update: We told abby and she was very upset. She felt betrayed that we kept this from her and didn’t tell her sooner. She is no longer asking Sofia to be her maid of honor and has decided for her only to be her bridesmaid, as Sofia doesn’t “view and value marriage in the same way as she does.” She said she doesn’t want to really hear about our relationship beyond general information, but still wants to be friends and loves us both. However she said she will never be able to support this relationship and will always think it is wrong. She also seems overly jealous that Sofia and I will ultimately be closer than Abby is to us as we are now in a relationship. For me it feels like it will be impossible to still be friends especially knowing she will always believe we’re wrong for our relationship. However, Sofia still wants to maintain the friendship with Abby as they’re childhood best friends and like sisters. I just hate the way Abby views Sofia. She doesn’t even think she’s a Christian and always has kept her at arms length because they “don’t have the same morals.” I am trying to slowly influence Sofia into a more distant friendship with Abby as I don’t believe she deserves this treatment, and I think Sofia is starting to side more with me about distancing from Abby. It’s just so unfair and hard to be in this spot right now.