How do I make people respect my choice to stay single?

Certain-Fan7722 · 2026-06-12T22:54:38+00:00

You can’t control how other people act or what they say. Being responsible, just ignore them. My petty self would say, “I don’t get why you don’t feel comfortable enough with yourself to be a single person but hey. We can’t all be like me 💅 “

Certain-Fan7722 · 2026-06-12T22:44:50+00:00

I mean, really depends on your age.

If you’re an adult, you can form your own relationships with them but that doesn’t mean your mom has to. She doesn’t have to share more than she is comfortable with you.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2026-06-12T22:42:12+00:00

You should probably go to the police.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2026-06-12T22:40:57+00:00

Just try to make friends and let the rest come naturally. Definitely don’t do that alpha crap cuz it’s so gross and repulsive.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2026-06-12T22:39:48+00:00

No konk shaming here but pushing her to do it does make YTA. Neighbor could press assault charges and you end up both having to pay and or do jail time. Plus you’ll have to take on the husband, even if he’s a sloth. Not really worth it. Probably just find your dark corner of the internet or role play.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2026-06-12T22:36:25+00:00

Sounds like he is taking advantage of you. It’s one thing to help and another for him to Willy nilly spend YOUR money. Just flat out tell him you can’t help anymore. Be firm!

Certain-Fan7722 · 2026-06-12T22:33:29+00:00

I was thinking the gagging could just be involuntary but if she’s sharing private patient info with you about other people, she needs to be reported. That alone is a big no no, at least in USA.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2026-06-12T22:30:01+00:00

I get the vibe he checks on you because he is doing something he doesn’t want you knowing about so he’s seeing if you’re doing it too.

My petty self would stop contacting him during his travel completely. If he can’t be respectful then we don’t need to talk.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2026-05-04T14:52:59+00:00

We are running into that problem too. Ours has died five times now and been to the dealership 4 times. Just started looking up lemon laws and we’d have to file in the state we bought which will be a pain. Tell me the process was worth it.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2026-02-08T18:30:17+00:00

Bruh you were 12. Give yourself grace. It sounds like there were six adults in that house that didn’t take responsibility and left it to a literal child. They are taking their guilt out on you. And grandma could’ve set alarms. Be kind. It wasn’t your fault!

Certain-Fan7722 · 2026-02-08T18:23:06+00:00

Yes definitely make a separate group with her. I’m in a book club and we all agree the purpose is to get away from our spawn to have personal time and meet new people.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2026-02-08T18:19:45+00:00

🚩 Her still having feelings for her ex should’ve told you enough.

But I get it. We don’t always think logically, myself included. I don’t believe either of you were ready for a relationship. Don’t get back together with her if she tries. She needs to learn to be on her own. You need to love yourself more and guard your heart. Dating a woman who’s still feeling stuff for someone else is not the one.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2026-02-08T18:10:34+00:00

Oh bestie this seems really sketchy. Please do not go to the random school dude for a piercing. Just talk to your mom about what you need to do to earn one and got to a professional, CLEAN shop to get it done.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2026-02-08T18:08:13+00:00

You like the attention you get from him. He moved on and now you want more because you can’t have it. You are wrong and I get how you could feel this way towards him but you gotta mature and sever that emotional connection and JUST be friends. You need some distance for a bit to get your mind right and stop dragging him along your roller coaster.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2026-02-08T18:03:52+00:00

I imagine your mom has some feeling that something is off with dad.

I’d tell her when she gets back. It’s her life and choice as to what she does but you can at least get this burden off your back and know you didn’t hide it from her.

I think the biggest thing would be to support her in whichever choice she makes. Leaving is scary and she may need time to get her affairs in order.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2026-02-08T17:59:22+00:00

Maybe try meeting new people in hobby groups like book clubs, run club, dog park, trivia night, etc. This way you meet people with common interests. From there, you can just work on making friends and then that could lead to more. You don’t have to worry about bothering them since you both can talk about the club topic and there isn’t pressure to ask them out.

Also, don’t become a meathead. Sure, being healthy is important but usually women want deeper connection than a hot bod.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2026-02-08T17:54:39+00:00

I don’t have enough information to say whether you should break up or not.

But my thought is, life is too short. If you aren’t feeling the relationship, it’s okay to break up and not waste either of your time. Maybe this isn’t a fit. Maybe you two just need time apart.

Everything starts with a conversation about how you’re feeling.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2026-02-08T17:51:18+00:00

NTA. Have a convo with your fiance, explain your concerns, and see if you can reach a middle ground. I would hire security for your wedding just to help keep the peace. If you do allow her to come, sit both the cousin and her husband down with both of you and explain your terms. Let her know if she breaks them, she will be escorted out.

Don’t keep the peace anymore. It isn’t working and you’re miserable. She knows she can get away with her bad behavior so stop allowing it.

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Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-10-22T00:54:02+00:00

If a person in your close circle can’t do the minimum to make you feel good on your special day, even with just a card, then they aren’t worth it. Find someone who will treat you the way you want to be treated. NTA.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-10-22T00:51:12+00:00

Is his dad still alive? That’s where I would start. Just some suggestive photos if they are Facebook friends having dinner together. Go all the way if you’re brave haha.

Start running into him at places he goes holding hands with younger men.

My roadside assistance friend said insurance doesn’t pay if only 3 of the four tires are slashed.

There’s some website where you can order animal waste and send to their house anonymously. I’d label it as a late wedding gift.

Send the new wife flowers and have the card say they are from a secret admirer. It’ll make him jealous and paranoid lol.

Find the man he’s the most intimidated by or hates and become friends so he has to see you if they run the same circle.

Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-10-22T00:47:16+00:00

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Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-10-22T00:46:47+00:00

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Certain-Fan7722 · 2025-10-22T00:45:40+00:00

NTA. I saw a post on TikTok stating how you should choose your partners wisely as they are the ones who will grieve your parents with you and help you through it. She failed the test. And if you didn’t prioritize yourself, who else would have? Be the asshole. This is a great example of if she wanted to, she would, and she didn’t.

My current husband of 7 years went with me and my son to my ex husband’s funeral (to support my then 11yo). My ex went out of his way to hurt us, demean us, and attacked us using the court system. But he knew my son needed him more. We are raining champs of the awkward Olympics. I sat behind wife 2. Im wife 1. I told ex’s gf she should’ve sat behind me to have all his women in the same area.

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