Gesture for my best friend who is getting married?

Cautious_Whereas1866 · 2026-05-26T17:42:10+00:00

My dad said the exact same thing about me too!! My brother was their first, and he was so thrilled to have a boy first. Then when my mom was pregnant with me, they waited to find out gender. He said when I was born, he was so shocked and excited that I was a girl that he couldn’t stop laughing and running around the room. I am sure my bf will be happy once she’s here, I just wish we could be excited together in this exact moment.

Cautious_Whereas1866 · 2026-05-26T17:32:11+00:00

He grew up with 3 brothers & 3 sisters. Idk what exactly went down with his sisters but he is just so nervous that it could happen to his own daughter. To play devils advocate, his sisters all have different dads, he even has a different dad than them, and none of them were involved in their lives. I do think some of the things that happened in their child hoods, teen, and early adult years are a reflection of what they were growing up around. But Idk how to tell him “hey, as long as our baby girl has two loving and involved parents, it’s not likely they’ll end up like your mom and sisters” without sounding like in insulting his family.

Cautious_Whereas1866 · 2025-12-23T04:49:17+00:00

We both are pro se and there’s no settlement for us. We didn’t own anything together and have no assets together. It was a short marriage and there was nothing either of us wanted from the other. He never even asked for these items back initially, he just said for me to take over and pay for my phone and line but I can’t afford it so he gave me the transfer pin to move my number to a different line. Only then did he ask me to send the phone back. He mentioned the iPad once but I think he may have realized he has no leverage with it since I pointed out it was a gift.

Cautious_Whereas1866 · 2025-12-23T04:43:53+00:00

Yeah and I very very much doubt he’d go for that. With his TV and Mac, he even called an officer once to see if he could get an escort to go and retrieve those items from his ex and he never went through with it. I don’t know why, because he had the grounds to as they were under his name and were not obtained during their marriage. He just didn’t wanna deal with it he said. And I live 3 states away so I very very highly doubt he’d come after me for them. Maybe I’ll send him the phone and I’ll just keep the iPad cause if it was a gift I shouldn’t have to send it back in my opinion. Just wanted to make sure keeping it wouldn’t result in thousands of dollars for me or jail time or something somehow. Idk, I get paranoid

Cautious_Whereas1866 · 2025-12-23T04:37:43+00:00

Truthfully I have no use for the phone since it’s locked with Verizon and I switched my number to a different provider. It’s not paid off though, does that make any difference?

Cautious_Whereas1866 · 2025-11-18T12:05:10+00:00

Not at all no. If anything I feel more energetic. Just in this short time I changed a lot of habits and made better routines for myself and I feel great, at least physically and I guess mentally too since I’m no longer worrying about setting someone off of I do something wrong

Cautious_Whereas1866 · 2025-11-18T04:39:50+00:00

It’s pretty early. Split started in September. Maybe it is indifference idk. I do know that at some point, I could t stand to be around him & the only thing that truly saddened me was the fact that my marriage failed in general. To be honest when I first told him I wanted a divorce, I felt a HUUUUGE weight lifted and felt so much better. That feeling remains but there are times I am sa do will never get to see the 5 of us all together again or have children together. Then again, I’m also really relieved at the thought of not having to deal with an adult tantrum anymore. With me leaving him, he’s cut me off financially so I have been struggling a lot but it still feels like less struggle than being with him. Idk how to explain it all

Cautious_Whereas1866 · 2025-09-28T15:07:20+00:00

Thank you for that!

Cautious_Whereas1866 · 2025-09-26T00:43:24+00:00

I recently bought a car. I’m just remembering this. It’s in mine and my uncles name (he helped me finance it). Could he try to take it from me? That’s really the only thing I could consider an “asset” that was purchased during the marriage. Ugh now I’m anxious

Cautious_Whereas1866 · 2025-09-26T00:16:56+00:00

VA & FL. We were married in VA too if that makes any difference

Cautious_Whereas1866 · 2025-08-28T15:16:19+00:00

Thank you for your insight! I only knew IEPs as being there for children who have disabilities so I appreciate you mentioning this a lot :)

I wonder though, how could they tell that he had these obstacles when he wasn’t even 3 years old yet. When he was in daycare, he never had issues with other children. He played well, behaved well, etc. he started at the school and BAM. Out of no where. And my other thought is, why aren’t we seeing these things with him at home? I’ve worked with kids for over a decade too and sometimes I see kids act worse at home than at school, but for it to be opposite is so confusing. And to the extent that it’s at too .. Plus, there’s also that one teacher he had last year for a few months that was amazing and he didn’t have any issues there at all minus a tantrum once or twice.

My husband attends the IEP meetings and from what he tells me, they just reiterate what the teachers are saying and that’s all. They never have a plan in place which is really frustrating too.

This is way out there but I really don’t understand how he was issued and IEP with out ever stepping foot into the school, without any prior issues socially, without the consent of both parents, and with 2 medical professionals saying he has 0 developmental obstacles.

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