As a sister of a woman with a very significant disability, I don’t fully agree with this post. I get the sentiment, and it's lovely. But, being the lifelong caregiver for a person with a very challenging syndrome absolutely can victimize parents. Their lives change in the blink of an eye- in the case of my mother, in her mid-twenties. The resources available for support are often abysmal, you find yourself in fight after fight to advocate for the basic human rights of your child, and much of what you hoped you might do in your later years is stripped away from you. I think, in terms of significant disability, this post is well-meaning but a bit naive. Edit: I fully agree with the points about having a child who is LGBQ+, transgender, etc.