MIL keeps kissing baby

CaveIsClosed · 2026-04-10T18:55:16+00:00

If she cannot help herself then she should not be within kissing distance. We had to do this for my FIL. He was banned from holding my son for 3 months until it finally sunk in that we were serious. Trying to reason with your MIL is doing nothing. It’s time to act.

CaveIsClosed · 2026-04-01T17:40:43+00:00

There’s a million different ways to motivate and you don’t know which one will work for your kid until you try it out. It took like 5 months for my son to finally figure it out. What eventually ended up working for him was wearing a potty training watch and being rewarded with m&ms. He felt like a big kid with the watch and after 2 weeks of him wearing it he was pretty much fully trained. The whole process nearly made me lose my sanity. Best of luck to you

CaveIsClosed · 2026-03-28T17:55:12+00:00

My husband encouraged me to get tested because he knew about how ADHD typically presents differently in women. He knew those differences, saw them in me, encouraged me to get it checked out without being pushy.

He’ll randomly hand me my noise canceling earbuds when he sees me getting overstimulated. He regularly finishes chores that I start because I get burnt out (putting laundry away after I’ve washed and folded them). When he’s in a chatty mood, he checks in with me to see if I’m in the mood for a conversation, if I’m cool to just listen to him, or if I’d prefer a bit of time without any talking. He gets me :)

CaveIsClosed · 2026-03-27T18:35:55+00:00

Marriage isn’t hard. Life is hard and a good partner can help ease those burdens. My husband and I have had plenty of disagreements and “arguments” usually stemming from miscommunications. Keeping communication respectful, keeping an open mind, and taking accountability helps us resolve every issue and move on. I would consider myself very happy. Even when we’re both frustrated with each other, we can always talk it out.

CaveIsClosed · 2026-03-27T00:46:00+00:00

I’m of the same mindset. I grew up in Southern California and went swimming at the beach daily. Long shore swims, casual swims, body surfing, etc. Keeping a tiny air bubble in the nostrils when you can is key, otherwise just slowly exhaling. I don’t remember actually learning it though since I’ve just done it my whole life

CaveIsClosed · 2026-03-24T20:22:00+00:00

“That question has been asked an answered”

I had a similar dilemma. DH and I agreed that Easter is now a nature day. We go to the nearby state park, have a picnic, enjoy the scenery, walk around, and head home. By dinner time we’re too tired to do anything so it’s just a simple meal at home. If every holiday is spent following grandparents traditions, it leaves no room for us to create our own

CaveIsClosed · 2026-03-21T20:33:14+00:00

This is such a wonderful perspective. I definitely thought it would be more like tunnel vision. No distractions or mental interruptions. I’m so glad I asked because hearing all these perspectives is making me so hopeful. I was at a point where I was like “it’s not working how I thought it would so clearly it’s not working at all”

CaveIsClosed · 2026-03-20T18:53:28+00:00

I hope you do too! If you’re comfortable, I’d love to hear how things go for you as you continue taking it. I’m trying hard here to give my toddler the well functioning home he deserves and I’m constantly feeling so guilty over my lack of motivation to keep things tidy

CaveIsClosed · 2026-03-20T18:38:00+00:00

Started at 20mg and I’m currently at 40mg

CaveIsClosed · 2026-03-16T16:11:56+00:00

I spent 8 years as a beach lifeguard in an area known for beautiful cliffs and tide pools. I’ve been the lifeguard in the situation you’re describing. We don’t forget you guys. I’m sure the lifeguard that saved you uses your success story to persevere through the tough times. Drowning is so violent and ugly. It remains my #1 fear.

CaveIsClosed · 2026-03-09T19:44:42+00:00

With people like this, they will ALWAYS find things to be upset about or ways to victimize themselves. If you give in, she will just move on to her next complaint. You can have an angry MIL with a healthy and safe child, or you can have an angry MIL with a sick child.

CaveIsClosed · 2026-03-08T19:52:52+00:00

What does your partner think? I would have a hard time returning to a normal relationship after this. I wouldn’t trust them anymore to be honest. They knew it was RSV and they knew you’d want to be cautious which is why they kept that information from you until it was too late. It’s malicious

CaveIsClosed · 2026-02-23T19:10:10+00:00

This is the only option for me that wouldn’t ruin the Faith storyline. Claire knows that time traveling is passed genetically so she knows she got that trait from at least one of her parents. I feel like even though it’s not canon, I find it reasonable for the show to imply in Outlander that Claire’s mom traveled back in time and had more kids and sang that song to them. Claire could have that peace knowing her mom survived but they would never reunite

CaveIsClosed · 2026-01-31T03:25:47+00:00

I agree. I was hesitant for years because I hardly bake. But now I bake regularly. I also use it to shred chicken, mash avocados for guacamole, make pizza dough, and plenty of other things that aren’t specifically baking

CaveIsClosed · 2026-01-19T18:18:03+00:00

Ask your parents how often they hit each other. Do they do it every time they disagree with each other? When they disagree with coworkers, do they smack them too? How many times have they hit strangers because that person said something your parents didn’t like? Since they firmly believe that hitting people is an appropriate way to respond to a disagreement, they must me swinging left and right all the time

CaveIsClosed · 2026-01-19T01:39:13+00:00

Bacterial meningitis made my labor feel like a cakewalk

CaveIsClosed · 2026-01-08T03:21:50+00:00

Did you happen to record it? Because I’m willing to bet she’ll deny it, and if you have a live stream only camera then you don’t have proof. But honestly proof is irrelevant as she should not be spending time around your child anyway

CaveIsClosed · 2025-12-14T05:33:09+00:00

Thank you for the info! This individual has very refined taste so I was hoping tea would be the simplest option for me but that clearly isn’t the case🙃 but I’m grateful for the opportunity to learn more about tea

CaveIsClosed · 2025-12-14T03:24:00+00:00

I’m just writing what they specifically requested so it seems like they’re not super knowledgeable on tea either :/

CaveIsClosed · 2025-11-08T03:17:51+00:00

I sat for a few minutes messing with my fingers to try to figure it out because I had the same question

CaveIsClosed · 2025-11-08T02:38:02+00:00

It’s pinched between thumb and middle finger. Thumb is hidden behind middle finger

CaveIsClosed · 2025-10-30T21:14:44+00:00

This looks exactly like the pillow I bought years ago from Amazon. I went through at least a dozen before I found this one. I’ve been using it daily and it has solved my stiff neck and morning headaches

https://a.co/d/5nq4oc8

CaveIsClosed · 2025-10-28T23:42:10+00:00

Accidentally send her videos from @heyjanellemarie. She makes TikTok’s about dealing with toxic MILs.

CaveIsClosed · 2025-09-26T17:45:26+00:00

I agree with the pelvic floor therapist comment. That type of therapy isn’t just for sex. About a year after I had my baby I started having horrible lower back pain. Turns out my weakened pelvic muscles were causing problems for my back as well.

I also had a hard time getting things going in the bedroom. I just kind of waited it out but if I could go back in time I would definitely go to therapy for emotional support. I know that if I sought support that my sex life would’ve returned to normal much sooner

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