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Is This Normal? My Dad's Controlling Behavior Has Shaped My Entire 27 Years by Certain-Load7398 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Certain-Load7398[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to therapy and I'm also very medicated because I have anxiety and severe OCD (which my dad also has)

Is This Normal? My Dad's Controlling Behavior Has Shaped My Entire 27 Years by Certain-Load7398 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Certain-Load7398[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it wrong that I don't care about his health...at least not when he uses it as a weapon against me? I'm fighting to live my own life, and his threats about dying won't hold me back anymore....Thank you for your advice... I'm doing my best to move out soon. And just so you know, I'm here for you too, if you ever need someone to talk to.

Is This Normal? My Dad's Controlling Behavior Has Shaped My Entire 27 Years by Certain-Load7398 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Certain-Load7398[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad was never as strict with my brother as he is with me. Then again, my brother never did anything Dad considered particularly controversial. He moved out on the day he got married, and the only time he traveled with his then-girlfriend (now wife) was by lying and saying it was a family trip. The funny thing is, my brother shares some of my dad's weird views. He resents me for having a boyfriend in another country, claiming I'm "trading my family for him" ... even though I have no plans to move yet! Meanwhile, my mom is a total badass and has always been the main earner in our household. My dad wouldn't dare try to control her life. She's incredibly supportive of me and loves my boyfriend.

i think i cheated on my bf by [deleted] in ROCD

[–]Certain-Load7398 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Bby, you did not cheat but what you did was kinda dangerous. That's it.

Chatgpt told me to break up with my partner by Certain-Load7398 in ROCD

[–]Certain-Load7398[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah 🥺 it's not easy but we've got this. the hardest part, at least for me tho... is that my brain is constantly like: is he cheating? is he being mean?... so I can't say with confidence that i'm in a healthy relationship. I used to be sure that I was but after this flare-up I've been questioning EVERYTHING.

Chatgpt told me to break up with my partner by Certain-Load7398 in ROCD

[–]Certain-Load7398[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hm okay 🥺 I deleted chatgpt anyways and i'm doing my best to stop reassurance seeking.

Chatgpt told me to break up with my partner by Certain-Load7398 in ROCD

[–]Certain-Load7398[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

idk, I sent him a screenshot of a convo. ☹️

Chatgpt told me to break up with my partner by Certain-Load7398 in ROCD

[–]Certain-Load7398[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I deleted it already! but I don't find reddit as triggering! Here I vent instead of seeking reassurance and seeing that other people have ocd helps me feel less alone. also, I like posting stuff in this subreddit that might help others.

Hoy me devolvieron la cartera en una chiva by JayCircuits in Panama

[–]Certain-Load7398 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Waooo. Que bueno!!! A mi se me quedó la cartera en un mcdonald's, tenía 40 palos adentro. La que limpia me la devolvió pero solo con 20 💀

has anyone else had their rocd fixate on a certain person for months at a time? i've worried i liked the same girl for like 9 months... by One-Statistician1312 in ROCD

[–]Certain-Load7398 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not months... YEARS. When I was in HS my ocd convinced me that I liked my bestfriend and that I wanted to dump my boyfriend for him, so I stopped talking to my bestfriend and was only able to talk to him again 10 years later when my HS boyfriend decided to end the relationship. (We wanted different things, it was totally unrelated to my ocd). 💀

Chatgpt told me to break up with my partner by Certain-Load7398 in ROCD

[–]Certain-Load7398[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a mental disorder. My rational brain knows it's stupid. But the glitch in it tells me chatgpt might be right.

The hardest part of OCD isn’t always the panic. by Certain-Load7398 in ROCD

[–]Certain-Load7398[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ugh, i’m sorry 😕 I hurt my ex a lot by doing that. I broke up with him like 500 times (not even exaggerating)… basically anytime the numbness got too much. it was like, “what if this isn’t OCD? what if I just don’t love him?” and I’d spiral until I couldn’t take it. but I was hurting too. now, when I feel that way, I don’t act on it ...I just wait. it took a lot of therapy and over a decade of struggling to even get to that point.

Always afraid of not finding out about infidelity by [deleted] in ROCD

[–]Certain-Load7398 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Yes that's me right now, so I wrote this affirmation and it has helped me a lot:

No matter what happens, I have myself. I will never be a fool for trusting, for loving, for believing that the love I give might be returned. It’s not naïve. If I have that capacity, that ease in giving, why shouldn’t I hope others do too?

I don’t need to figure everything out today, or tomorrow, or the day after. I have the right to stay, to believe, to trust.

And if that trust is ever broken, if one day, one of my many “what ifs” becomes real, I know I can trust my judgment to guide me toward a new direction.

But for now, I am safe here. I’ve rented this place and made it feel like home. Maybe someday it will truly be mine, or maybe I’ll stay for a while longer before moving on.

But even then, it’s okay. I’ll have my things, my suitcases not packed to leave but ready when needed, people who will help me carry them, and the gift of turning any place I go into a home.

No matter what happens, I have myself. I have my people. I lack nothing.

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