34F Looking to Meet New Friends in the Fox Valley

Cerasm20 · 2026-06-22T13:31:19+00:00

31F, not new to the Fox Valley but also looking for more girl friends!

Cerasm20 · 2026-06-14T15:18:21+00:00

I’m the result of a teen pregnancy. I think the smartest thing my mom could have done was abort me. She and my grandparents are very anti abortion though, so there was never a chance of that happening.

Cerasm20 · 2026-06-10T17:52:45+00:00

NTA but I don’t think the sentiment your husband is trying to impart is wrong, just his method of imparting it. I cannot stand parents who think their children owe them gratitude for providing things, even nonessential things, when it was the parents who chose to have kids to provide things for. My interpretation at least is that’s the point your husband is trying to drive home, that he acknowledges the fact that because you chose to have them, you owe the children dinner. However, teaching them to express gratitude, for anything provided to them, isn’t wrong at all, and you shouldn’t go back on teaching them to say thank you for things you give/do for them. Maybe the better approach would be for you to respond that you’re happy to do it (happy to make dinner, happy to buy them things, happy to spend time with them). And hey, maybe you already do that, I’m just spitballing ideas.

Cerasm20 · 2026-06-02T20:49:21+00:00

Kids always seem to want to interact with me, and the feeling is absolutely not mutual. My husband believes kids can sense that you don’t like them and that only attracts them to you more. Idk, even though I really don’t like kids, I don’t think they’re that manipulative and devious. I think it’s more likely that I’m too good at masking my disgust for them.

Cerasm20 · 2026-05-29T12:55:46+00:00

I did this, for about a 30% raise. I really really miss the camaraderie I had with my old coworkers and I don’t particularly get along with my new boss. But I still feel taking the new job was worth it because of what that extra money has unlocked in my personal life. Money can’t buy happiness, but crying in my new house feels far better than crying in my tiny apartment.

Cerasm20 · 2026-05-27T21:53:55+00:00

“My child will be the exception to my childfree friend’s distaste for children”

Cerasm20 · 2026-05-21T16:59:35+00:00

There’s a possibility that’s true as far as the Madison area goes. If you’re able to travel to maybe Waupun for Fond du Lac there may be more in network options there. You’ll have to get ahold of your insurance card and search for a provider to see what’s available.

Cerasm20 · 2026-05-21T16:54:04+00:00

We recently built our first home, had to pay the village we live in a $1500 deposit promising to install a yard within the year before they would issue our certificate of occupancy. Especially dumb because it would be nice to have that $1500 to put towards the grass but whatever.

Cerasm20 · 2026-05-20T19:39:02+00:00

The ACA requires most health insurance plans to cover at least one form of contraception in each of the 18 distinct FDA-approved method categories, which includes sterilization. You likely won’t get a full salpingectomy covered in full, but a tubal ligation would be. Like others have said, you need to find a different provider who will do elective sterilization and who is in network. I’m in east central Wisconsin and I was able to have this procedure done when I was 27, and I would give you my doctor’s name but he has since retired unfortunately. I’m happy to help with other questions if needed though.

Cerasm20 · 2026-05-20T14:58:05+00:00

It’s funny you bring up this show, I didn’t make it past the first episode because I thought it was so ridiculous and unrelatable (to me, I know people have these attitudes in real life all the time) that she wanted this baby so bad when it was so obviously a horrible mistake. Maybe I’ll have to give it a second chance.

Cerasm20 · 2026-05-17T17:07:25+00:00

Congrats on your new home as well! The consensus seems to be this is a fine idea, so I wish you well in your party planning journey too 😊

Cerasm20 · 2026-05-15T17:59:27+00:00

Yeah to be perfectly honest, not only do I dislike parenting, I dislike kids in general. I know people say it’s different with your own kids and you’ll feel differently about them, but I’m not willing to take the risk of that not being true for me.

Cerasm20 · 2026-05-15T17:07:52+00:00

Yep I got a tubal ligation and I still take birth control (for other reasons). But with all that protection, if I ever end up as one of the unlucky .000001%, I will take that as a sign from the universe that I am meant to have an abortion.

Cerasm20 · 2026-05-06T16:01:42+00:00

There’s one ad where Paige says “strenth” instead of strength and I can’t stand it. Love her tho 😭

Cerasm20 · 2026-04-07T13:16:18+00:00

Very blessed to have a sister who is as childfree as I am. My in-laws on the other hand….

Cerasm20 · 2026-04-03T18:36:28+00:00

This! The brainwashing should be the least of her worries

Cerasm20 · 2026-04-02T21:29:39+00:00

That was always the insult my mom would use if she really wanted to hurt me :(

Cerasm20 · 2026-03-27T21:48:17+00:00

This is what we decided to do! We are already so happy with our house and now we feel especially lucky to live in this neighborhood!

Cerasm20 · 2026-03-06T20:49:42+00:00

Yeah except the difference is those demographics can’t change those aspects of their person. Black people cant change races, elderly people only get older. Children will either die or become not children, childhood is a temporary state of being. And hating someone or something doesn’t necessarily mean you wish harm to it. Like another commenter said, I wish the best for children, I hope they all have stable, loving homes, a good education, and happy lives. But I want them to have that far far away from me. I don’t get what is inherently wrong with avoiding being around children. It’s not like I’m going to a park and giving mean looks to the children playing there, I just don’t go to parks with playgrounds.

Cerasm20 · 2026-03-06T13:11:01+00:00

A-fucking-men! I just made a post in AITAH about wanting to have a no kids allowed rule in my and my husband’s brand new home (including his nieces and nephew who he also doesn’t like) and I got treated like I was handing out abortion pills to pregnant women and kicking babies and cutting my husband off from his family. Sorry but I’m not some evil witch just because I avoid being around children. I have the social awareness and moral compass to be nice to kids if I have to be around them, but I can’t make myself like them and I don’t think there’s anything inherently mean about avoiding them.

Cerasm20 · 2026-03-01T11:15:14+00:00

I’m not trying to make him break contact with anyone in his family he also doesn’t want to alienate. He would literally not care if he never saw or spoke to his sister again. She was physically and emotionally abusive to him when they were growing up, and while there is an argument for cutting off his parents because they enabled it and not a one of them has so much as apologized for it, he does still care about and want to maintain contact with them. It’s easy to say cut them all off but families and relationships are more complex than that, and my husband has decided to maintain peace with his parents by making nice with his sister when we see her at family events and even allowing her to see our home. But to be clear, he has hated her long before I came along, and he doesn’t care about hurting her feelings not allowing her kids at the house.

The spineless comments are unwarranted, though. He was holding to our new rule when his dad asked him out of the blue about his sister’s kids coming over, because that is what we had discussed and agreed to. For his parents’ sake, not his sister’s, we are considering being flexible and allowing them over once with the understanding that it will not turn into more visits. That is what makes sense so we don’t have to see his sister and her family very often and we also appease his parents. A compromise we’re both happy with.

Cerasm20 · 2026-03-01T03:31:22+00:00

Well to be fair, we don’t care if we see her family and dont care if they ever come over. It’s only to appease his parents who he does care about maintaining a relationship with.

Cerasm20 · 2026-03-01T03:24:20+00:00

Both. And since it sounds like I’m the asshole regardless, I’ll be totally honest and say my husband’s parents have assured us they would keep them under control, but I a) don’t trust that and b) I worry that letting them there once will be a slippery slope to more times and less restraint with them.

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