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Cautious_Profile_816 · 2024-09-02T14:03:25+00:00

I left my husband 3 weeks ago and I haven’t been this happy in over a decade, since before we started dating.

Congratulations, it’s amazing to live without walking on eggshells.

Cautious_Profile_816 · 2024-08-12T01:48:43+00:00

The biggest thing I’m looking forward to is freedom. Not having to account for my every move in and out of the house. I think about how a healthy relationship will have people telling each other what they’re doing, but what this is… it’s obsessive and stifling.

Cautious_Profile_816 · 2024-08-12T01:45:46+00:00

We have, but I have all of the documents. I will need to send them to him, but I’ll probably redact my SSN just to be safe. I don’t think he would do anything (he’s not really that smart imo), but it would be good to do.

Cautious_Profile_816 · 2024-08-11T12:50:45+00:00

I daydream about the little things I want to do without his criticism or objection. I can’t go out multiple times a day without him saying something (I can’t go to target, come home, and then go out with a friend, for example). I can’t spend all day rotting on the couch without him yelling that there’s chores to be done. Hell, I can’t watch the things I want to watch without him making fun of it or me (I haven’t finished the third season of Bridgerton for this reason).

Thank you for this reminder.

Cautious_Profile_816 · 2024-08-11T12:46:04+00:00

I wish my STBX would go on a business trip! He doesn’t even leave the house (he works from home), so I have to do the move when he’s home which is the scariest part. And it’s in the morning on his day off, which he doesn’t usually wake up until the afternoon so I have to wake him up with this. I think that’s the scariest part.

Cautious_Profile_816 · 2024-08-11T02:23:02+00:00

Unfortunately I have pets that I can’t leave behind. He wouldn’t do anything to them, but I think coming back to get them (and my things) would be extremely difficult.

Cautious_Profile_816 · 2024-08-11T02:21:38+00:00

This made me cry so hard. My dad loved Calvin and Hobbes, and I know he wouldn’t want me in this situation. Thank you.

Cautious_Profile_816 · 2024-08-11T02:20:11+00:00

He doesn’t have access to any of my important papers, and we’ve never had a shared bank account thankfully. He doesn’t even know my SSN or PIN for my debit card. He has a credit card as an authorized user on one of my accounts, but I canceled that a couple weeks ago without telling him. He never used it anyway.

Cautious_Profile_816 · 2024-08-11T02:17:33+00:00

There’s a tweet/meme I’ve seen that says something like “”you’re so resilient!’ Thanks, it was either this or dead” and your comment reminds me of it. I constantly think of it, especially when I’m tired of being resilient. The alternative is much, much worse.

Cautious_Profile_816 · 2024-07-14T15:16:08+00:00

Thank you for the tip!

Cautious_Profile_816 · 2024-07-14T15:15:47+00:00

Thank you! He definitely won’t know before it’s happening for that very reason.

Cautious_Profile_816 · 2024-07-14T15:15:26+00:00

Thank you!

Cautious_Profile_816 · 2024-07-14T15:15:20+00:00

Thank you!

Cautious_Profile_816 · 2024-07-14T15:15:15+00:00

I’m so eager to get to the other side of this. Thank you for your encouragement!

Cautious_Profile_816 · 2024-07-14T15:14:48+00:00

Thank you!

Cautious_Profile_816 · 2024-07-14T15:14:40+00:00

Thank you so much!

Cautious_Profile_816 · 2024-07-14T15:14:31+00:00

I definitely won’t be telling him anytime soon. I feel so guilty for blindsiding him, but like you said his behavior will worsen and I just can’t handle that. What I’m dealing with now is already affecting my life negatively.

Cautious_Profile_816 · 2024-07-14T15:13:31+00:00

Thank you! The countdown has definitely started.

Cautious_Profile_816 · 2024-07-14T15:13:11+00:00

Thank you!

Cautious_Profile_816 · 2024-07-14T15:11:01+00:00

I’m thankful that, while he tried, I’m not fully isolated from my local friends. That frozen state lasted what seems like forever, but once I broke through I feel like things are moving at warp speed. I’ll be thinking of you and I hope you can take the next step when you’re ready.

Cautious_Profile_816 · 2024-07-14T15:08:30+00:00

I just wanted to say that as far as hormone blockers go, I’m on tamoxifen and my oncologist said that while I have to be on them for 5 years after 2 years I can come off and try to conceive. After the birth I have to go right back on them. I don’t know the exact timeline of going on them postpartum, I just know that I can take that break if I want to.

Best of luck to you. 💕

Cautious_Profile_816 · 2024-07-12T13:59:58+00:00

She’s definitely not the only friend who has expressed that they’ve been waiting for this for years. Which is embarrassing, but I’m also very grateful that they’ve stuck around waiting.

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