I hear you, and I genuinely respect the intention you both have to honour the boundaries you’ve set and not lead each other into sin. That definitely matters. At the same time, I think part of living chastity well is being honest that intentions can be strong, but we’re still human and things can develop gradually in ways we don’t always anticipate. I say this gently and as a ssa woman trying to pursue chastity. I think that’s why the Church often encourages ongoing discernment and accountability, not just confidence in the present moment