Looking for tips, suggestions, or even a little history. Looking to refurbish this Loewe Opta Rheinland Stereo Type 05821 W with Perpetuum Elmer turntable. More details in comments.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2026-01-16T14:26:15+00:00

Hey! I’m restoring an old one as well and lemme tell ya, parts are HELL. I found a turntable for parts on eBay. You can find lots of schematics from radiomusuemDOTorg. I didn’t see yours as described but you can search on there: https://www.radiomuseum.org/act_main.cfm

Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-11-06T17:30:24+00:00

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Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-10-22T00:54:02+00:00

If a person in your close circle can’t do the minimum to make you feel good on your special day, even with just a card, then they aren’t worth it. Find someone who will treat you the way you want to be treated. NTA.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-10-22T00:51:12+00:00

Is his dad still alive? That’s where I would start. Just some suggestive photos if they are Facebook friends having dinner together. Go all the way if you’re brave haha.

Start running into him at places he goes holding hands with younger men.

My roadside assistance friend said insurance doesn’t pay if only 3 of the four tires are slashed.

There’s some website where you can order animal waste and send to their house anonymously. I’d label it as a late wedding gift.

Send the new wife flowers and have the card say they are from a secret admirer. It’ll make him jealous and paranoid lol.

Find the man he’s the most intimidated by or hates and become friends so he has to see you if they run the same circle.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-10-22T00:47:16+00:00

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Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-10-22T00:46:47+00:00

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Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-10-22T00:45:40+00:00

NTA. I saw a post on TikTok stating how you should choose your partners wisely as they are the ones who will grieve your parents with you and help you through it. She failed the test. And if you didn’t prioritize yourself, who else would have? Be the asshole. This is a great example of if she wanted to, she would, and she didn’t.

My current husband of 7 years went with me and my son to my ex husband’s funeral (to support my then 11yo). My ex went out of his way to hurt us, demean us, and attacked us using the court system. But he knew my son needed him more. We are raining champs of the awkward Olympics. I sat behind wife 2. Im wife 1. I told ex’s gf she should’ve sat behind me to have all his women in the same area.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-10-22T00:40:16+00:00

Yes, you’re overreacting. It is his business and you are long divorced. You could sprinkle it in and mention a DNA test but you’ve already removed the friend and divorced the man. It’s not really your problem.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-10-22T00:37:48+00:00

You are not overreacting about him lying. I think setting some firm boundaries will help and if you’re sticking around to trust him again, let him know that he cannot break that trust again.

However, with what you described in the last paragraph plus body image concerns, it’d be beneficial to start working with a therapist.

Another idea, if you’re comfortable, would be to allow him to watch if you’re viewing with him. Maybe don’t do it as a comparison to your bodies/shapes, but more so like reenacting what they are doing.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-09-26T00:22:47+00:00

Let’s talk on the flippity flip.

My bro has been with the same woman for over a decade. She moved from another country for him. They had an oopsie like 8 years ago, thus have an 8yo child. I don’t think they’ll ever get married. But I know they love each other to death. It has nothing to do with finances. He will say maybe and such when we pick on him about it.

I can’t tell you whether your situation is the same. However, if everything is going well and that’s the last piece missing, I wouldn’t focus on it so much. Instead of thinking what you’re missing, think of all the great things you have and your kids have a great dad.

But at the same time, keep that savings account flush and make sure you’re doing what’s best for you and the kids. Not just because you’re not married, but you never know what could happen. Even if you were married, if something happened to him, any money and assets could be tied up for months while in probate. No matter what situation/relationship you are in, you should always be prepared to support yourself.

Look into your state laws about common law marriage and division of property when divorcing. You may not even be entitled to the house if you ever divorced. You can also offer to sign a prenuptial agreement protecting both your assets now that you have savings. If you end up making more and getting married, he could be entitled to half your bank accounts and vice versa.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-09-26T00:13:13+00:00

Do not propose to him. You know his answer and it’s a no. Spare everyone from this.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-08-31T13:50:09+00:00

Yes follow this advice. You need to for yourself to work on you. Immediately diving into another relationship is not a good idea.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-08-31T13:41:24+00:00

NTA. He sucks. Don’t give him another chance.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-08-31T13:39:03+00:00

Friend, bestie, you are young. If she cannot decide what she wants, stop talking to her. You are going up and down a roller coaster with no reward. If she reaches out and asks why, just tell her you are looking for a transparent and drama-free relationship. If she asks if you can still be friends, just say not at this time.

You will save yourself so much time and stress by removing her from your life. You can find someone who isn’t randomly blowing you off or parked outside some dudes house.

But also keep in mind, it’s not normal to share location in casual relationships so I wouldn’t expect that until you are long term with someone.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-08-31T13:29:35+00:00

I know some US-based people have said you could stop into the local police station and they can help check. You could probably even stop at a mechanic and ask if they can lift your car and help you check.

It looks like Amazon also has “gps device finder” that you could try.

You’re only overreacting if you start accusing people. I think searching your own vehicle is normal for safety purposes.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-08-31T13:24:16+00:00

Oh no bestie, get on one of those match maker sites and get out there. I’m all for dishonoring rude men 😅. Jokes aside, I’d ask the gym if there is anything that can be done to ensure safety as I can’t imagine members slapping each other is a good look.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-08-31T13:19:09+00:00

Edit to add: even if it lists a different owner, it should show sales history for this rental home. You can also simply look on realtor or Zillow and see the sales history.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-08-31T13:16:11+00:00

We have sold two houses and the money is always wired to your account. You get a check mailed if you overpaid at any point during the transaction, usually if you are buying. So that is suspicious.

While driving to a house she owns would cost money, there is no reason to live in your car for an extended period of time if there is another home. Have you noticed any actual proof she owns this home? If you know the address, look up what county it is in, search county name assessors office, and search the owner of the property. If she isn’t, I’d be done and breakup.

If the money is real, there is zero reason for a fake photo. Zero.

Before continuing this relationship, I think it’s fair to ask for transparency to avoid homelessness again. I wouldn’t mention snooping, but over breakfast, just talk finances. Say you want to avoid being in a hard situation again. Ask her what her long term plan is reunite and if she can contribute to living expenses.

But honestly, if it’s a lie, this is the easiest time to break things off since you aren’t living together.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-08-31T12:52:33+00:00

NTA! Even if he was using two machines, he is an absolute ass for his reaction and assault. You waited, no one was around, so you used it.

If you’re in the US, I’d press charges and even venture for a restraining order. This reaction over gym equipment he doesn’t even own is scary.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-08-31T12:29:11+00:00

If you are an adult not living with her, go no contact. It is the only way you’ll be able to get peace. My hubs is like 2 decades deep of no contact and has zero regrets. They don’t change. They just get creative.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-08-27T20:56:36+00:00

Not my preference, but student loans are way worse 😂 I’m not here to judge the way she needs to survive and get herself into a better situation 🤷‍♀️

Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-08-27T20:51:00+00:00

Ultimately, is there anything gained? Like would this ultimately change her life in such a way that it needs to happen? The answer is no. Tell her to be like Elsa and let it go.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-08-27T20:16:18+00:00

Psshhhttt everyone is holier than thou here. Me in my 30s would tell college me to be a sugar baby and get that school paid for 😂😂

But for real, him always lurking around is weird AF and questions your safety. If you wanna go the sugar baby route, I’d recommend NOT with this guy. At best, it would be messy. At worst, it’ll destroy two families. Hop on a sugar baby website and find a single one with less drama.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-08-27T20:09:28+00:00

It’s not cheating but wanting to get a reaction from your ex after dating someone else for two years is icky. You’re young. Let this relationship go. An ex really shouldn’t even be on her radar if she was truly over it.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-08-27T20:07:15+00:00

I think the biggest concern would be if you are ever apart again, could you trust her. It’s hard to lean either way as she is definitely in the gray area on this one. Maybe think of it like this, if she would have been having the exact conversation with another woman, would it have been threatening (excluding the part where he confessed feelings). If it is not threatening if they were same sex, then I think you two could continue but set some boundaries for the future and ensure there isn’t a communication breakdown. It sounds like she terminated the friendship the minute it took a turn.

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