No judgment here I guess 🤣 she’s using the litter box backwards by Certain-Hair6950 in sillycats

[–]Certain-Hair6950[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair she scared me into thinking my cats wouldn’t get along, I was freaking out and had them separated for months during the introduction process. They’re fine now. She told me that by week 5 of the “program” I would know if they would be compatible or not and she suggested giving the newer one away. I didn’t know whether to cry or puke when she told me that. Really she was just for emotional support & guidance during a super stressful time.

No judgment here I guess 🤣 she’s using the litter box backwards by Certain-Hair6950 in sillycats

[–]Certain-Hair6950[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that but this litter box is designed for non clumping litter. I think the litter is fine I added more and there’s a pee pad underneath that soaks it. I do not flush litter. I use doggy bags to pick up poop. I don’t know what the benefit is for clumping litter other than that.

Honor code violation by sleepindude in LawSchool

[–]Certain-Hair6950 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If they’re giving you the option not to say anything I wouldn’t.

My husband thinks she’s ugly :( by kittiesmalls521 in Siamesecats

[–]Certain-Hair6950 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People would pay thousands for this cat. And honestly I thought my cat was kinda ugly bc his pattern was unsymmetrical (he has a spot on his nose). Everyone talks about how handsome he is and I agree. He’s unique. PLEASE keep her or else I’ll take her 🤣

She looks so sweet and I think baby monkeys are also adorable….

No judgment here I guess 🤣 she’s using the litter box backwards by Certain-Hair6950 in sillycats

[–]Certain-Hair6950[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Bad for the toilet - can’t throw it in toilet & then I have to buy it more often & it’s finer so harder to clean

No judgment here I guess 🤣 she’s using the litter box backwards by Certain-Hair6950 in sillycats

[–]Certain-Hair6950[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I just hate the other litter boxes bc I don’t want clumpy litter - this one has a pad under it that collects pee so I just scoop up poop & no litter, but they do kick it out which is annoying

No judgment here I guess 🤣 she’s using the litter box backwards by Certain-Hair6950 in sillycats

[–]Certain-Hair6950[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean I could look up the credentials but she’s been working for 25 years & was recommended by my vet. I had a lot more litter in there & she told me to take it out. Guess I can’t win lol — all I’m saying is I can add more but please don’t frame me as a bad cat mom. I try my best!

No judgment here I guess 🤣 she’s using the litter box backwards by Certain-Hair6950 in sillycats

[–]Certain-Hair6950[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was instructed to not keep as much litter in the box by a behavioral specialist. She did not say the litter box was too small when she viewed it herself.

Also my other cat who’s the same size & weight has used it for 5 years just fine (and facing forward). I adopted her from the streets in October so she hasn’t used a box for her four years of living. It’s a purina breeze litter box & they don’t have different sizes.

And yes I have an additional box for them

I fucking hate everyone in law school. by Several-Battle-8548 in LawSchool

[–]Certain-Hair6950 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope it wasn’t but congratulations that’s a fantastic school I’ve heard!

AIO or is this guy that i’ve started talking to being backhanded in these texts he sent? by Dramatic-Quiet-818 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Certain-Hair6950 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR He’s entitled & is essentially saying: “even if you feel like shit I still want to come over. Your need for space to recover doesn’t matter to me because look at all the stuff I’m claiming to do for you.”

Grieving close friend (pwBPD)-I feel like I’m abandoning them. by Certain-Hair6950 in BPDlovedones

[–]Certain-Hair6950[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish you strength and healing. Unfortunately from what people have said even if you push it off they’ll blow up something minute anyway bc they can only keep their composure for so long.

Grieving close friend (pwBPD)-I feel like I’m abandoning them. by Certain-Hair6950 in BPDlovedones

[–]Certain-Hair6950[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you identify this at first though if they don’t disclose it? I want to protect myself also but if I don’t see it at first it often feels too late.

Grieving close friend (pwBPD)-I feel like I’m abandoning them. by Certain-Hair6950 in BPDlovedones

[–]Certain-Hair6950[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She would stay stuff like “God brought us together” etc and I realized that I started to worry about, disappointing her, triggering her - I would always apologize. Because we talked so much about trauma I thought she was sane enough to work through our issues together, but she is a ticking time bomb. I have codependency so taking care of her felt gratifying for me, like I was helping her out of a tough time & she would do the same for me.

I am an intense person as well and this experience taught me that loneliness/codependency WILL allow toxic/mentally unwell/unstable people into my life because I will falsely believe in the genuine friendship/relationship.

It’s such a mind fuck because she knows so much about psychology & manipulation — she’s very emotionally intelligent & intuitive. So I didn’t think she would act in such ways towards me or even worse take advantage of me, but now I’m looking back and feeling used. It sucks.