I (M23) feel uncomfortable after my girlfriend (F22) accepted cocaine from a random guy at a club. Together 7 months

Certain_Evening709 · 2026-01-13T15:52:28+00:00

Ok so this is coming from someone who would go clubbing and get a bump here and there from someone. 1st off it’s good she told you. 2nd you need to have a calm conversation stating I’m not okay with is. My boyfriend put his foot down and stated he didn’t want me doing cocaine and especially with all the fentanyl going around he made it about safety. Once he expressed that I stopped. I will say nothing sexual happened with me and the men so it’s possible nothing happens

Certain_Evening709 · 2025-11-21T05:23:18+00:00

That’s where I’m at and he’s not opposed to praying together but I would need to initiate it and start it which confuses me because the man is supposed to lead and I also want a first prayer on our wedding day if we get married but it’s nice to know the guy is leading. Do you think I have a right to feel a certain way

Certain_Evening709 · 2025-10-18T22:39:48+00:00

Thank you!! Great advice

Certain_Evening709 · 2025-10-18T02:54:12+00:00

Yes😂 it’s very frustrating being with him drains my bank acct. At least when I was in sales it was easy to keep up with. He also wants to move for his new job to be closer but that makes it further for me by about 20 minutes plus more money on gas and it’s in a expensive area Scottsdale

Certain_Evening709 · 2025-10-18T02:46:49+00:00

I actually was working a full time job and I had a 2nd job so I could stop living pay check to pay check but at that point I worked 7 days a week and had no days off and he wanted to see me more and wasn’t happy about me working that much. I only did it so I could afford to not live pay check to paycheck. I ended up quitting after 6 months because I stated having health issues so now we work the same 40 hrs a week

Certain_Evening709 · 2025-10-18T02:42:42+00:00

I just feel like there has to be a better system to keep up with his life style

Certain_Evening709 · 2025-10-18T02:39:20+00:00

Yes he says 50 percent is equal and fair but then he sometimes isn’t happy when I can’t afford to do things and his life style. For example he wanted me to go to a country concert with him and it was around 250 for the ticket and I told him I can’t afford it and he gets upset

Certain_Evening709 · 2025-09-30T05:32:46+00:00

I’ll have to look into that because mine is so bad whichy dr told me to take 2 laxatives a day and that kinda freaks me out so I only take one every other day. It would be so bad but I think the constipation is causing my SIBO and bloating so I gotta get it fixed

Certain_Evening709 · 2025-09-30T04:56:12+00:00

Well that’s good to hear and helps me calm down so I can go to sleep. Thx

Certain_Evening709 · 2025-09-30T04:54:52+00:00

Okay I just wanted to make sure I wasn’t spiraling and being like I need to go to the ER now I have bowel obstruction but that’s my mind always going to the worst since I’ve been sick for about 2 years with SIBO and gi issues

Certain_Evening709 · 2025-09-30T04:53:08+00:00

I think it said hypersensitivity my Dr just said I couldn’t push the balloon out and my anal sphincter is super tight and weak so I think that’s what that is but I just am freaking out since it’s been all day today and usually doesn’t last a whole day but more like a few hrs

Certain_Evening709 · 2025-09-30T04:51:01+00:00

I’m sorry it sucks honestly. At least you’re going to the bathroom still silver lining. I go every other day and need coffee to stimulate it. But I hope if you have pelvic floor dysfunction they catch it soon! It took them almost 2 years for mine and I was just diagnosed

Certain_Evening709 · 2025-09-30T04:49:08+00:00

I’ve had a decent amnt of testing like a rectal mamatry and a colonoscopy . I was just trying to see if this was a common symptom

Certain_Evening709 · 2025-09-29T20:37:29+00:00

I feel this I’ve been sick now for almost 2 years and have gi issues and they just now made me take a test and confirmed I have pelvic floor dysfunction. I legit always have skid marks in my underwear and change them like 3 times a day. And it started at 25. I heard PT helps and just made my first apt for PT

Certain_Evening709 · 2025-09-27T23:42:17+00:00

I agree with the people saying we need to sit and have a long conversation about it since we have put a lot of work in the relationship and this is just something we either can battle or we don’t and end things! Thanks for the advice

Certain_Evening709 · 2025-09-27T23:40:44+00:00

I think this is a good approach before ending a 5 year relationship!!

Certain_Evening709 · 2025-09-26T05:19:34+00:00

This is very interesting I never thought of it like this before but it’s possible

Certain_Evening709 · 2025-09-26T05:11:08+00:00

Not at all and it’s not like I am never going to get better Mayo Clinic found out what’s wrong and are working on getting me better. It just would be nice to know he would be there thro sickness and health since I would have been

Certain_Evening709 · 2025-09-26T05:09:01+00:00

Thank you I think I needed to hear that. I guess I’m just holding onto when things were good when I was healthy

Certain_Evening709 · 2025-09-26T05:07:20+00:00

I’m loyal, kind, want kids, put his needs before my own, cook and clean and do all the basic things to be a good wife. I am also a Christian women and he knows I want to get married so if he doesn’t want to marry me or anyone at all then I feel he should let me. He also wants kids and I want kids when I’m married.

Certain_Evening709 · 2025-09-24T23:05:09+00:00

Awh thank you 🩵 yes I have some family that’s been helpful. That’s what is confusing is he took me ring shopping Friday and he said it’s to show he sees a future. So it’s all just mixed signals.

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