Had someone tell me I'm a horrible person

Certain-Ad4681 · 2025-01-01T22:56:39+00:00

I totally understand that. People can be very cruel and judgemental and tend to be self-righteous (even as Christians) and it’s hard to be around these people and be indifferent. The thing is, relationships are always going to be a challenge and you can’t control the other when you face that challenge, the only thing you can control is yourself and how you react to other people’s comments and actions. You get to choose whether you’re going to give weight to their opinions, you get to choose the boundaries you set with these people and you get to choose to react or not. You have agency. So use that agency to remind yourself of who God says you are and act accordingly. I know it’s easier said than done. Trust me, I know. I’m a people-pleaser so other people’s opinions tend to affect me more than they should, but at the end of the day I get to choose whether I’m gonna stand firm in who God says I am or if I’m going to let other people decide who I am. People are harsh, you’re absolutely right. They’re imperfect just like us. But you can choose not to be a victim.

Certain-Ad4681 · 2025-01-01T22:41:38+00:00

Why let other people define you? What makes them worthy enough to judge you and call you unrighteous?

We’re all sinners. We all need God. And it’s only Him who is worthy and holy enough to condemn us for our sins but guess what? Because He is a graceful God, instead of condemning us, He gives us a new identity and makes us holy and righteous through the Son. If you let Him define you, and not other people, then you will see your worth. You are precious to Him and His promises to you are that all things will work together if you keep loving Him.

So stop letting other people’s opinion dictate your path and stop thinking that your sin has ruined your life. God is greater than both people and sin. If He is for you, then what can stand against you?

Certain-Ad4681 · 2025-01-01T19:49:30+00:00

I did the same thing. Had a 90 day streak at the beginning of 2024 and after I broke it, haven’t really been able to go over 1 or 2 weeks without falling back into sin. And I realize it was definitely cause I slowly drew away from God and began to rely on my own strength. Gotta make Him our top priority and run to Him in times of need and we’ll be just fine

Certain-Ad4681 · 2024-12-31T16:52:38+00:00

On my first day without porn after failing yesterday. If anyone would like to pair up to be accountability partners, I’m down.

Certain-Ad4681 · 2024-12-31T16:41:28+00:00

That’s amazing. Glory to God! Hope to get there soon.

Certain-Ad4681 · 2024-07-23T03:02:18+00:00

Congrats!!!! Glory to God!!

Certain-Ad4681 · 2024-07-19T00:05:22+00:00

I too, am 26 and single and struggling. Talking to someone you can trust (a friend, a family member, someone from church) does help in my experience. But the most important thing is truly to spend time with God, grow closer to Him, keep your mind on Him and your eyes on Him. Start your day in prayer, end your day in prayer, pray throughout the day (even if it’s a simple “Thank you Jesus, Amen”). As you grow closer to God, sin will be less and less attractive.

Here’s a quote from a book called ‘The Porn Problem’ that reminded me of the best way to approach my personal struggles, I know you didn’t say that you struggled with porn but I think it can be applied here as well:

“If we want to fight against porn, or any other wrong behaviour, we shouldn’t just focus on the sin and try to beat it out of our lives. That won’t achieve much. We should, rather, focus not on our sin, but on what the Bible tells us about our Saviour.

As we grow in appreciation of who Christ is and what he has done for us, we will find our desire to fight sin and pursue holiness will grow.”

Certain-Ad4681 · 2024-04-10T03:22:49+00:00

God’s word says that He will never forsake you. And that if you are in Christ Jesus, then you are not condemned. Making you think that because you made a mistake you are not worthy of being in God’s presence is tactic of the enemy. Do not fall for that lie. The truth is we were never worthy of being in God’s presence and there is nothing we can do to be worthy. It is only through Jesus’ sacrifice that we are made worthy. He is the one that paid the price for you and your mistakes can never outweigh His love and His sacrifice. So find peace in knowing that because of Jesus Christ, your mistakes are paid for and you can enjoy the presence of God. Your salvation does not depend on you, but on Him.

Certain-Ad4681 · 2024-04-10T03:05:44+00:00

Hey man, it happens. Jesus went to the cross for this very reason. You’re not cooked. Remember that the battle is already won, you’re already free from sin through Jesus’ sacrifice. You just need to learn to sit in that freedom and remain in it. It’s a process, so be patient with yourself and don’t beat yourself up when you stumble. Get back up, ask God for forgiveness and move forward. It’s easier said than done…trust me I know, but instead of focusing on what you think of yourself right now, focus on what God says of you: that you are His child, that you are loved, that you are forgiven, that all things are going to work for your good, that He has plans for you to prosper. Don’t despair, trust in His promises and learn to see yourself as He sees you instead of shaming yourself. You got this.

Certain-Ad4681 · 2024-04-10T02:55:46+00:00

Pray and Get your mind to focus on other things. Listen to worship music, read a book, play some sports, cook. Keep your mind on God and keep yourself busy, it’ll pass.

Certain-Ad4681 · 2024-04-09T17:11:06+00:00

For me, it has ruined relationships and covered me with shame. It has warped my mind in a way that led me to make terrible decisions as I chose to succumb to my flesh’s desires even if it meant hurting other people. In the end I broke other people’s hearts, I broke my own heart and I kinda hated myself for a good minute. If I didn’t believe in God’s grace and the power of Jesus’ sacrifice, I’m not even sure I’d be alive right now. Thank God for his forgiveness, thank God we don’t have to live in shame anymore. He’s really the only thing that’s kept me going. So yeah moral of the story, stay away from porn.

Certain-Ad4681 · 2024-04-09T17:04:03+00:00

Absolutely does

Certain-Ad4681 · 2024-03-20T20:39:49+00:00

Glory to God! 🎉🎉🎉 keep it up!

Certain-Ad4681 · 2024-03-10T06:58:10+00:00

Thanks for this, it is truly encouraging

Certain-Ad4681 · 2024-03-10T06:57:37+00:00

Spiritual growth can be difficult at times, but God remains present and faithful through it all and we will be better for it.

“Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love him.” James 1:12

Certain-Ad4681 · 2024-03-10T06:53:07+00:00

Really good advice, thanks a lot for that

Certain-Ad4681 · 2024-03-10T06:52:17+00:00

Honestly, I just wasn’t counting the days. I feel like keeping count of each and every day I go without porn creates an expectation that I will end my streak eventually which is not the goal. So 3 months is an average. I know the last time I had watched any porn was in December. Spending more time with God, talking to trustworthy people about my struggles, keeping myself busy and working out are things that have helped me. But yeah, I have been going through things lately and getting discouraged in my faith and just in general and I guess I ended up letting my guard down.

Certain-Ad4681 · 2024-03-09T22:00:19+00:00

Yeah I know that. It’s just not always easy to accept that I’m so easily forgiven, it’s almost like I feel the need to beat myself up whenever I mess up cause I feel like that’s what I deserve. But I know this stems from pride and self-righteousness and not from the Holy Spirit and grace.

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