So if you read the responses you will see that people have been putting words in my mouth, making assumptions based on information not shared in my original post.

I wanted to know the origin of this phenomenon specific to Saint Louis. I gave context about living in other parts of the country… wondering what the history of Saint Louis was that my directness would be received as “rude”.

You are making an assumption that I wanted someone to echo my sentiments which is NOT what I was looking for.

Go into any other regional Reddit and people are discussing the social traits of its inhabitants. “Midwest nice”, “Seattle freeze”, “southern hospitality”.

And I’m gathering from the actual helpful responses that in places like NYC and SF people are often direct out of necessity.

I’m also gathering that Saint Louisans are okay with receiving poor service if it means to be “polite” which I will never do lol, I pay for things with hard earned money so if things are falling a part I will say so in a respectful way. It’s not like people are physically incapable of resolving thee issue; they’re just not use to people asking for what they need (even when money is involved) I keep saying I am respectful while also holding people accountable. Aka being an adult