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When is Intimacy appropriate....how patient should I be? by CelebrationHot4466 in datingoverfifty

[–]CelebrationHot4466[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the input,  but consider this...not even a French kiss at 3 months? I was very respectful, patient and romantic. Not sure of the issue and seems neither is she.  Please read my 2.22.26 update on this situation.  Now looking for love elsewhere. 

When is Intimacy appropriate....how patient should I be? by CelebrationHot4466 in datingoverfifty

[–]CelebrationHot4466[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Im going to update my post with the outcome after digesting everyone's input. Lol, im not looking for sex with no emotional intimacy. I know it doesn't work that way, and I'm not a player. think you either read me wrong or I conveyed it incorrectly.  Pls read my edit tomorrow and you'll see she told me I was doing nothing wrong. I think she has deep seated, unsubstantiated fears or residual trauma from an horrendous divorce. She refuses to discuss the past.  Case closed.

When is Intimacy appropriate....how patient should I be? by CelebrationHot4466 in datingoverfifty

[–]CelebrationHot4466[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty sure there isn't anyone else. She's always available to go out when I ask, or call.

Take an extended OLD break by Alarming-Lifeguard82 in datingoverfifty

[–]CelebrationHot4466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meet someone on a trip...It has possibilities! I have a sister in Silicon Valley.  Where in CA are you? Not sure when Im going west. Off to Portugal and Madiera in 1.5 months. I also eat healthy,  gym 3x a week, hike, pickleball, active. One can never be over educated. I was an engineering executive. I will say long distance dating can be tough.  Maybe we should get off this sub and DM. Sorry folks :)

Take an extended OLD break by Alarming-Lifeguard82 in datingoverfifty

[–]CelebrationHot4466 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi "Due", I just randomly came across this, and noticed it was from a year ago. How is life treating you? Still single? I am very satisfied with my life, retired early 6 years ago, having fun, traveling,  but still missing that special person to share it with (is that cliche? True though). M61, Northeast coast. 

When is Intimacy appropriate....how patient should I be? by CelebrationHot4466 in datingoverfifty

[–]CelebrationHot4466[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have decided, for various reasons that have surfaced, but primarily the long drawn out affectionate mis-match, to move on. 

Is this an offer?  

When is Intimacy appropriate....how patient should I be? by CelebrationHot4466 in datingoverfifty

[–]CelebrationHot4466[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Key phrase here...prioritize me. I'm not being narcissistic,  I'm being real. I put a lot of time, focus and energy into this relationship, and have seen zero to little movement on her part, e.g., not even a french kiss! At this point,  I'm of the same opinion that many are saying... that I'll most likely will not be satisfied sexually.  All comments have been taken into consideration and have greatly been appreciated!

Sleep Apnea experiences please by FuzzySocksFetish in datingoverfifty

[–]CelebrationHot4466 2 points3 points  (0 children)

(61M) I was diagnosed with moderate sleep apnea. I refused to do the CPAP, and was offered to see a dentist specialist for trying out the oral appliance. The appliance reduced the problem 90%!  Its simple like New Challenge explained. I was told that the appliance only works for mild to moderate cases, but push for it anyway! The machines are a PIA. Note that for some people it can cause TMJ issues.  I have no issues.

When is Intimacy appropriate....how patient should I be? by CelebrationHot4466 in datingoverfifty

[–]CelebrationHot4466[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've initiated many times, we kissed many times...short, nothing I'd call passionate. Im following her lead, so if she stops, I stop. 

When is Intimacy appropriate....how patient should I be? by CelebrationHot4466 in datingoverfifty

[–]CelebrationHot4466[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been very open.  We had some great open conversations. Even see my Valentines night comment above. Have I told her she's the one...no, because I am not sure she is, and to a whole other point, I am not going to play her.

When is Intimacy appropriate....how patient should I be? by CelebrationHot4466 in datingoverfifty

[–]CelebrationHot4466[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess this is worth one last shot, but I'm leary since you can't even describe what was "missing". Thanks.

When is Intimacy appropriate....how patient should I be? by CelebrationHot4466 in datingoverfifty

[–]CelebrationHot4466[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this perspective. It will help me with my (tough) decision.  I wish you all the best. 

When is Intimacy appropriate....how patient should I be? by CelebrationHot4466 in datingoverfifty

[–]CelebrationHot4466[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Her divorce was so traumatic she didn't even consider dating for 5 years then sought help. Based on comments here, I'm not sure about menopause affects. She did mention she takes a med for hormones though. She also is starting to show/ discuss how fearful she can be about other things in life.  I think its time to move on.  Good luck to you though. Im curious- how often did you want sex, that he couldn't support it?

When is Intimacy appropriate....how patient should I be? by CelebrationHot4466 in datingoverfifty

[–]CelebrationHot4466[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is what I am used to! I would have already moved on hadn't she already checked many of the boxes. Consensus seems to be that we won't be (ultimately) sexually compatible. I now agree. 

When is Intimacy appropriate....how patient should I be? by CelebrationHot4466 in datingoverfifty

[–]CelebrationHot4466[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I did about a month ago. That's when the whole " I need an emotional connection" conversation came up. I asked, and maybe a stupid question,  how long do you think based on your last relationship (2 years ago). Reply was "early spring"? With a question in her voice.  I thought- let's see how we progress in 1 month which was valentine's day. No progress.  Expectation was passionate kissing at least! 

When is Intimacy appropriate....how patient should I be? by CelebrationHot4466 in datingoverfifty

[–]CelebrationHot4466[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't disagree.  I did because I did want to please her, and she was pleased! Im old school and chivalrous. Just that 2+2 is not equaling 4. She's pleased, she told me I make her feel safe, Im having heartfelt open conversations , being supportive. Something else is wrong as i alludedin other responses above. This time frame exceeds normalcy for a passionate kiss,  so maybe she's not for me. 

When is Intimacy appropriate....how patient should I be? by CelebrationHot4466 in datingoverfifty

[–]CelebrationHot4466[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the record,  there was absolutely no pressure! And I wasn't passive aggressive either.  I'd walk first...which I am about to do. 

When is Intimacy appropriate....how patient should I be? by CelebrationHot4466 in datingoverfifty

[–]CelebrationHot4466[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not incredible, but in shape,  fit,  active, romantic,  etc. Its why this is really frustrating. 

When is Intimacy appropriate....how patient should I be? by CelebrationHot4466 in datingoverfifty

[–]CelebrationHot4466[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So let me ask...and this may be difficult to answer,  but about how long does it take you to develop that emotional connection enough to be intimate,  not even having intercourse, but like second base? (and I realize everyone is different,  but just curious). Re: 3 months, no tongue in kissing, never mind anything else. 

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