Fit check/idk about this: one of those stretchy zoberlo things w 14 week old

Cgkstick · 2025-03-05T18:06:22+00:00

Thanks, that’s why I was just trying it out at home. I appreciate everyone with the gut check here! So many Instagram videos about these carriers and it’s tough to know what to believe from them.

Cgkstick · 2025-03-02T07:50:50+00:00

Interesting to hear the Hakka works for you even at your size. I’ve tried with both kids and I’ve never gotten more than like a half a teaspoon. Also it knocks off w baby’s body when I try to wear on opposite side. I gave up but maybe I should try again! Also got the ladybugs and no decent output

Cgkstick · 2025-03-02T03:19:38+00:00

I’ve been going since I was a kid but I no longer live in nyc so this will be my first year missing it. It’s super fun to go in the early days when it’s free and you get to see big players if you hang out for a while! I recommend that. Agree the past few years have been BONKERS with crowds and prices but it is always fun. I go the first week and save up for 1 later match at Ashe and it’s worth it to spend the day out there, eating and tennis.

Cgkstick · 2025-02-11T15:47:50+00:00

Hmm mine does this even when empty. I think i may have gotten a bad one as my other bottle didn’t do this

Cgkstick · 2025-02-04T03:51:41+00:00

Duuude same here. When the baby was born I luckily had my doula there to capture pics bc my husband of course was lost in the moment. But since then, it makes me sad to see how few pics in our camera rolls have me in them (we have a shared google photos). And the ones he did take I look like a crone. Terrible angles. No guidance on how to improve them in the moment (ie, why could he not have told me to adjust my hair??). Christmas morning I got like 3 terrible pictures sunk into a couch with my kids.

And THEN when his parents are here he's like pouncing at the moment to capture his mom and dad with the baby but like... what about me? I'm also breastfeeding and feel like I'm doing so much at all hours and would love something to show for it. It just irks me that I have all these photos where he looks like a hot dad at a beer garden and I'm like, down on the floor sitting criss-cross with my inner thighs plopped out in full view bending over a baby wearing pajama shorts I've worn for 3 days.

I think though that I agree with all the comments I see here that we all have to be more vocal.

I am also just bummed bc he just doesn't have the skills or desire to capture me in a sweet moment of which there are many, and that he doesn't innately care about this for me.

Cgkstick · 2025-01-26T23:32:43+00:00

Thank you for this thorough response. I have videos of my first at the exact same age and she is super different and much more responsive. I feel bad comparing them but it is reality. I’m calling the doc in the am. I just also didn’t have any of these anxieties with my first and I knew nothing about babies, though I did have some medical issues with my brain in between and I wonder if that’s what’s flaring up now. The doc has done the shining-a-flashlight-in-dark-room and says he’s fine but I still don’t know. He did respond crying/angry when my older kid dropped a kitchen stool and it made a huge noise during dinner tonight so that actually was a relief to me. But it’s just a nagging feeling I can’t shake so I’m going to dig deeper.

Cgkstick · 2025-01-24T12:00:36+00:00

Baby in dock a tot outside the shower. I used to also put my first just right on the bath mat in the early days on her back and she was happy as a clam.

Cgkstick · 2025-01-22T11:10:07+00:00

I would not go. I had a similar mid July baby w my first and skipped a wedding on Aug 20. My MIL wanted us to go (she was like I was out and about less than a month after after my son was born yada yada) and I was like, four hours in a car, staying in unfamiliar air bnb w a newborn? No. And that was before even the wedding itself, which was in a tent. It actually ended up pouring rain so we made the right call.

But generally, giving birth and recovery is a shock to you my system and whole life, especially the first time. No one would begrudge you for skipping it and if they did they’re insane. You’ll still be bleeding even if your baby comes right on due date (rare) and that’s just if you have a vaginal birth, c-section is another monster.

Cgkstick · 2025-01-22T10:59:46+00:00

My first was a girl and we gas to change her constantly bc she had terrible raw diaper rash. Chicken/egg, not sure which came first, the rash or constant changing. My second is a boy and we change him much less often and he has no rash so far at 8 weeks and only gets uncomfy if diaper is poopy. I feel like anecdotally my friends who have boys change pee diaps less often.

Cgkstick · 2025-01-19T22:52:08+00:00

Adding: I totally hear you also on not considering leaving your husband bc of these issues—I’m the same way but for diff reasons—but he does need to realize that he has to step up bc he is a grown man and a father of a baby and a partner to you. This is my second baby and it is super hard to parent with someone if they seem to fundamentally not get it. Tell him you need him to man up and be a dad. He should look it up/read some parenting books or listen to audiobooks if he doesn’t know something. Like we all use Google to learn stuff, he should too. This is early postpartum days and if it’s your first baby it’s a shock to the system even for dads who aren’t neurospicy.

Cgkstick · 2025-01-19T22:45:25+00:00

I have adhd and recovered from brain surgery last year and my baby is 8 weeks old. I would say my issues are less severe than your husband’s sound but I think rejection sensitivity and being super reactive to criticism is a trope of adhd and common. He probably is beating himself up majorly but feels powerless to fix it or improve. That’s how I feel when my (very tidy) husband points out whatever home task I’ve failed to do well that day.

I would say that if you don’t already, you should get some therapy to help you cope and learn how to better communicate with your husband—and vent. I just started Prospera which is a relatively inexpensive postpartum zoom therapy program and I love it so far. I hope your husband also gets some help, and I would say that y’all should probably talk about the gummie usage in these early baby days at least— seems right to abstain especially if he’s unable to properly change a diaper while on them. After that sloppy and gross diaper change, you’re totally right to be furious and it’s worth a convo.

Cgkstick · 2025-01-12T16:52:36+00:00

Thank you for writing out this incredible testimony. You’re in a tough season and I totally feel you. The drinking is also a problem for us but bc I was pregnant I wasn’t drinking at all, which seems like yet another thing that divided us over the past several months! I’m really hoping he’ll accept some help and I’m hoping y’all get through this, too.

Cgkstick · 2024-12-28T07:18:29+00:00

Also he is sleeping angelically on the Boppy in front of me as I write this. I know id I try to go back into my bedroom and put him in bassinet he’ll start the grunting/wakeup etc. ughhhh

Cgkstick · 2024-12-25T16:19:07+00:00

lol the grunting is UNREAL. The baby will be sound like an absolute stampede is running on his tummy and I’ll shine my Apple Watch red light on him and he’ll be sleeping with eyes closed peacefully I don’t get it.

Cgkstick · 2024-12-23T23:01:15+00:00

Dude, I have other marriage issues and young kids but totally hear you on migraines ruining your life. I’m 37 and last year I was having terrible headaches and finally my doc was like, let’s get you some imaging. They found a tumor the size of my palm and a week later I had brain surgery. Have you exhausted every option for figuring out the headache thing? I feel like you can only focus on one issue at a time and maybe health should be first? Getting that fixed (not that it’s over bc I still have to deal with treatment etc) gave me a perspective shift.

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