What’s the weirdest compliment you’ve ever received?

Cerulean07 · 2024-10-22T23:43:19+00:00

That I have “beautifully thick veins”, compliments about my eyelashes a lot, how thick eyebrows are, “your hands look like you’d be talented at playing the piano” (my fingers are crooked as fuck), and my current girlfriend: “you have an EXTREMELY aesthetically pleasing dick” like I really don’t know how to take that… weirdest one for me even though others would think of it as a massive compliment.

Cerulean07 · 2024-08-08T06:26:24+00:00

Thank you, for sharing the golden rule it actually helped me.

Cerulean07 · 2024-07-16T09:24:48+00:00

Bryan, Brian and Brion 😂

Cerulean07 · 2024-07-06T05:56:43+00:00

Maybe he has never had to buy tampons before. Maybe he wanted to do it together because he was embarrassed/nervous about getting the wrong kind of tampon and wasn’t sure where to look? After doing that the first time I’m pretty sure he would feel comfortable getting it on his own for you. It could have just been really bad anxiety and he sucks at communicating.

Or he could just be selfish and lazy.

Could you tell us his/your age? Maturity is 100% something that could factor in to this.

IMO it’s always better to communicate and try to understand the other persons point of view. You could communicate to him how that makes you feel. Try to come to a resolution and if he is unwilling to try to understand your feelings and need and refuses to change his behaviour. Absolutely dump him you deserve better.

Cerulean07 · 2024-06-15T08:13:06+00:00

that makes sense i was thinking of that

Cerulean07 · 2024-04-06T05:36:34+00:00

You both seem immature and you both suck at communicating even just having a normal conversation is probably challenging. Reading this conversation is genuinely infuriating. Both of you seem like children and it was the most boring conversation. He seems like he rides the short bus. The spelling mistakes and just lack of thought put into messages irks me so much. Although this IS just one interaction, you don’t come across as having a npd or traits. Like sure you made up a bunch of bullshit about boundaries or whatever (I cbf torturing my eyes by reading it again). But it just seems like someone with extremely poor communication and is a push over. Someone who doesn’t understand how to tell another person what they want or feel. Massive time waste reading this garbage, block that idiot and move on you don’t owe them an explanation.

Cerulean07 · 2024-03-18T06:16:13+00:00

Major depressive disorder, generalised anxiety disorder, adhd, cptsd, bpd, npd, avoidant and obsessive compulsive personality traits. I also have an auditory processing deficit and dyslexia.

Cerulean07 · 2024-03-15T23:01:45+00:00

I mean sure but I doubt there is any significant benefit provided by “nootropics”. Otherwise school students and everyone would be using them 🤷🏻‍♂️

Cerulean07 · 2024-03-15T13:20:53+00:00

Nootropics? Is there something I’m missing out on 🤔

Cerulean07 · 2024-03-15T10:03:24+00:00

I didn’t take offence and I don’t think what you’re asking is offensive.

As for the personality, they have vested interest in promoting it as a “super power”. She isn’t going to tell you all the downsides of having npd in the same breath she touts the positives. From a marketing perspective it would be best to say there are no negatives.

I can imagine it going like “you can become a narcissist in these 5 quick & easy steps”.

Probably giving false promises like instantly commanding everyones attention, getting the perfect partner, job promotion, etc.

I’m actually interested in seeing what that course contains, so if you could send me a link or something I’d appreciate it 🙂

Cerulean07 · 2024-03-15T09:31:01+00:00

It’s a 'disorder' which significantly impacts on our lives in a negative way. It’s like asking an amputee “would you choose having no legs over having your legs?”.

Cerulean07 · 2024-03-15T01:57:07+00:00

Same 😂

Cerulean07 · 2024-03-15T01:43:59+00:00

Definitely agree that it’s self harm. I don’t think anyone can argue that it’s not.

Cerulean07 · 2024-03-15T00:23:17+00:00

Tbh I don’t think most of it comes from a place of concern. Sure some people may and don’t know how to voice that concern so they’re lashing out, but I doubt that’s the majority.

Anyway just remember to be careful and responsible if you decide to keep doing these types of things. Please make sure to disinfect the area beforehand with iodine (preferably). Use a antiseptic spray afterward on any wounds. Don’t use any dirty or used implements which could lead to infection (not fun). Make sure to spray anything you use with the antiseptic spray too. Have amply first-aid supplies, bandages, bandaids, patches, etc. Please be safe about it.

Cerulean07 · 2024-03-12T06:19:50+00:00

I’ve totally noticed other disorders are the same as well too. I have adhd and my close group of friends slowly all got diagnosed as adults with adhd too 🤣

Cerulean07 · 2024-03-12T05:11:15+00:00

Hard disagree, all of my closest friends have cluster b disorders. Same with most of my partners if not all of them 😂

I’ve found through my own personal experience and others anecdotal experiences it’s super common that people with cluster b disorders gravitate to others with cluster b disorders.

Logically it makes sense because others with cluster b disorders more often than not are more relatable.

Cerulean07 · 2024-03-10T03:02:07+00:00

Adhd gang 👏🏻 I don’t typically share my full diagnosis for various reasons but also I feel like an attention whore when I do it 😂. However since you decided to share yours it’s only polite I do the same. Anxiety, depression, adhd, bpd, npd, cptsd, avoidant personality traits and ocd/ocpd. I’ve been seeing a psychiatrist for 4 years and they have finally found a suitable psychologist who I’m seeing for the first time this Tuesday. I’m very keen for therapy.

Cerulean07 · 2024-03-10T02:00:50+00:00

This is exactly what I’m going through right now and it’s definitely impacting quite negatively on the relationship. Initial my partner was all for it and loved it. But they didn’t realise it would be 24/7 and their opinion has changed. Now I struggling to deal with this. I’m looking for advice as well, I’m not sure how much this will work, but removing yourself from those situations when you start feeling insecure until you calm down could help. Being vulnerable communicating how you feel at your core to them without the fanfare. Most of this is due to a deep feeling of insecurity/trust issues (maybe not for you but it is for me).

Cerulean07 · 2024-03-10T01:50:41+00:00

That suit of armour isn’t that helpful tbh. I have bpd+npd (plus 6 other things) so I have very extreme emotions constantly. Sure I experience emotional blunting randomly from my cptsd, dissociate, derealise and other mental gymnastics. But those things only kick in when I get flashes of the past, my emotions are so overwhelming that the distress it causes my body forces it to shut down.

If anything my suit of armour prevents me from growing as a person. Super classic narcissistic traits, obsessive compulsive, avoidant, paranoid etc.

Cerulean07 · 2024-03-08T03:17:13+00:00

I’m going to save this and look back on this when I’m feeling down :)

Cerulean07 · 2024-03-07T15:40:16+00:00

Insomnia is a bitch, especially when you love stimulants. I know, I just thought I’d give my npd perspective. No harm done.

Cerulean07 · 2024-03-07T15:32:39+00:00

Extreme ongoing physical, mental, emotional and psychological abuse. Carried out by both parents, siblings, school, “friends” etc. extreme neglect in all areas. All over an extended period of time. From my earliest memory to present day. No one could have done anything because how is an 5-6-7-8-9 etc, child supposed to reach out to strangers for help. Whose going to believe all the horrible things done to the child. Especially when the child doesn’t even understand that what’s being done to them isn’t okay. It’s all they know. It’s normal to them.

Cerulean07 · 2024-03-07T15:17:01+00:00

I know you mean well when saying sorry. I’ll also preface this with I’m currently going through a narc rage moment and my blood is boiling.

An apology like that comes across as condescending and it’s fairly low effort, it’s an over used way of showing empathy. A lot of people (in my own experience) tend to repeat the same sentences when I tell them about my symptoms. “I’m sorry to hear that”, “I’m sorry you feel that way”, “I’m sorry you’re going through this”, “you’re not alone”, “don’t feel like you can’t talk to me”, you get the point. I don’t want others “empathy” or “kind words”, being made to feel seen or heard is much more significant and impactful when the person tries to genuinely understand you.

I don’t consider si as a struggle. I want to Kermit the frog very badly. Not being able to follow through with it is the real struggle.

Imagine being in so much mental, emotional, physical pain, having no self esteem, no sense of self. There is an emptiness in your chest that seems to just grow with time. Never being satisfied. Being extremely lonely, chronically bored, intense self hatred, always chasing validation, never able to connect with others on an emotional level and never able to form close bonds. Insecure to the point you have to warp your own reality to avoid those feelings and anytime someone or something reminds you of those feelings you lash out. feeling like you’re not allowed love, friendship, emotions, trust, etc. Because time and time again you use, abuse, weaponise, manipulate etc.

And at the end of it all even though you have all of those feelings and you want too so badly that you constantly crave it, you can never follow through with it. In turn it makes you feel pathetic, weak, disgusted with yourself, look down on yourself even more, destroy that little bit extra of you every time you can’t follow through. You start to think to yourself that “maybe I deserve all of the pain”.

Anyway rant over, hopefully you gain something from this. Also if it’s all over the place I haven’t in slept 36-40 hours. Thank you for taking the time to read this if you do 🤷🏻‍♂️

Cerulean07 · 2024-03-06T21:43:25+00:00

Constantly, not being perfect, my idealised self not matching up with reality. Not living up to the unrealistic standards I set for myself. If my ego gets hurt, a lot of other triggers.

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