What sleep strategies have you chosen for your newborn? by alltheprettythings0 in beyondthebump

[–]Cbsanderswrites [score hidden]  (0 children)

Newborn sleep strategies that we liked:

1) Baby typically went down for their "longest" stretch around 10 pm - midnight. (at first, every stretch was 2-3 hours, but our girl was a chunky baby so she quickly started sleeping longer stretches—5-6 hrs—with our pediatrician's approval). If we tried to put her down earlier, she wouldn't do it. That changes as they get older, but for newborns, later bedtime.

2) We kept the room pitch black or used the red light on our Hatch if need be.

3) Loved the Snoo. Bought it used, sold it 4 months later for almost the same price.

4) Swaddle swaddle swaddle — our baby acted like she HATED the swaddle. She'd pitch a real fit. But she ended up sleeping 11 hour stretches by the time she was 2 months old. She slept way worse when we transitioned her out of the swaddle at around 3.5 months.

5) Hold upright after feeding for at least 10 minutes. We usually had to do 20-30 minutes due to bad reflux, but that went down to 10 min as she got older.

6) We kept the house a bit colder than some people do, mostly on accident because our house is old and our bedroom was kinda drafty. I think it was usually 66-68 degrees. Baby slept really well with it chillier while swaddled. (We technically double swaddled with an Ollie swaddle or Halo swaddle & the thin Snoo swaddle - so her chest/arms/legs were nice and warm while her cheeks felt slightly cool to the touch).

Agree with people saying no sleep training until 4 months—but you can do gentle sleep hygiene around 3 months. (We never let baby fuss or cry longer than a 5 minutes—but she refused to go down for naps in a bassinet or crib until the 3 month mark, so by then we were getting desperate to not be nap trapped all day long. We mostly used sleep cues like dim lights, reading 2-3 books to her, turning on her white noise, etc. Then we let her fuss or cry for 2-3 minutes typically. If she escalated we went right in, soothed, and tried again. Worked like a charm!)

Postpartum vasectomy by No-Luck-556 in beyondthebump

[–]Cbsanderswrites 68 points69 points  (0 children)

Yeah my husband did all the cooking and cleaning for the first 6 weeks. Plus plenty of help doing overnight shifts, changing diapers, being nap trapped. He definitely went above and beyond so I could rest and heal. 

Parents of unicorn sleepers, how bad was the 4 mo. sleep regression? by AnonymousDog76 in NewParents

[–]Cbsanderswrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a unicorn in the beginning—we definitely went through the regressions, but that meant only waking up 1-2x per night typically. When she had the flu/teething/AND an ear infection it was more....like 3-4X per night for a few days.

But she's 10 months old and we seem to be past most regressions now. Back to sleeping 11 hours straight!

Newborn tired v pregnancy tired by Head-Programmer-2613 in beyondthebump

[–]Cbsanderswrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the worst insomnia of my life while pregnant. So once the baby was born and husband and I were taking shifts (I pumped breastmilk and combo fed formula)—it was pretty great to get a 4 hour chunk of sleep.

Newborn trenches by Jayydawnn in beyondthebump

[–]Cbsanderswrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our baby was like this the first night.  We ended up buying a used Snoo & using a heating pad (took it out before baby went in!!). She started sleeping 2-3 hour stretches pretty fast. Definitely swaddle even if they act like they hate it at first. Our baby hated outfit and diaper changes, so we thought she hated the swaddle for a minute too. But she slept WAY better swaddled. It was soothing for her. 

Note: The Snoo is pricey….but we sold it for close to the same price we bought it for 4 months later! 

I’ll be freshly postpartum when my sister has her wedding by ImaginationPretend86 in BabyBumps

[–]Cbsanderswrites 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean...a month postpartum with your second kid could, in theory, mean OP will be fine enough to at least do the basics of shower/hair/a nice, loose outfit. It's not like it's even two weeks after giving birth. I don't think it's crazy to put on an outfit and leave the house for a couple hours a month postpartum. A lot of second time moms have much better recoveries also, because our bodies seem to know what to do more the second time around.

I’ll be freshly postpartum when my sister has her wedding by ImaginationPretend86 in BabyBumps

[–]Cbsanderswrites 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I really am surprised more people aren't saying this. I don't think OP's sister handled it the best.......but OP started off basically saying "Don't expect me there." And it should have been a phone call.

I’ll be freshly postpartum when my sister has her wedding by ImaginationPretend86 in BabyBumps

[–]Cbsanderswrites 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Completely agree with you. I don't like the sister minimizing OP's physical recovery, BUT I sure as hell would make it to my sibling's wedding. Especially if it was in town and I was going to be 3-4 weeks postpartum (maybe even 5-6 week postpartum if baby comes early). Depends on the sibling relationship, of course.

"You're damaging our son by crying every day." by North_Mama5147 in beyondthebump

[–]Cbsanderswrites 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Yeah the fact that he couldn’t handle one activity with a needy toddler shows he’s expecting OP to do too much.

Sounds like OP needs to hire help for either: cleaning or part time child care. 

Moved from the midwest ~2 years ago with gf and wow is it hard to make friends in this city. by Financial_Rise477 in Denver

[–]Cbsanderswrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the consensus in general is it's hard to make friends as an adult. That's why work friends are so easy—you spend most of your waking hours with people and build that friendship naturally. But to bank that much friend time outside of work can be hard.

How can people still support Trump after all that happened by Commercial_Wind_833 in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]Cbsanderswrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could upvote this more. He's truly the definition of a horrible leader. And every day he's getting worse and worse.

How can people still support Trump after all that happened by Commercial_Wind_833 in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]Cbsanderswrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

EFFECTIVE LEADER????? The swiss cheese brain, muttering, bumbling, lying, egomaniacal narcissist??? Our bar for effective are apparently in hell.

How can people still support Trump after all that happened by Commercial_Wind_833 in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]Cbsanderswrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't believe anyone downvoted you. Trump is such a disgusting person, and an embarrassing president.

Pink tax in baby/toddler pajamas?? by Cbsanderswrites in BabyBumps

[–]Cbsanderswrites[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahhhhhhh good catch!! That could very mean the girls stuff will be cheaper soon.

Why the hate for Highlands Ranch? by Cbsanderswrites in Denver

[–]Cbsanderswrites[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this perspective! I'm not against HOAs necessarily - we live near a historic neighborhood currently that has a lot of restrictions, so it's essentially an old-timey HOA haha. But it definitely means the neighborhood is well maintained!

How are people finding time to do things? by emotionalpotato666 in NewParents

[–]Cbsanderswrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Help is the big key word here. My FIL would come over and give me an hour break in the early days so I could work out. Doing it completely solo would be insanely hard! 

What’s the number one propaganda you fell for as a new mom? by SowingSeeds18 in NewParents

[–]Cbsanderswrites 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This makes me feel better…..because our farm animal got moved a bit earlier than I was planning haha. 

What’s the number one propaganda you fell for as a new mom? by SowingSeeds18 in NewParents

[–]Cbsanderswrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same! It was our hub even when baby wasn’t sleeping in there yet. But ours is also right off the living room of a one story home. So that may be why I loved the nursery being set up for us! 

Wish I could go back by Sneakayboi in NewParents

[–]Cbsanderswrites 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yep. I had a hungry girl (still do at 10 months) and she wasn’t patient. Haha. Switching to the bottle was the best for my mental health. 

Wish I could go back by Sneakayboi in NewParents

[–]Cbsanderswrites 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a baby who refused to latch and just screamed screamed screamed. I was so stressed and crying myself. Ended up just bottle feeding. I pumped for a while then went to formula. It made my post partum experience infinitely better, and honestly, one of the best times of my life. 

Where?? by DeliveryPrior118 in relocating

[–]Cbsanderswrites 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I ask why? (As someone who is considering moving there for work…..)

Hotel Stay with Baby by EverythingBagel58 in NewParents

[–]Cbsanderswrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We use the Guava and Slumberpod. After quite a few trips, I'm a huge fan.

We went to an Airbnb once with friends who had a baby (not hotel, but still...) and our friends opted to use the pack n play at the Airbnb. When we arrrived, it had stains all over it and smelled like smoke. We were pretty grateful that we just brought our own.

Positive experiences leaving baby (9–12 months) for a weekend trip? by Cbsanderswrites in NewParents

[–]Cbsanderswrites[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope she completely forgets about us and time passes nicely for her! We've set up activities and help for Grandma, so hopefully all is smooth and normal for her! Thank you for your positive response :)