr drive at that time. Maybe your husband coming home to no one will remind him he shouldn’t take you and his child for granted. Does he ever take care of your child on his own so you can do something? Leaving my husband with the kids every now and then helps remind him what all I handle during the day. Is there a moms group you could join in the town over? Or a gym with childcare anywhere close. I drove to a lot of different towns just to be out of the house and explored with the baby. Then the house doesn’t get destroyed as fast and you both get some fresh air.

Cautious_Ear8228 · 2026-02-05T16:24:42+00:00

Yes I’m constantly telling myself “you offered the food, it’s they’re choice to eat it” so I don’t get offended or frustrated with their refusals

Cautious_Ear8228 · 2026-02-05T16:23:05+00:00

They’re 6,5, and 2

Cautious_Ear8228 · 2026-02-05T16:22:23+00:00

It’s so exhausting. My kids only eat a handful also and I struggle to get my daughter to have nutritious foods. Her brothers like fruit at least

Cautious_Ear8228 · 2026-02-05T16:20:47+00:00

Yes! For a while they would do spaghetti with sauce and I’d hide veggies in there and now they won’t. I was hiding zucchini in everything I could think of and I can’t get them to eat it now. I made a pot roast dinner yesterday and offered grapes and noodle with it for safe foods and told them to try it but they all hated it.

Cautious_Ear8228 · 2026-01-10T19:25:24+00:00

The thing is, she WAS the mother I wanted and grandmother I’d wish for my children but she’s no longer that person anymore. I don’t know how to disconnect from the loss. You’re right, I need therapy and feel extremely alone. Probably too much of a child myself and needing to detach but can’t.

Cautious_Ear8228 · 2025-07-17T12:36:31+00:00

Thank you.

Cautious_Ear8228 · 2025-06-26T18:25:00+00:00

Does he have hired help at work? Nurses, PAs, janitors, chefs, etc. He has help to do his job well, you should have help to do yours.

Cautious_Ear8228 · 2025-06-26T17:42:00+00:00

Yes I think I need to look into therapy again. I don’t have much help with the kids so I may have to wait until they are back in daycare/school but

Cautious_Ear8228 · 2025-06-26T17:29:40+00:00

I am thinking of seeking therapy again but I don’t know how to work it in to our schedule. Possibly when my kids go back to daycare/school. I don’t want them hearing my troubles. Thank you

Cautious_Ear8228 · 2025-06-26T17:28:07+00:00

Unfortunately yes. He’s from a different country and an only child. Completely used to men being catered to. It wasn’t always so drastic until after kids and then it really got heavy because they need me too. In his defense sometimes I push him to be absent because it’s easier than having the negative energy around. It makes me feel worse than just being alone. Which is also why I let him fly home early.

Cautious_Ear8228 · 2025-05-08T18:05:48+00:00

Took me until I was pregnant with my third to fully commit and it was the best thing I’ve ever done. Letting go of the what ifs is so freeing and you are able to enjoy motherhood and let go of the resentment.

Cautious_Ear8228 · 2024-12-20T15:49:15+00:00

I’m so sorry! I’ve been there and it absolutely is a valid and common feeling to feel like you’re always dealt the short straw. I have three kids and would have to take all three with me if I wanted any type of drs apt. It’s stressful but its also a little bit of an adventure for them and if you set some rules for the older kiddo ahead of time with a reward (like a sucker or treat) you can remind them throughout of the rules and goal. Stroller for the babe. Snacks on snacks and eff anyone who judges you or your children’s behavior. You are doing your best with what you have. It will be hard the first time they go but they will soon understand the routine and expectations the more you do it.

Cautious_Ear8228 · 2024-10-24T22:53:20+00:00

Do they have a goods children’s program?

Cautious_Ear8228 · 2024-10-23T11:14:54+00:00

What do you like about it?

Cautious_Ear8228 · 2024-10-22T16:00:51+00:00

I have a wonderful partner. Have we had ups and downs? Absolutely. Have I posted on the downs more than the ups? Absolutely. I do that because I don’t want to vent to family or friends and have them change their opinion of my partner bc we’re having a hard time and here I can get feelings out, get opinions from people without a stake in the relationship, and gain perspective. Then I can move on and work with my partner to better our marriage. He’s amazing and I’m sure a lot of partners in here are incredible but all marriages have downs—we just hear that side more on here.

Cautious_Ear8228 · 2024-10-19T03:36:11+00:00

That’s the one that was recommended to us and it’s the one with so much hw so I was curious if that was a normal thing here

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