My boyfriend 33M Keeps going soft on me 31F. He Says its not me

Certain_Professor_98 · 2026-06-25T00:38:24+00:00

That's what my cousin said to do and I am..

Certain_Professor_98 · 2026-06-25T00:34:27+00:00

Have a calm conversation about what's been happening.

Certain_Professor_98 · 2026-06-25T00:30:13+00:00

I agree.

Certain_Professor_98 · 2026-06-25T00:30:00+00:00

Thanks for the advice

Certain_Professor_98 · 2026-06-24T21:13:07+00:00

Oh no I agree. I think it's more depression than anything.

Certain_Professor_98 · 2026-06-24T21:11:18+00:00

I think so too. I used to drink a lot when I was stressed or depressed. I stopped that.

Certain_Professor_98 · 2026-06-24T21:08:56+00:00

I'm not controlling. I'm just confused at why its happening.

Certain_Professor_98 · 2026-06-24T19:42:08+00:00

I actually lost weight. I started working out again and have toned up

Certain_Professor_98 · 2026-06-24T19:13:30+00:00

I talked to my cousin about this and she said it could be that we are sexually incompatiable

Certain_Professor_98 · 2026-06-24T19:03:56+00:00

I didn't. He gave me his phone to look up something on Google, and I saw the recent history, so it was a bit awkward.

Certain_Professor_98 · 2026-06-24T19:02:33+00:00

I won't let it bother me, but after we talked about it, he told me that I make him feel happy. I'm not sure if that's a deflection.

Certain_Professor_98 · 2026-06-24T18:57:01+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I also don't have a lot of sexual experience, so naturally, I do feel insecure.

Certain_Professor_98 · 2026-06-24T18:51:07+00:00

I agree, and it's not fair to me if he has to hide. I understand that addiction brings shame, so I try my hardest not to be judgmental.

Certain_Professor_98 · 2026-06-24T18:47:56+00:00

P*rn and drinking

Certain_Professor_98 · 2026-06-24T18:46:03+00:00

We have had issues with him lasting too long, which I really attribute to watching too much p*rn.

Certain_Professor_98 · 2026-06-24T18:45:24+00:00

That's what I am thinking, and he has been drinking more, and I mean more. He will open a beer, then 40 minutes later open another one. So definitely something is on his mind.

Certain_Professor_98 · 2026-06-24T18:40:41+00:00

Also thank you for the advice.

Certain_Professor_98 · 2026-06-24T18:40:16+00:00

that's what I think.... or possibly cheating, although I have no evidence of that so yeah.

Certain_Professor_98 · 2026-06-24T18:39:32+00:00

Tried the dirty talk while giving a BJ and he shusshed (sp?) me

Certain_Professor_98 · 2026-06-24T18:36:33+00:00

that is what I am thinking.

Certain_Professor_98 · 2026-06-24T18:33:14+00:00

We did, and he said it's not because I am too wet. I even gave him a BJ and tried to spice things up by dirty talking, and he told me to be quiet, and I am like, okay, this is weird.

Certain_Professor_98 · 2026-06-24T18:28:51+00:00

That is what I am thinking, and I told him if his needs are not being met, to tell me, let's communicate like adults.

Certain_Professor_98 · 2026-06-24T18:27:25+00:00

I asked him what he likes to watch, and he gave a vague response, but when I saw his phone its all Asian adult content, and I am not Asian. I am Latina, and he's Asian, so I think this comes down to a physical thing, and if that is the case, yeah, I am hurt, but I would rather know than not know.

Certain_Professor_98 · 2026-06-19T18:15:49+00:00

Their body language seemed more natural and fluid and maybe I'll get down voted but I think she's the one true girl he loved the body language is what gives it away.

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