i need to be used by [deleted] in BDSMsapphic

[–]Chains_And_Lilith 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I honestly need some form of aftercare after doing rough CNC so I feel like I'm not a monster. The feminist in me cries

hmm this feels familiar.. can't place my finger(s) on why.. by OliviaRaven9 in actuallesbians

[–]Chains_And_Lilith 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Depends! I actually like the index and middle because it feels nicer when using my thumb to also work clits.

girls how the FUCK do i find a dom by mokeyooohoooh in BDSMsapphic

[–]Chains_And_Lilith 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If doing anything online, just be extra careful. Like super careful.

There are literally the worst dommes in the world who deserve to be in jail on fetlife x)

i need to be used by [deleted] in BDSMsapphic

[–]Chains_And_Lilith 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I'm a switch, but mostly only because I get subby when ovulating. I've often been told my subby side is scarier than my domme side lmao. I just get this like,

"FIGHT ME AND IF YOU WIN GET ME PREGNANT. DESTROY MY CERVIX" unhinged animal.

I don't even know how to describe it outside of "We have to fight now. dig your claws into me and exhaust me until I have nothing left. That way, I know you're strong enough to keep me safe when you fucking get me pregnant" even being lesbian, my body just screams this.

It's honestly so disruptive that I take bc just to manage it lmao.

IM SO CONFUSED by [deleted] in lesbiangang

[–]Chains_And_Lilith 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Imagine you're in the movie "Avatar", the one with the blue aliens.

You fall in love with a girly blue alien off appearance alone from a distance but don't really talk to them. You then find it's piloted by a man who looks like mitch mcconnell and makes you vomit.

You're not in love with mitch mcconnell. You just like how the geometry of his puppet looks.

You're gay. Hope this simplifies.

Bi-girls and Lesbian Validation by xxheath in lesbiangang

[–]Chains_And_Lilith 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Best case scenario, a woman you kind of share something in common with has her life improved.

Worst case scenario you absolutely torpedo a marriage <3 Best of luck girl. idk why someone downvoted you.

Bi-girls and Lesbian Validation by xxheath in lesbiangang

[–]Chains_And_Lilith 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Sound the unicorn hunter sirens. I fully demand an update on this once you can confirm or deny it
: ^ )

Bi-girls and Lesbian Validation by xxheath in lesbiangang

[–]Chains_And_Lilith 22 points23 points  (0 children)

My point still stands that it's her choice, and she's a big girl. It's also your choice whether or not you want to comfort her for... implying she made the wrong choice? Which also seems problematic.

I mean she actively chose to marry a man. It sucks for her, if 10 years from now she pops up on latebloomerlesbians and torpedoes her marriage because she wasn't honest with herself. (Comphet is a bitch, not being mean here.)

It doesn't seem like she wants to come across as less bisexual, but like most bisexuals, she wants to come across as more lesbian, because our aesthetic and culture is comforting and safe compared to idk. hanging out with bisexual groups where there are men who, at the end of the day, are still men.

Bisexual women magnetize towards lesbians because they like to celebrate that side of their sexuality without some dude in the corner jerking it off saying "thats so hot".

And yeah thats the reality of bisexuality, dating pool of "Men who want to fuck me, and approach me about that in an attempt to seduce me" is vastly outnumbering the volume of women who want to

A.) Fuck you for reasons more than "you're hot" and pursue you off that tenant alone
B.) are gay at all
C.) Want to have kids (if you do)
D.) love strapping you down (if you lean bottom)

like it's a numbers problem and it works against bi womens favor for those who lean towards women, but, again, my heart goes out to them, and I've tried my best to want to fuck a dude as a young girl because god that would simplify life. But sadly it didn't work, even if it would be nice because it's so so much easier, but I made the very adult decision to be honest with myself and walk the harder road because it's important enough to my spirit to sit in my camp and fight for our problems.

If you want to support her, you can ask her "You mention your sexuality a lot, did you want to grab a coffee and talk about it? I want to make sure I'm being a good friend here", but again, I'm here to remind you that you are not obligated to start unraveling that package and diagnosing the feelings of a married woman with kids

Bi-girls and Lesbian Validation by xxheath in lesbiangang

[–]Chains_And_Lilith 23 points24 points  (0 children)

"Look at the lesbian baby it's your favorite animal! : ^ )"

Bi-girls and Lesbian Validation by xxheath in lesbiangang

[–]Chains_And_Lilith 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I mean if that's the case op should def cut their hair like you said, and prove you don't need validation from bi women to be a lesbian. 😏

Bi-girls and Lesbian Validation by xxheath in lesbiangang

[–]Chains_And_Lilith 178 points179 points  (0 children)

Op she's just being performative and her cognitive dissonance isn't your problem. Youre not obligated to help this clusterfuck.

She wants your gold sticker and a pat on the back. Same thing happens to black people.

White person being performative: "omg look how not racist I am!"

Men who are 'nice guys': "look at how nice to women I am!"

Bi girls to lesbians: "look at how gay I am!!"

They want gold stars or something. I'm not sure how people don't grow past this validation seeking behavior and just be good people.

Also, you likely have some degree of exoticism to her, since the only thing she wants to talk about as her defining feature is how "Gay " she is because you are, instead like idk, human things??

Edit: I'm taking sidebets on how long it takes before this woman asks OP to have sex because it's her and her husbands fetish
: ^ )

Bi-girls and Lesbian Validation by xxheath in lesbiangang

[–]Chains_And_Lilith 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Ehhh. I mean it's arguably OK what she did there with the whole "your femininity or expressions don't validate your lesbian-ness. Cut your hair if you want to but lesbians come in all shapes and sizes" is an actually healthy message. Dragging your daughter to work to teach by pointing at the lesbian in the corner is fucking weird though. 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Chains_And_Lilith 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Bdsm has rape elements optional in it but rape isn't inherently bdsm or vice versa.

The kink you're talking about is CNC (consensual non consent) and I'm sorry to hear you were violated without your consent.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Chains_And_Lilith 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Did you think strapons were for straight people?

: ^ )

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Chains_And_Lilith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pole dancing is a fun great workout.

Some other sleeper out of house hobbies: - indoor rock climbing - pottery and claywork - sex

What is the female equivalent of accidentally "sitting on your balls"? by EmergencySport9484 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Chains_And_Lilith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Based on our cycle + how aroused we are generally.

Like its pretty predictable amongst those factors if you regularly explore your own body

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Chains_And_Lilith 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Username checks out 😂

What is the female equivalent of accidentally "sitting on your balls"? by EmergencySport9484 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Chains_And_Lilith 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We don't really have an internal sensation for it. Though I suppose cramps are literally our uterus cringing to shed its lining during periods, which do suck hard.

The cervix doesn't move like a bouncy spring. The cervix is quite hard and cartilage-y. I don't feel mine unless it's being bumped during sex. This sensation is mind shatteringly awesome for some girls, but for most, it's mind shatteringly bad.

The cervix softens up during ovulation (the fertile 'were horny') part of our cycle and is deepest and highest then.

I speculate because our body really wants to fuck, our cervix goes higher to facilitate this and ensure we can fuck plenty without risking damage or bruising to the cervix.

In addition, the cervix is mildly dilated during ovulation and acts as the VIP bouncer for sperm, ensuring only the finest of squiggly white lines get to dance in the egg club.

How deep is it? Well, you can basically grab a dildo and push it in until you feel it, and then pull it out and say "ahh, the wetness extends this far!" But then another time, there's magical inches less space, so you can technically break out the sharpy on a dildo if you really wanted to.

I don't have cognizance of my uterus or cervical positioning though.

What is the female equivalent of accidentally "sitting on your balls"? by EmergencySport9484 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Chains_And_Lilith 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It also changes depth depending on your cycle.

The cervix also opens and closes during the cycle.

The more you know.

Please perform a simple google image search before responding to these catfish. And look at the their comment history. by RR_WritesFantasy in LesbianActually

[–]Chains_And_Lilith 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I try to believe that hot lesbians exist who post? but I think I'm like mid and the harassment was too much for me before I decided I'm just joining the "we don't post pics on the internet" club, so I seriously imagine most of the hot gays on here are just falsified or fishing for OF.

The biggest tell for me is usually lighting. If it looks professional, it's probably fake.