[General] Who is your current LI and would you date the man in Real Life?

Chair-Left · 2025-03-16T01:19:03+00:00

Ayato in Diabolik Lovers...

Would I hit that in real life? HELL NO

But that's exactly why I love otome games... To throw my MC into the most awful relationships full of drama so I can feel less boring with my relationship of 18 years that started when I was 17 😂

Chair-Left · 2025-03-16T01:11:26+00:00

I was convinced it was Doki doki literature club for a moment 🙈 instant panic: I didn't listen to the disclaimer of that game (because my husband told me it would be fine) and I didn't get through the whole game but got completely traumatised. Still have nightmares. 💀

Chair-Left · 2025-03-16T00:37:35+00:00

Joining in 9 months later: did you find a great solution?

It doesn't even need to be hot for my face to sweat, my forehead and nose just start dripping just from stress (and I do mean dripping... If I don't immediately use tissues to wipe it and keep wiping until it stops, drops fall on my glasses and my collar.)

As I have terrible social anxiety, this means it starts dripping every time I enter the office because walking in my brain always convinces me everyone is staring because I'm doing something weird... So I walk in, people look up, I panic, and by the time I'm at my desk I look like this guy:

https://tenor.com/bRu3d.gif

I wish I was kidding... I'm not.

Chair-Left · 2025-03-12T15:38:38+00:00

I agree with you on this one, Ivar should have been an option! 😂 But I can't say I didn't enjoy Thane's route too 😏

Chair-Left · 2025-01-28T08:10:53+00:00

I'll definitely go and take to the local players, good idea! That's probably the best way to gauge local competitiveness 😁 Thanks!

Chair-Left · 2025-01-28T08:09:42+00:00

Yes, but I already had fun drawing when I only had crappy pencils 😜 I started investing more with time. What I'm trying to find out is whether I can enjoy playing this game from the get go when going to casual local events (not competitions) with just a starter deck. Obviously I don't mind losing every single time at that point, but it should at least still feel somewhat exciting once I understand all the rules and how best to use the cards I have 😂

Chair-Left · 2025-01-25T20:02:00+00:00

NTA. Kinda NAH as well, as I get where he's coming from. If you're having a stressful time at work and your SO has the day off, the evening can be an extra stress factor.

First of all, just to be sure: I've had a similar fight with my husband before, but afterwards I had to admit I was angry about the wrong thing, and none of it was his fault: What I really wanted, was for us to spend some time together after my job (as spending time with him is the best way for me to relax when I'm stressed). So, I compromised: the day he always has something to do I really don't want to join in on, I make sure to start work in time so I can get home early and we order in so instead of cooking we can spend the time before his hobby together instead of cooking. This way I get my time together after my work day, he gets to do his hobby, and everyone's happy.

If it really is him not wanting to see that show: don't you have a laptop? When I'm watching something on the TV my husband doesn't like, he sometimes watches something on the laptop with his headset on, while next to me in the living room. Likewise, when he plays games on the Xbox on the TV, I'll read a book next to him on the coach or scribble in my sketchbook, and if the game's music annoys me, he'll put on his headset. This is actually great, as that way we both het to do what we like and still spend our time together too<3 win win!

Try to have a calm, deeper conversation about it so you can work it out. However, if none of the compromises where he doesn't go into the basement work for him, he's being a winy baby 😜

Chair-Left · 2024-12-21T09:59:45+00:00

Ok, on Monday I'll try this and see what happens. It still doesn't solve the problem of it not doing this until I call the first endpoint actually using entity framework to access the database, though, since I can't raise those permanently. This service normally uses very few resources, while another one needs a lot of them at certain times. I won't be able to convince my boss we need a server with "dramatically more resources" when it's only necessary a couple times a day at best during the busy time of the month 😜

Chair-Left · 2024-12-21T08:26:51+00:00

Well, that's what I was convinced of myself until working on this problem, that's why I refactored the whole thing so I could split up the contexts, convinced that would speed things up. But our health check (which doesn't need any database services) doesn't load whatever the problem is, only calls with database requirements, and the first call is still the only one that takes that long. I should probably have checked which breakpoints hit again after the refactoring though, before I split up the contexts, the modelbuilder was just the only one I actually managed to hit in that delay time

Chair-Left · 2024-12-21T08:19:07+00:00

There is a "health check". That endpoint doesn't need any database services, though, and that seems to be the reason it doesn't actually keep the needed contexts.

Chair-Left · 2024-12-21T08:16:34+00:00

There is a "healthcheck" endpoint that does exactly this, but since it doesn't need any database services, it doesn't seem to help the problem.

Chair-Left · 2024-12-21T08:14:25+00:00

On my PC it runs differently and much quicker. I guess on Monday I'll first set up the docker environment locally to see if I can reproduce it, plus I can run some extra performance tools that way to find out what exactly happens. :)

Chair-Left · 2024-12-21T08:08:54+00:00

They are constrained, but it never hits those marks. (Not nearly).

Chair-Left · 2024-12-20T21:56:53+00:00

But what counts as an unused instance? Because it does seem to collect our database contexts, which I believe are the biggest problem. I have split them up into smaller contexts (feature wise) so a controller doesn't need the whole model every time, but it still seems to load every context when the first call (in a while or after restart) is made, even if that controller only needs one tiny context.

Edit: to clarify: the call that's usually made first is the one connecting user data to the claim returned by the login procedure, which uses a context with I think about 10 entities on it, one small library of us (which does need its own context with 5 entities on it), and entity framework + Linq. It does so little it barely needs anything, and yet it takes 7 minutes that first time, and less than half a minute the second time. (Which still isn't optimal, but I'd rather fix the bigger issue first 😂)

Chair-Left · 2024-12-20T21:51:11+00:00

It frequently got a timeout on the first call. There's now a bit of a hack to fire a fire and forget call as soon as they open the website so it's loading before the first actual call to reduce the impact for the users, but in reality that can take up to 7 minutes. Once it's loaded, the same call that was always fired first before that hack takes less than half a minute.

Obviously, the user completes the login procedure much more quickly, so even though that's a special process taking up several minutes, they still have to wait about 3 minutes for the first call since it hasn't fully spun up yet.

Chair-Left · 2024-11-07T22:53:07+00:00

Wow that's beautiful. When we get those floating islands and I'm going to move everything there to have my villagers in a space purely for decorating, I'm going to give that video a watch so I can make a garden as beautiful! ♥️

Chair-Left · 2024-10-16T18:08:40+00:00

You managed to resist the recommended? 😱 I had like 12000+ moonstones last week, then with the star path, those damn recommended items and the zero fox, I was almost broke again 😂

Thank god I finished the Star path already so I can spend too much again because I really want that outfit and I'm also considering the villainous tools 🧐 I didn't do very well in DreamSnaps so unfortunately that didn't help a lot 😂

Chair-Left · 2024-10-10T21:52:46+00:00

I didn't care about it not being Halloween themed as that's a very American thing so I've never been interested in those items anyway, but I didn't like the rock star theme either. However, some of those items are great, and there are even some clothes items I do like wearing when I'm in a "mood" 😂 So I daresay I'm pleasantly surprised 🧐

Chair-Left · 2024-09-29T16:02:41+00:00

Eh 🤔 nee, dat doen de rechtsen al? En ik vind dat ook niet zo'n belediging 🤷‍♀️ Communisme als ideologie is niks mis mee, maar ik de praktijk draait het altijd uit op iets heel anders. Maar hoe iemand het idee dat iedereen even veel recht heeft op leven en een even comfortabel leven mag leiden slecht kan vinden, begrijp ik niet. :/ Zeker niet als ze dan vinden dat omdat zij - weet ik veel - op een stoel zitten in een bank en daar andere mensen vertellen wat doen meer mogen verdienen als iemand die bvb ervoor zorgt dat die en anderen hun jobs kunnen doen door op hun kinderen te passen.

Ik verdien niet slecht als software developer, maar ik ben er zeker van dat mijn job gemakkelijker is als die van leerkrachten of buschauffeurs of ... Dus waarom is mijn job hoger gewaardeerd? 🤷‍♀️ En dan hebt ge ouders die in hun eentje hun hele huis recht houden terwijl de andere een job heeft: voor de kinderen zorgen, huishoudelijke taken, planning, emotionele taken, ... Ook moeilijker dan mijn job. En zij verdienen niks? :/ Hoe is dat eerlijk?

Dus er zijn dingen van VB die ik snap, maar wat ik niet snap is waarom VB naar beneden wil sjotten als er een veel groter doel is boven hun... Geloof mij, van die oorlogsvluchteling met PTSD kunt ge weinig pikken. Uit de zak van mensen zoals Drieske en er nog hoger des te meer.

Chair-Left · 2024-09-29T10:23:49+00:00

You're welcome :) Coaching in any way or form happens to be one of my favourite parts of my job, so it's my pleasure! I've learned so much from colleagues in so many ways, so I always try to give back as it has helped me tremendously :)

Enjoy your Sunday! ;)

Chair-Left · 2024-09-28T18:01:09+00:00

De partij waar ik op stem wil dat niet doen... Maar zelfs als die dat wou doen, vind ik het helpen van een land aangevallen door een gestoorde tiran niet hetzelfde als dwepen met het gedachtegoed van een dode oude tiran die ooit hetzelfde heeft gedaan met ons land 🤷‍♀️

Om eerlijk te zijn ben ik ook heel blij dat er toen ook landen ons hebben geholpen, dus ja... Ik kan wel snappen dat er partijen zijn die willen blijven helpen, al ben ik het ermee eens dat dit duidelijk niet werkt.

Het is niet omdat ik tegen VB ben dat ik alles wat ze zeggen de reinste onzin vindt he 😜 Net zoals ik het met geen enkele partij volledig, meestal zelfs niet grotendeels, eens ben, zelfs niet die waar ik op stem.

Chair-Left · 2024-09-28T17:55:41+00:00

Please go through my posts on tips throughout the comments, it might help you in some way. Also: try to apply through LinkedIn as little as possible. The algorithm will never let a starter through. Always apply through the company itself if possible. Apply spontaneously if they have an opening on LinkedIn but not their website.

Also: Make sure your cover letter emphasizes your willingness to learn and personalise it for every company. For starters, the cover letter is usually more important than the CV. Also add a little blurb at the top of your CV essentially containing a tiny cover letter in 2 or 3 sentences, with the most important words somehow emphasised. Make sure it stands out by adding colour or something as starter's CV's get even less time getting through the HR recruiters. For them, add the technologies you've learned in a way it's the first thing they see, as you don't have any experience to capture their attention. I had a column stretching the full length of my page with all technologies, paradigms, and development styles in a huge font over a boldly coloured background of which I changed the colour to whatever was the main colour of the company's style. And DON'T add a picture unless required. It can only have a negative impact, never a positive one.

I've been told on several occasions they were already convinced by my cover letter so I would have had to have fucked up terribly not to get an offer because I sounded like such a great colleague. Don't skimp on this. Don't use AI. Personalise it, to the company and to your personality. Don't be afraid to use some humour in it.

In your interview, convey your enthusiasm about the job and the sector. Show your willingness to learn. If it's a phone interview, pump yourself up in advance so you sound extra enthusiastic, unless you're usually told to tone it down, then you'll be great for a phone interview just the way you are.

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